Stop Someone From Pinching and Biting

March 7, 2007 4:22pm CST
I have a friend who gets carried away when people tease and has a habit of biting and pinching people. Hard. Thing is, she's 25 years old, far too old for this type of behaviour to be acceptable. I think she thinks it's funny or cute, but she doesn't realise how angry she makes people because it really hurts. She's drawn blood from several people and even left me with some nasty bruises myself. I know people look down on her for doing something so spiteful and immature for her age, but she's so bad tempered and self-indulgent, I don't know how to make her understand that she's being an idiot. Any ideas or similar stories?
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Mar 07
You should forward this letter to her and tell her diseases can be passes if blood is drawn.Also you could get an infection from the scratch. The way you explain her I wonder why you call her a FRIEND? You sound like a sweet person that deserves nice friends. Raydene
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7 Mar 07
Thank you. That's really kind! It's odd, she can seem like the nicest, funniest person you know. She's actually really popular, but those who really know her, find out that she has a totally messed up side. She can be selfish and incredibly moody and is prone to tantrums when she doesn't get her way.
@raydene (9875)
• United States
8 Mar 07
maybe she has had something bad happen to her and by striking out it makes her feel better.Like misery loves company. I would tell her if she does this again that you don't deserve to be hurt by people that are your friends.She will probably laugh at you but when she is alone she will think about it and maybe it will change how she treats you. Remember what your worth is,you do not deserve to be treated like this and don't accept it.You are better then that. Raydene
@hezoid (2148)
7 Mar 07
I think she needs to be told that this is unnacceptable behaviour, and it's tantamout ot bullying and physical abuse! It's not cute, funny or anything, just plain annoying! If someone bit me i'd probably go mad at them and ask then what on earth posessed them to do such a thing and what they think they're playing at!
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7 Mar 07
My partner has gone mad at her before but she acted like he was overreacting. I think we need to take a tougher line against her "acting out". :(
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@hezoid (2148)
25 Mar 07
Talk to her about it again, and if she tries to tell you you're overreacting ask her if you maybe you could try biting/pinching her and see how she feels about it? If she says no, then say well if she's no prepared for her own medicne she shouldn't dole it out to others. If she says yet, pinch-bite her hard on purpose to show her how much it really hurts and maybe she'll understand that's it's out of order! Also remind her that it's actually classed as physical abuse since you are telling her she's got no permission to do it, and is a criminal offence which she could be prosecuted for which can lead to a prison sentence. Also, if she draws blood that's classed as GBH, a very, very serious crime, so shouting at her is more an under-reatction than an over-reaction compared to infomring the police of her behaviour! I'm not suggesting you do tell the police, but maybe warning her will be a good shock-tactic to stop her?
@murtwot (206)
26 Mar 07
sounds fun. whats her number?
26 Mar 07
Ha! Sorry, she's taken. ;)
@murtwot (206)
27 Mar 07
d'oh
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
27 Mar 07
In my opinion the only thing you can do to a person like this is to sit them down for a serious conversation. She needs to understand that what she is doing is not funny but may be considered assult. I have never come across this in adults but only amongst young children without appropriate communication skills. Does your friend have some kind of arrested development, maybe you could go and ask her dr? just a thort blessed be