How do you handle family you don't like?

@CRiley27 (984)
United States
March 8, 2007 5:16pm CST
I do not like my im laws. Thank God they live out of state, so I only have to deal with visits 2-3 times a year. When I see them on the caller id, I will not answer the phone. When they come out, I try to keep busy and avoid them as much as possible. My reasoning for my dislike, is they are not nice people, years ago when my husband and I were having money problems, they told my husband he was ashamed he did such a bad job raising him, he can't handle money, and basically talked to both of us like children, verbatium "Well,son, I can help you out, but I am not going to give it to you til you ask. If you don't want to ask, I will go buy myself another boat" That's just the tip of years of dealing with them. On my wedding day, while I was getting dressed, my mother in law wanted to see me, and my mother sated I was getting dress, she barged into the room and proceeded to take pictures of me 1/2 naked! They have no respect for others, I won't even go out to dinner with them, because of the way they treat the staff. Anyhow, I know this sounds horrible, it actually pains me to talk to them,even to look at them. If they give something to the kids, they take pictures (which is fine) but they do it to show off to people. Which is mostly some small cheap thing. They just called (they reason for this post) Of course I did not answer, but they are planning on coming out this June, which I dread. If I weren't pregnant, I would spend my days drinking LOL. How do you handle family members you dislike? Or any suggestions? I can't talk to them, because my mother in law will cry, then my father in law will tell my husband I made her cry, and it will cause a big stink. (She is very dramatic) Thanks all.
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@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I dont deal with them! I dislike my own family so much I haven't seen or spoken to them in over 3 years. It's been so peaceful. My husbands family is fine. I get along with them. They can be a bit weird, but still in a lovable sort of way. We don't have kids yet, so who knows if that will change!!
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• United States
8 Mar 07
I haven't had too many issues with my inlaws. I think if you don't get along with someone it's better to just try and be cordial. Nobody says you have to go out of your way to be sociable. I find it's the easiest way to deal with my inlaws at times.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Well, pregnant or not drinking is not going to help the situation and most likely will only make it worse as then they will have "amo" against you. Put on your happy face, grit your teeth, say lots of prayers and who knows - maybe plans will change and they won't come to visit. That is horrid of me but your not going to change these people and I know it's difficult to deal with in-laws like this. Just be thankful they're only visiting and not moving in with you - knock on wood!
@CRiley27 (984)
• United States
9 Mar 07
Yes, knock on wood. We live by the shore,and there is a house at the end of our road,the owner uses it as her summer house, and rents it out, which is were my in laws stay. My in laws keep saying if she ever sells they would buy it! Yikes! :)