My friend aborted the baby for a reason.. Should it be acceptable?

Philippines
March 7, 2007 8:28pm CST
My friend in her 2nd month of preganancy got the baby aborted. Her boyfriend refuse to marry her. Afraid of all the consequences including how to raise the baby herself, he got the 2 month old baby aborted. She had a regret but convince herself that the baby would suffered more in poverty once born. At her reasons, its better that way, but for Catholics, abortion is a mortal sin. She killed a life, her own flesh and blood and refuse one life to be born and live. Was she right? Or you would said its unacceptable?
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• Canada
8 Mar 07
I don't believe in abortion and would find something like this hard to say was acceptable because I was one of those people that tried for years desperately to have a baby and couldn't . I already had a couple but that didn't change my need to have more as the only thing that I feel I am any good at in life might be as being a good mom . Being a mom makes me feel that somehow I am making a difference and I just love the idea of being a mother . I lost three babies and was told I would never concieve another one let alone carry one to term . In the end they were wrong but it didn't change the fact for eight and a half years I wanted something so bad that others even children seemed to be able to do so easy and yet I couldn't do this one thing . I would have taken in any child that was dropped on my doorstep with no questions asked and no I am not the only one who feels this way . There are so many people in the world unable to have there own children and would do anything to be able to have a child of there own . But I also feel that it is not my right to judge others as I have not lived there life . I don't agree with what your friend did but if I knew her I would probably be able to understand some of her reasons even if I didn't believe them myself . As I don't feel that we in life should judge someone we don't know no matter how strongly we feel on any particular subject .
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• United States
8 Mar 07
Totally unacceptable. She could have pout the baby up for adoption. So many couples out there cannot have children and they would have loved to have her baby.
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• United States
8 Mar 07
She could have given the baby up for adoption I don't agree with abortion but to each his own If that was her decision she has to live with it not me But I think she should have thought things out more There are a lot of people that can't have kids and want to adopt
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• Canada
8 Mar 07
It's acceptable, knowing that your friend would had to raise the child all by herself. It's a good thing that she got an abortion. If not, she would had to deal with the boyfriend all her live. And living in poverty is never a good thing. She took the good decision. We have to respect her choice. I also believe that there's no official live until the baby born. Anything can happen in the meantime, between conception and birth time.
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• United States
8 Mar 07
I believe a heartbeat and the fact that the child is moving inside the womb is a pretty good indicator of life!
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• United States
9 Mar 07
So many single mothers raise their children without help from a man, much money, or anything! Abortion is not the right choice. I have a beautiful daughter and I don't have lots of money or anything but I am so very grateful that I had her. She will regret it one day I bet. She could have at least had the decency to use adoption.
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• United States
9 Mar 07
I for one was a single mother at the age of 17 , still in high school when I got pregnant with my son ...I never once doubted the fact that i could raise my son alone , I didn't need the father there to help me ... That is a crazy reason to have an abortion !!! This makes me so angry at people like you who see no problem in taking an innocent life for their own selfish ways !!! I raised my son alone for 7 years, until i got married and i never lived in poverty , me and my son have grown together over the years and we have a strong relationship with each other and alway's will , he is happy and healthy and I wouldn't change the way my life was then for it only made me stronger as a person !!! Abortion is wrong it's murder !!!! Do you have any kids of your own ???? How can you not believe there is life until the baby born ???? That has to be one of the stupidiest things I have ever heard !!!! I have had two children now and the feeling that I had within my stomach of them moving and growing is like no other feeling in the world ... We as women were given the ability to give birth , something that men can not do ! we have a life growing within our bodies and people think it is ok to take their life ... Thats cold blooded murder !!! This mother just wantes to let you know that your wrong !!!
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• United States
8 Mar 07
That is not a good reason. There is help out there for mothers who are struggling. I am sure that her friends would have helped when she needed it. You didn't say anything about her mom and if she has good relations with her mom than I am sure her mom would help. There is a lot you left out. Like about whether he mom would help her out. Does she have friends that would give a helping hand when she needed it. One thing that I would be wondering also is she still with the jerk that did not take his responsibility. To me that does not mean marriage but for him to shoulder the responsibility of helping out financially.
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
8 Mar 07
To me abortion for ANY reason is unacceptable. There are plenty of families out there unable to conceive a child who would be happy to adopt your frinds child. Abortion is murder. This might ruffel some feathers but I belive that even if a women is rapped, aborthion is not an option for her. It is still taking of a human life that could be given to a good home for adoption. This might not be fair but there are several crimes commites where the victium is not rectified.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 07
I agree completely with your comment and applaud you for realizing that not even rape is a good excuse for abortion.
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Thanks!
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• United States
8 Mar 07
I have to disagree here, on the not justifying abortion when the pregnancy is a result of rape. I had it happen to me, and the thought of carrying around a baby for almost ten months that was the result of a horrible, violent act made my skin crawl. A man would never understand this situation.
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 07
This is totally unacceptable. Why do women only think of the consequences after the fact. When my niece got pregnant at seven-teen, doctors were advising her to get an abortion. I told my sister that if my niece got an abortion I would never speak to either one of them again. My great-nephew will be one on the 27th of this month. He is a beautiful child. But I have to honestly say that this was the first time this kind of situation hit me so close to home. I found myself wishing that she would miscarry or something. I love my niece and I was afriad that she would never be able to get her life back on track. It happened a month after she graduated from high school. The guy ran off and wont even admit that the baby is his. But her family is sacrifing and helping with the baby and she is in college earning her degree. It has not been easy, but abortion could not be an option.
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• United States
9 Mar 07
Thats great !!! I was in the same situation at 17 !!! tell your niece that it will get easier and hold her head up high she done the right thing and had her baby !!! Best of luck to her ....
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• India
8 Mar 07
abortion is a big sin,but adoption is not a sin.adoption is giving a new birth.it is because of u that the person not taken care will be taqken care thereof.so,i do agree & also salute the person decided to adopt the baby.but abortion is like a murder & therefore i'll oppose the same......
@jricbt (1455)
• Brazil
8 Mar 07
Acceptable. She has the right to abort (I suppose it is allowed by the law, where she lives). It was her call, she would had to deal with all the questions involved in raising (alone) the child. She had to choose. Abort a unborn fetus (still not formed and without nervous system) or try to have the child and condemn, possibly, both her and the child to a life of poverty. She choosed.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
8 Mar 07
At 2 months, the heart beats and the nervous system is started. They have proven that fetuses as early as 6 weeks can feel pain.
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
13 Mar 07
She had another choice, give the baby up for adoption.
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@aeriff (1)
• Australia
8 Mar 07
It depends on your views on abortion. Those who are pro-abortion will agree, those who are anti-abortion will not. She could have certainly placed the baby up for adoption where he/she could be adopted into a caring family. At 2 months it was a good decision to be made; although I myself am against abortion so all I have to say is that adoption was a better option then abortion although it's entirely the mother's choice.
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• India
8 Mar 07
Its very pathetic that the life which was supposed to see the beauty of the earth was forced to die before it could even open its eyes.For a mother its real tough to abort har own blood.but since there was not a good prospect of baby so she could not have let come on the earth only on the basis of possibility.religions are there for the welfare of humanbeing.since there was not a good future of baby hence she was very much right in her decision
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@jojogirl (289)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
she had an abortion because she does not have the heart to see the baby live a poor life? how ironic! who is she kidding? she pretends to care about the future of the child when in fact she is not even brave enough to give it a chance to see the world. she had an abortion just to save her a**. she must be so afraid that her parents would kill her that she opted to kill the innocent baby, her very own flesh and blood. if she is not yet ready for the responsibilty, why in the world did she not use contaceptives before she plunged into bed (if it was in a bed) with her similarly irresponsible boyfriend?
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@mschiqui (1284)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
For me it is unacceptable..I mean, she aborted the baby because her boyfriend refuses to marry her..As what you said she was afraid of the consequences she may face.. but i guess getting into a relationship, we must put into consideration so many things and most especially the consequences it gives..Me, i am not financially stable, but i am able to feed my son and raise him..God is good and He will provide what is best for you. She misses the greatest and wonderful feeling in the world, that being a mother.. God bless you and your friend!
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
actually, it's not really right. i don't agree with abortion, it's a life, she doesn't have the right to end up her baby.. only god has the power for that. poverty is not a reason for doing so, she can raise the baby herself, she can work if she's really willing. if she want there's alot of way, if not there's alot of reasons...
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@ozzydee70 (465)
• Germany
13 Apr 07
why she go on fire if she dont want to get burn?? i myself was a single mom for 11 years, her reason for aborting her baby is very shallow there's loads of NGO out there who are committed in helping woman like her, she could either give up her baby for adoption or raise the baby herself.. What she did is like turning down the best gift that god gave her!!
@marazh (88)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
I'll answer you with a question... Is killing a human acceptable? Even if the baby was only 2 months old. He was still a human.
• United States
13 Mar 07
I am not a religious person but I have my morals. I believe a woman should not abort for personal reasons except that she was raped or way too young to have a baby (15 and younger). Abortion is a very serious thing so a woman must think a lot before chosing to give up their childs life.
• Romania
13 Mar 07
if she hadn`t sufficient monney to raise her children and give him the life he or she want i think this was the best solution if she had money and made an abortionthen this is really a crime
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
13 Mar 07
Do you know the reason why she didn't protect herself so she wouldn't get pregnant in the first place. Then this whole thing could have been avoided.
@akopoto (177)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
For us Catholics, abortion is definitely a mortal sin. Abortion is never justified. Not even poverty can be a reason to perform abortion. She may just have given the baby to an orphanage if she really can't support her. Some people may accept abortion, but for me it's not.