Telling people what you really feel...and getting hurt because of that.

@cristi12 (378)
Romania
March 8, 2007 10:49am CST
I need to get this out of my mind, I'm not very experienced in this, but... here I go anyway.:) One of my friends recently told me he likes a common accuaitance of ours. I've known this girl for a couple of years now and to be honest, she isn't worth his trouble. I didn't interfere because I thought it wouldn't be good. I've talked to both of them, she's aware of his feelings, and dosen't share them. He dosen't know this. But despite that, they spend a lot of time toghether, as friends. He sais she's giving him signs that she likes him too. Recently, he told her how he felt, and she rejected him. The last couple of days he's been locked in himself... To be honest, I never had such deep feelings for someone like my friend had for this one girl, but after seeing what happened to him I don't know if I want to... My question is: Why are some people like this? She led him to believe something that wasn't real, and now he's hurting because of that. Why didn't she tell him in the first place? And should have I intervened in the first place? I think this was partly my fault too...
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@lssjl2 (16)
8 Mar 07
People are confusing, maybe she just gets a bit of a high off knowing a guy is crazy about her. You know when some people are just in it for the chase? My theory is kind of the opposite of that, some people are in it just to get chased :P Don't blame your self by the way, if he likes her as much as you say, he would have gone after her anyway.
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@cristi12 (378)
• Romania
8 Mar 07
Yeah she's exactly like that! :)) But, dosen't she care for other people's feelings? This friend of mine is very emotional, when she told him off he couldn't get over it, he still thinks he has a chance. Thanks for your reply. :)
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@lssjl2 (16)
8 Mar 07
Your poor friend :( I've been there too, it took me years to get over the guy. He was just as cruel as the girl you were talking about was. But he'll get over it and find a great girl, and hopefully she'll learn her lesson somehow!
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@cristi12 (378)
• Romania
8 Mar 07
Hope so. It just bugs me that some people play with other people's feelings like this.