at age of 18, do you have to go out and be independent?

@fianne (1059)
United States
March 9, 2007 8:50pm CST
my classmate said she left her home when she was 18 years old. she needs to be independent with no help or support from parents. as to me, i still live in my parent's house and she asked why? i should have left. what do you think? is she right?
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16 responses
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
19 May 11
It is a case-to-case basis. It would also depend on the culture and the reason for doing so. In most western countries, children leave home when they are 18 and that is very acceptable. In my country, children aren't at all expected to leave home if they don't want to. It is common for most of families here to live on extended families. Some leave home at an earlier age like going on an overseas study. I think before we moved out, it is best to ask ourselves if we are responsible and are wise enough to make good choices in life. Some people just use their new fond independence to do things they want even though it isn't good for their welfare.
@mantis36 (4238)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
most of the people here in the Philippine Provinces..... in the province.... in front are my olds.... at the back are my cousins... at the left are my uncles... at the right are my sisters and brothers and parents too.... and i am not afraid to go home at night... because when you mention my name, all the vehicle drivers and motor driver knows me...
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
True Mantis. I feel like I'm a celebrity whenever I go home in our hometown. People would call my name and say "Hi" and ask when did I arrive and I would just smile and reply back having no idea who they are.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Well that all depends on your own situation. Everyone is different. If there is no reason for you to leave home, then why should you? especially if you can't afford to live on your own. I was at home until the age of 21/22 and found it much easier living with my parents than on my own. I was working and helping them out with the bills and putting food on the table. Once I went flatting, i had sole responsibility for everything, and was more than ready to take on my added responsibilities. Don't be in a rush to leave home just because your friend has.
@fianne (1059)
• United States
10 Mar 07
yes, that's true.
@Kicker55 (243)
• United States
10 Mar 07
If you don't have the money to support yourself, then moving out isn't really a good option. My advice would be to stay until you are financially set to go off on your own. Otherwise, you will just end up right back at your parents house anyway. :-P
@fianne (1059)
• United States
10 Mar 07
thanks, that's a nice advice. i really don't have the money so it's true.
@moneywinner (1866)
• Brazil
15 Jun 11
Definetly not, When I was a kid I also thought that I was going to leave home when I make 18, but at the time I didn't realize how hard life is. I'm 23 and I'm still in college and there's no way to I have a job, but my parents are pleased to help me.
@mantis36 (4238)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
here in the Philippines is not so applicable here because when your 18 years of age, you are still in college, and besides, there are lots of job opportunities here but the qualification of knowledge is the big problem.... many are called to apply for a vacant job position but few are chosen....
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
12 Mar 07
It is a very personal thing to make that type of decsion and I don't think staying or going is bad. It really is up to the person and what they want to do. I stayed with my parents until I was 20 and then left. If you have a good relationship with your family and you are saving money and the situation is, why leave???
@shellyrios (1215)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I think it depends on how comfortable you can be, to leave so soon. My cousin left as soon as she turned 18 too, but that's because her home life was unbearable. Her parents faught all the time and she was miserable so she left as soon as she could. I stayed until I was 20 and then moved out. I had my son when I was 18, so I had to plan and save before I could move out on my own. It just depends on the person and their perspective of independence.
@brckoba (795)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Personally, I think the there is not right age to leave your parents. It all depends in one's maturity. In my case I knew I was able to leave my parents when I could, without a doubt, be able to provide for myself. Honestly it is a lot easier to live with one's parent since you have a lot of financial help and also a sense of protection, but there are times that you have to prove to yourself that you are able to be on your own.
@villageanne (8579)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I think everyones situation is different. I got married when I was 18 but that was me. My daughters were both in college at 18 and lived 3 hours away. They came home when they could but we really missed them. Each individual is different adn you should not base your decisions on others decisions.
• United States
11 Mar 07
If you decide to. It's really your choice.
@edigital (2711)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I think this is not right, leaving parent house do not meaning independent, this may be she may do any work she like staying out of administration of her parent. A parent do not want such work which look odd or bad to other's eye so this do not mean that her parent administer on her and she is not independent. Age of earning is adult age and if all adult person leave their parent on the plea of independent then parent house will vacant and there will no need to grow child with love and affection. In some cases people leave their parent but once in a day they feel what is the thing of parent - which can give a parent those cannot give by others at growing stage.
@chloe9013 (532)
10 Mar 07
I attempted to leave home at 17 thinking that life was easy and i could cope.. well i couldn't lol and i was back home within 4 months. But i will never regret trying because it taught me hand on experiance and where not to make mistakes next time. So as much as i would like to get out of here and im not going till im ready and finacially able too cope. I was lucky my dad was ok with me having ago and coming home again, some parents dont give you a second chance. He did say that the next time has to be perminant though since i should have learned from my mistakes. So i am going to make sure im REALLY ready before i take the risk again. I dont think there is anything wrong with someone living with parents. As people have stated you are much more secure and, if you try, able to save up ready for all the expences ready to hit you (i save about £70-£100/$140-$200 a month) Make the most of the stability i would say, and make sure you are financially ready to make the leap.
• Ireland
10 Mar 07
I didn't leave home until I got married at the age of twenty four. I don't think my parents would have like me to leave even though I was earning enough to support myself. I have a son who is 29 years old and he is still living with me and I would never dream of asking him to leave as I love having him here. I think once a person has reached the age of 18 they should make up their own minds as to whether or not they want to move out of their parents home, but they should make sure that they can support themselves first.
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
10 Mar 07
There is no set age limit where you have to leave your parents, most children as long as they have a good relationship with their parents will stay and prefer to stay on longer until they have saved up enough money to move out, or until they find someone they want to move in with. I didn't move out of my parents till I was 27, by then I had saved enough money to get a flat. I was happy at home and if you are happy why change the situation to suit others. You leave when you are READY, don't listen to others who say you HAVE to leave at 18, that is nonsense! There is no shame nowadays for people to live with their parents in their twenties or thirties.
@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
10 Mar 07
I left home when I was nearly 18. That was because I was going to University. When my daughter goes to University, I would prefer her to live at home, if she doesn't need to go interstate. By all means live at home, if it suits you and your parents.
@magnel (2263)
• India
10 Mar 07
Leaving home at the age of 18 years is not right. I'm 28 years old and still stay with my parents, we believe in staying together brings us closer to each other.