does age really matters in a boy -girl relationship?

girlfriend and boyfriend - does age is necessary in a boy-girl relationship???
Philippines
March 8, 2007 1:36am CST
My boyfriend is younger than me and my fellow classmates and friends always teasing me for that. I should admit that in the start its very difficult to have a younger boyfriend but in the long run i have learned to adjust. Do you think age really matters in the compatibilty of the two person and to have a harmonious relationship??? I dont think it's not how about you???
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
As for me age really does not matter as long as you are both mature to reconsider the age difference and work with the relationship harmoniously. When a couple are both in love with each other then age is not the problem but how they make the relationship works for them and how they show thier respect and love for each other. Don't mind those who around you who tease about your bf age as long as you knew in your heart you love him and your relationship for it is all that matters.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 07
thanks for that!!!
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@yanjiaren (9050)
8 Mar 07
If you are both happy then really it is no one ele's problem. I personally like my man to be older. My sister dated a guy younger than herself. My friend married someone fifteen years younger too and she is very happy. It all depends on the individuals themselves. Good luck!
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
you can't put an age on emotional maturity. however, there is a general notion that girls tend to be more mature than guys at the adolescent stage, so having a boyfriend who is younger than you would tend to widen that gap even more. still, any relationship will have problems, even if it's deemed to be a perfect match. it's how you deal with those problems that will spell the difference...
• South Africa
8 Mar 07
Well generally the girl is kinda younger than the guy, due to maturity levels. But it comes down to the bottom line, if you happy then its all gud !
@reykja (121)
8 Mar 07
It's not a problem but usually I think that girls tend to date a guy of the same age or older that's probably why you got teased for it.
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
8 Mar 07
As long as the 2 of you are happy and can get along, age should not be that big of a concern. I would think similar beliefs and goals would be more a concern in a relationship than age.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 07
i think you're right...
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@TinWolf (184)
• United States
9 Mar 07
With no offense I suggest the issue is what the two of you feel that matters, not what others feel. I'll assume you're "both" young and certainly peer pressure can be heavy. Beyond that, and not to bring this down, but it's possible this won't be the one and only experience for either of you, and while you are involved and it's working, just enjoy each other. Certainly there are dozens of cliches regarding age, and yet if that's the only criteria one uses to judge another, they may be missing a pretty special person. You did answer your own question, and obviously believe what you said, IN the compatability of the two, and harmony. If these "friends" of yours are making this an issue that is uncomfortable to the point of real distress, perhaps they really aren't very worthy of being your friends?
@sherinek (3323)
• United States
9 Mar 07
General idea is a boy has to be older than the girl cos, naturally, girls, mature faster than the boys and when the boy is younger than the girl, the relationship might most probably be like a elder sis-younger bro one. But there are a lot of couples all over the world who are married against this rule. I personally prefer my hubby to be older than me because I like to be mollycoddled by him. But, you dont have to think like that. If you two love each other and understand each other, and most importantly dont care about the age gap, i say go for it. But I'd like to advise you, just think ahead seriously before taking a serious commitment. Dont listen to your friends. They are just doing it thinking that they'll be able to upset you, which they can enjoy. I wish you and your boy friend, all the luck in the world.
@SKLC_PT (1234)
8 Mar 07
I think it all depends on how much you like the person, how compatible you are and your level of maturity. I think a person should be judged by their age mentally and not in candles on the cake as sometimes you find older people in their thirties that are really immature and some that are just 15 and are highly mature. You can usually tell by the way they speak, act... I think as long as there is love and compatibility besides anything age related, then there should not be a problem. Besides if anyone messes with you ask them who's dating him you or them, if they say you then say well then what are you wining about, it's my problem not yours... or say you want someone older go to an old age home to find him but I'm happy with who I'm with, stuff like, a witty response. But sometimes it's just best to ignore them as they tend to feed on people that give a rats a**. I know sometimes you can feel the pressure when others seem to side against you but that happens in life no matter what you do. If you really think you love each other then don't mind them as they aren't mature enough to understand that age isn't the important thing. What's the use of dating a guy older then you if your not happy with them after all?
@Demonix (294)
• Canada
9 Mar 07
I honestly dont think age matters in compatability, I know a couple that have been married for years and the woman is 20 years older than the man, and they have never had a problem, there are many relationships like that out there, its not a big thing at all, I dont think age really matters
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@siddhinfo (1501)
• India
9 Mar 07
I don't think age matters in the friendship. If men can have the friendship with young ladies why not the other way round. I have some friend who are elder to my age and most of my girlfriends are younger to me even my wife is younger to me about five year and we live happy married life. It is not the age that matter but the understandibility between the partner is the main thing for long lasting the relation.
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• China
9 Mar 07
everyone has their own idea.for my,I don't think it is a matter.i think that it is more important that they really love each others
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@abhi333 (407)
• India
9 Mar 07
no, i don't think so that age really matters in this kind of relationship. i would say that adjustment can easily be made with a person having age difference of upto 4 yrs.
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@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
For me it does not matter as long as you love each ohter and you understand each other. You should not think what other people might say on your relationship. It always upto the two person if they will stay if they are willing to sacrifice everything and to work on that relationship. The other people cant do anything on their relationship.
@mykreyes (55)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
thou,we cannt please some people teeaasing about that.. one thing is important as long you don't disturb them and nothing wrong you do,is not matter the age for... as long as you know what your heart says, that is really matter of the relationship..so just stay cool,dont mind those people around you,they have nothing to do in there life..lol
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• United States
9 Mar 07
Don't let what your friends think bother you. If you and the young man are comfortable with each other and he treats you with respect and he cares about you, I'd say that you should ignore them. Keep in mind that throughout your life, you are going to be in a lot of situations that you will have to choose to do what's right for you no matter what someone else thinks. You may as well start making decisions that are best for you now. You seem pretty young. Have you asked your parents about this? Or can you talk to them about it? If you have a decent relationship with either or both parents, talk to them. They care more about you than anyone and they want what's best for you in most cases. Also, if your friends are giving you a hard time about this, maybe they aren't really friends. Or, maybe they are jealous of what you have with the young man. Either way, you need to do what's best for you so don't worry about what they say.
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• Canada
9 Mar 07
No, I don't think that age matters when it comes to relationships. My husband is 8 years younger than I am. I think that it is great. Don't let people tell you how to feel about your boyfriend. Good luck and have a good life.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 07
well for me it donest affect me as long that the feeling is mutual and you have to make it work by both of you. jsut remember relationship nis not a one way street.
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• India
9 Mar 07
Age doesnot matter for love. but the society may talk about some stuff but my advice is dont care about society, if you are going to loss anything they are not going to come with you. they need sumthing to chew. so enjoy your love life.....All the best
• United States
9 Mar 07
I don't think age does matter. My husband is 8and a half yrs older then me. As long as you are happy that is all that should matter to you or to anyone..
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