Would you forgive?

India
March 8, 2007 12:00am CST
Friendship is forgiveness....but to what extent? Will you forgive a friend for sleeping with your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend?
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9 responses
• Canada
8 Mar 07
I have forgiven friends for this but it has taken time . It is something that is really hard to do and is something you never forget but I have been able to give forgiveness even though it is something I will never ever forget .
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• Canada
8 Mar 07
There is no way I'd ever forgive the friend or the spouce. if they are going to sleep together, touch crap. I am not going to hang on, if my partner doesn't want me. If he is sleeping with someone else then he is not worth my time, and I don't want him or need him.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
8 Mar 07
Friendship might be forgiveness but friendship is NOT sleeping with your friends spouse and marriage is about solemn vows or promises you made to one another. Certain acts or situations for me are deal breakers like, lying, cheating, stealing. I could forgive a mistake, even a big one...but not something that is on-going. If my partner, husband or friend stuffed up and asked forgiveness and proved he or she was truly contrite and sorry for hurting me then I would try to forgive. But if they carried on doing what was wrong then that would make our friendship or partnership null and void.
@mom_of_2 (398)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
Nope !! Im not that forgiving, but then I wouldn't forgive my husbamd either. I always joke with my husband (well he thinks im joking !) and I tell him if he decides to have an affair then the other woman better be doing is laundry too ! If the "other woman was a stranger to me, I might be able to forgive HER because chances are she didn't know about the marriage. Once your spouse sleeps with your friend I would think getting together for coffee/drinks might be a little uncomfortable?
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I think if they were realy your friend they would not have slept with your husband. I have many friends that are married or have boyfrinds. I have never even before I was married thought about sleeping with one of thier boyfrinds or husbands. If this is something you have to worry about maybe you should think about changing friends.
• United States
8 Mar 07
Forgive...there's a slight possibility. Forget: no way. Both relationships would be over...
@kyran_12 (643)
• India
9 Mar 07
friendship is forgiveness , yea you are right but then if friend is sleeping with your spouse then your spouse is same faulty as he is so whatever you do with spouse you should do with friend , if you forgiver spouse then forgive friend also........... hope this situation dosent come in life....cheers
@beaniegdi (1964)
8 Mar 07
i have such a jealous nature that i could never forgive this ever. i am sure some could but i would never be able to get past it.
• United States
8 Mar 07
nope...both would be out the door