easy to find someone else after a bad relationship and breaking up?

@fianne (1059)
United States
March 9, 2007 8:58pm CST
my ex-boyfriend broke up with me last year. he is my classmate. after two days, i saw him with a lady holding each other's hands in the mall leading to the cinema to watch movie perhaps. he passed by me but he did not see me. it was ok for me but of course, i felt like i was pissed off because it was like i am that easy to be changed like a dirty shirt.
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26 responses
• Malaysia
10 Mar 07
yeah! im agree wif u... dat jerk,i hope u wont cry for him either! u know what, u should b thankful u were not wif such jerk anymore.. find urself a better guy! i hope u don mind i called ur ex - jerk?
@fianne (1059)
• United States
11 Mar 07
no. i do not mind you calling him a jerk... because he really is.
@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
Drinking, barkada and night-outs are most common thing guys do when they have a brake-up. Its not easy to find a replacement specially if you love your ex-girl. I think they already have relationship with that girl you saw with him before you've broke-up.
@fianne (1059)
• United States
11 Mar 07
yes. i am thinking of that too.
@magnel (2263)
• India
10 Mar 07
you have to be lucky to find someone soon after breaking up with someone... many a times, relationship breaks to make another relationships... perhaps then your boyfriend might have left you for this new girl, who knows...
@fianne (1059)
• United States
11 Mar 07
yes. maybe, he already have this girl when we even still have our relationship going. but it was nice to have the relationship down.
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
Well, for guys, I think it's easier for them to find a new girl after a break up. But for me, I try to enjoy my being single and savor every single minute of it. So, when a new love comes along, I'd be ready to fall in love all over again. And yeah, it hurts to see your ex with somebody new. For a while I did feel hurt. But I didn't dwell on it for long. It just made me realize that I am better off without him, and that there is somebody better for me. I just have to wait.
@fianne (1059)
• United States
11 Mar 07
yes. i was better off without him. i realized that.
@nicagose (70)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
I guess it's normal for the boys. It's their way of skipping the "heart-broken" stage. So that people may say that he has already moved on, but in reality, he has not.
@fianne (1059)
• United States
10 Mar 07
yeah, i understand that. perhaps it really is his reason. but who knows.
@tin112703 (228)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
I know how you feel, girl. It is difficult; we have our egos. Look at it this way: Your break up is not your loss. I he found someone else that easily, then maybe you were right in ditching him. Low standards? Anyway, move on; there is more that life offers you. :cheers!
@fianne (1059)
• United States
10 Mar 07
yes, thanks, tin! i really think he did deserve it. and i know the lady won't stay long enough on her side
• India
12 Mar 07
I think he ignored you because he wanted to show you that he forgot you but it is not easy as he was showing.He only wants to hurt you after your breakup.Such people never make true relationship in their life.It is good for you that you are no longer with such a person.you deserve a much better partner than him and hope you will find soon.
• China
12 Mar 07
To part with such a boy friend may be not bad to you,something will happen,it will happen sooner or late. Change your way of thinking in this way, you will feel better. This guy is not worth your loving. have a good mood.
@shellyrios (1215)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Yeah, it is heart breaking, what is worse is when you see them kissing someone else in front of you while they are sitting across from you. I've never felt so much pain in my life. Heartbreak is the worst pain ever, it literally pulls and yanks on the inside physically. I think if you can just try to avoid seeing him in places you know you'll see him then you can move on.....but I think that most guys go out with other women right away to forget about the one they broke up with easier. It's heartless, but reality and all you can do is just muster up the strength to move on....
• India
11 Mar 07
my sympathies!! well i cant generalize and tell you that guys are like that because there are girls who do this same thing too!! all i can suggest is for you to forget this guy and move on with your life... why dont you change your dirty shirt and get another guy?
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
10 Mar 07
no its NOT easy to find somebody else my girlfriend threw me away yesterday, like dirty laundry maybe in a year or so I migt feel valuable again like somebody might want me
@shadwaaa (63)
• Egypt
10 Mar 07
i stilll remember my x-bf even though he he fogot me
@littlemoo (317)
• Australia
10 Mar 07
He sure didn't waste any time, did he? For me, I certainly haven't moved on that quickly. It's been almost a year since my ex and I broke up. We broke up on very good terms, and we still meet up regularly and catch up. In fact, neither of us has found anyone else at all yet. Whilste we have both moved on, both he and I are far too busy to start dating at this stage. I wonder if your ex had already mentally moved on by the time he broke up with you? Or if he was on the rebound when you saw him. Yes, I understand your anger at him moving on so fast. I would feel the same! It's only natural for you to feel that way, seeing it was so soon! I think if you give yourself time to settle your own feelings, and move on, you'll feel a lot better. You are your own person, and your worth is not determined by his behaviour. *hug*
@askguru (96)
• India
10 Mar 07
i ynderstand that how u feel about this,but u need to be strong and face the situation and learn something from it. U have nothing to loose,he only is the one who is a looser. Enjoy evry moment of your life as it is yours.
• United States
10 Mar 07
yea you should be pissed off because nobody deserves to be tossed like a dirty rag like that.
• United States
10 Mar 07
I'm sorry for your heartbreak dear. Your feelings were natural, as anyone would have felt that way. But, since you both are broken up, it's okay. People feel like that after divorce from a marrige too. The one that dates first, doesn't experience that hurt. I hope things will work out for you dear.
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
10 Mar 07
maybe he did not really care about you like he said that he did because if he was with another girl then that tells you something.
@deevik (47)
• India
10 Mar 07
boys try 2 just get along after situations like these..n try 2 show that they r care free...So the best way 2 do is flirtin wit som other gul..But as a matter of fact he is deeply wounded(applies to only guys who have truly lovd their ex...I guess the same is wit ur case..tats all...But true u wil definitely b hurt....
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
I know what its like to be replaced so easily by someone you loved... or love still... but thats life and men are...men...thats probably the reason he broke up with you in the first place, because he already had a planned replacement for you- who knows, maybe he already was courting that girl even before you broke up? men can be such rats you know. But dont belittle yourself because he replaced you that easily- stand proud Its his loss not yours-- he's not worth all your tears you know... =)
• United States
10 Mar 07
People will cross our paths daily, some make an impact and others are just there to be there. If you can take whatever lessons life has taught you through the relationship then your the one who's better off in the long run. Men are odd creatures just remember we are the smart ones. It's his loss, dont take as if you are replacable, just keep in mind that circumstances change and be the leader of your own life.