Should I let an ex-husband back into my life after he cheated on me..??

RUN!!! He has made his choice move on with your life and try to forget about him. If you let him back in he will only hurt you again.

run away!!! seriously, he cheated on you once and i'm sure eventually, he will find a reason to do it again. for whatever reason, you two just weren't meant to be. it's o.k. just have more respect for yourself than to be his doormat. i am sensing from your discussion that maybe he just wants someone to help care for the baby. that's a shame and he sounds like a user. i feel bad for the baby, but that child is not your responsibility and i'd direct him to his family or friends to help him b/c my doors would be closed to him. period.

Good grief, he cheated on you with another woman and had a baby with her and now he wants you back to take care of the baby and him since she is not around. Unless you want to be a doormat and have him do the SAME THING to you again I would not go back. I was once married to a cheater and when he cheated on me after 6 mos of marriage I went to a therapist thinking it was something I had done that caused him to cheat. He gave me some wonderful advice that I would like to pass on to you. A cheater will always cheat. They do not cheat cause they do not love you but they cheat due to the thrill of keeping it from you. It is this kind of relationship you want?? Obviously he will do this again, especially if you allow him back into your life therefore telling him that you will forgive him and allow him to treat you this way. No one deserves this punishment, I wish you the best.

yeah, give him another chance, he'll probably change this time.

I think you are the only one who could really decide whether to let him go back or not. If you can find it in youself to forgive him and be happy by letting him come back into your life and at the same time accept another possibility of him leaving you again for another woman and take care of his child from that women, then go ahead and let him come back. As long as you would be happy with your decision, it doesn't matter that people will think you as martyr. Sometimes being able to express that love to the people we love is enough.

i would say to give him a second chance to prove that he still loves you. Had he anything against you he would never have contacted you.He is in desperate situation with a child in his hand.afterall there must be someone to care for the innocent child.But one other thing you must do is to ask him to promise as to never hurt you again in life. if you don't accept him,then another woman would do so and your ex-husband will not get the chance to prove that he still loves you.

i don't know... for me, i don't think i will be able to take him back after what he had done to me... especially he has a baby with the other woman... that is really hard for me... but it is entirely up to you... if you can find it in your hard to forgive him, then you can take him back... just make him promise that he won't repeat the same mistake again... i think people do deserve a second chance as well... good luck...

this is a decision that u and only you can make. I probbaly wouldnt take him back - just for the fact that he did cheat on me adn there is a chanse that he might do it again when he gets borded or when another girl comes along, I belive that people can change - but i would have a hard tim trusting him ever again! I do belive that u need to think about it long and hard before you decide - no big decisions fast here =)

Well, we can all sit here and spout of our feelings and advice to you, but ultimately the decision is for you to make...and from your heart. Only you know how you feel about this man. As for me, my first marriage ended due to his cheating. He came home to tell me he had been seeing someone. We split. He came back after a few months stating he missed his children and realized how wrong he was and wanted to try and make it work. I believe him and forgave him and we tried. He did it a second time. He was gone for good that time. I later met a most wonderful man and we have been happily married for 19 years. Best of luck with your decision.

What if you ask this to yourself.. Come on! Definitely NOT. Move on. Now I think this man wants you back because you are useful to him. Did you think about that. It was easy for him to ask for a divorce. Don't prove to him that is that also easy to get you back. He does not deserve your kindess.

Dear Carolmil123, the only person who can answer to your question is you. Everybody is different, I can tell you what I think, but this is what I think, according to my feelings, to my thoughts, to my way of living. My best friend lived with her wife some years and they had two sons. She fell in love for another man and so started a new relationship. When my friend found out that her wife was cheating on him, he asked her to stop her relation with her lover and to start again a new life with him, but she refused and so my friend left his house and went to live in a flat. My friend loved her ex-wife so much that to give her a possibility to save their marriage. I am not sure that I'd have done like him. I don't think that I could forgive the person that I love if she should cheat on me. So, follow your heart, only you can know what's better for you. If you really love him and are sure that he is sincere, faithful, honest, then you could leave him return to you and start a new relationship with the man you love and with a little child who is only asking to be loved by a mother (and I think you would be a good mother to him). But if you are doubtful about his future behaviour towards you....

Do NOT let this man back in your life! He had his chance with you and he screwed it up. Now he's lost the girl he left you for(although fair enough, in horrible circumstances) and now he's scared of bringing up a baby by himself. There is a saying that leopards don't change their spots, and if you let him back, chances are he'll cheat on you again whilst you're home caring for his baby. If you want to help him, tell him you'll help him, but only as a friend and that he won't be moving back in with you. He'll tale advantage of you in the worst possible way. I wish you luck.

Only you can decided what is the right thing to do. Just don't set yourself up to be hurt again. Just ask yourself these questions: Is he wanting to return to me because he loves me or because he want someone to just raise the baby? Is he being genuine and really wanting to return or is he just looking for something temporary? And the biggest question: Can I trust him again? Just be careful and don't let yourself get hurt again.

no, you shouldn't

I would nto let any one back in to my life after they cheated on me no matter how deep the feelings go once a cheater always a cheater. In the back of your mind there will always be a bit of dought and will drive you crazy.

You love him ?? and he love u . Am sorry in my openion he is tring to cash ur emotion dont let him make u fool when he foung her he flew away and now he is back coz he need u huh . He dont love u at all keep him away from ur life

there are patterens that usually repeats themself are you syre he wants to return to you or does he want you to take care of his baby terrified that he is out of the house cheating on you again.. what do you want? there is no gurantee in life but people that cheat once have a tendency to do that again and here you are getting a baby to take care of to. i would not agree for him to come back things are to complicated and you do not really know if he is honest with you or that he wants someone to care for the baby until he finds another women i am sorry. it sounds bad. but this is the only time i'll have a chance to tell you that before you get yourself into trouble. find another dear and honest men and build your life with him.

Well I'm kind of young for this, but if you still love him and he loves you than...you know what to do. I know you hate that woman for making you divorce with him but don't be a bad person and take care of that child, be a good mother. You must know how does it hurts for a child for not having a mother. Do something good and you will see the reward. Now it's your chance to show how good you are. Don't run, I say except. Love him and the child, have a family. Don't make the mistake leaving that child alone, I believe that you will be a good mother for that baby. Good luck for you and your new family!:) P.S. I'm telling you this because I didn't had a good father near me and I don't want this pain to be feld by another one.

Read ur storry really feeling,I know what going on u.But can i ask u one question,we do lot of wrong thing in our life but God forgive us every time,if God forgive us why done we also forgive other and give him chance,I know ur really nice lady u never forget 7 years because u still love him.In this world God choice few people to do good thing for other may be God choice u to take baby and look after,because every one didnt do this some speciall people whom God love can do this and I feel ur one of them and God give u chance to do great thing in ur life,hope u dont mind,I give u this advise as brother.

Have you see the TV prison break? when a man cheated, can not believe again, even he has changed.