Private school or Public school for children?

Philippines
March 10, 2007 2:01am CST
I am a mother of a 7 y/o and a 6 y/o. Sending them to private schools may be one of the best gifts we can give them. Their school offers advance learning specially in mathematics and english. However, the cost of tuition fee is high compared to a public school. We are considering to transfer them. I recall the days when I went to a public school and check myself today that I am no less than those who were in private school before when it comes to learning especially good manners. What do think? I dont see being us being less of a parent if we send them to public. So?
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@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I agree completely with you. If we could afford to send my son to private school we definitely would. Not only are the basics covered much better, but they get so many other subjects at a younger age. I went through Catholic School myself. My husband went to public school and there are pretty big gaps in what I was taught and he was taught - especially at a high school level.
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• Philippines
10 Mar 07
During primary level of my schooldays, I was in public school. But as I got to secondary and college level I was also in a Catholic, private school. I was even in an exclusive for girls. Yes there's a big difference. But a friend of my friend told her that a grader or a preschool may be sent to a public since it is in college where you really need good background of education.
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• United States
10 Mar 07
I will put my son in public school I just don't have the money to pay for private school and not really sure they will learn anything more then in public school at least I think in public school they will have more of a broad range of people to interact with and see more of what is out there. In private school well at least when I was in it it was just the same routine and it seemed more upper class rich kids. I think either way as long as they are getting a good education put them in where you would like but I just see public school cheaper!
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
Yes, I do think so, too. Although I am a little hesitant beacuse where they are enrolled now has safety rule of not letting the child go out the gate for lunch. So they have one option only-- to eat at the canteen with their own food if they dont like to buy. Unlike in the public, at breaktime, the gate is wide open that our children's preferences may not be best for their health when they buy.
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• Canada
10 Mar 07
Private school for the win,pretty bad things happen often in public schools and in private school your childrens won't be beat or mocked by others childrens and things like that.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I think your idea of kids not being beat up or mocked in private school is totally untrue. My hubby was in private school and there was plenty of abuse going on between his peers. I don't know about where you live, but in the private schools around here you aren't anything unless your parents are very well off financially. And those who are from lower incomes(by private school standards) are often mocked and beat up. Then there is the problem of the kids who get kicked out of public school whose parents put them in private otherwise they won't get an education.
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
I havent heard much of beatings here in public scools, but true, since there are wide range of children brought up in different ways, cases like that can happen.
@tomatoe39 (298)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I say public because kids that go to private schools do learn to go by the rules but they dont have as many friends and they wont know how to handle people that act diff.from what they have been around.
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
That was what my aunt told me, tomatoe39. my children can learn how to interact to many kinds of children. Don't you think they're too young to mingle with some undisciplined or unrespectful peer? Im scared but Im halfway to moving to public.
• United States
10 Mar 07
I think that it depends on the children and their parents if a private school is really better for them than a public school. Some children need a little bit more structure, discipline and are religious and thats why they go to private school. Some children do just fine in a public school. As for when my children get old enough for school I am hoping to home school them. This is so that I can raise them and teach them our beliefs. I want our children to know God and not be afraid to pray or read the bible.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 07
Oh, that is such a sweet thought. You are definitely right. God's words will be the best foundation to lead them through. Thank you. I guess public school adds another point.
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
10 Mar 07
There is nothing bad about having to send a child to public school. What is bad, is that many public schools are not doing their best to educate the children. I'm sure that there a private schools that don't do their best too! As a parent, what is the most important is that you stay involved with your child's education by monitoring their progress, frequent parent-teacher conferences, and volunteering at the school. As with other professions, teachers are being asked to do more and more, with no additional time or resources. Extra pairs of hands help the teacher get the job done correctly. If you see a shortcoming in one of your child's classes, be sure you do something to enrich or teach that content at home! All four of my children have gone to public school and all 4 are brillent with lots of scholarship monies from colleges! It can be done!
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• Philippines
11 Mar 07
So you're saying public school, too. And we are good citizens all the way from public schools, see? I think its the parents continous discipline for their kids to grow respectful, good citizens, too. And for a lesser cost.
• United States
10 Mar 07
I think there's no real benefit to private school. They still have all the same problems as public schools. I don't see how people justify spending $6000+ a year on a private school tuition. I think what people assume private schools will do is put their kids in an education system that is free of problems. However, they still exist there quite often. I work for a police department and we have a private all girls catholic school in our area. We get at least a call there one to two times a month for problems of some sort. The key to raising a child is all in the parents. Private schools don't teach anything different and generally most public schools have honor or AP classes anyways. And if you don't like the school where you live, move into a better rated school. You're going to spend $24000 on tuition over 4 years (for one kid) so why not spend less than that and move to a better school which will also help your home value. Then save the rest of the money to help pay fora better college which is where I think the key to success is. College is really what makes the huge difference in succeeding in life, high school means NOTHING once you get into college.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 07
You are correct, Jediskipgogg. College transcript is what we submit when we apply for a job. and i think that what my kids learn right now would still be forgotten and most of their mathsare not applicable at this stage of their lives. And you are so true in commenting on high fees. I can get good education in a public school without paying high fees.
• United States
10 Mar 07
If money is tight, then I would put them in public school. You can only do, what you can do. I got educated in a public school. I found some not as good as others, but I read, write, and know arthmetic, the basics. I am a professional, and made honor roll each year thoughout school. Can you choose a public school? Get a transfer to one you like? You can home school, as an option. Or perhaps a tutor, if needed. Good luck dear, your heart is right.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 07
I want to mark you as best response. But as I move on reading others comments, they all have a point!! Lol! But Im beginning to think of sending them to public now but still...arrrgh!! Nways, yes you're right, I tink what my heart would tell me is best. Thanks!
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
For me, it doesn't matter if the school is private or not. What is important is that the quality of education us important and the way the teachers handle students.
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• Philippines
11 Mar 07
The problem mostly in public school is how teachers feed the children with proper learning because of the number of children. However, it looks like teachers from public schools are not the same teachers like before who can hurt the kids. And the newly graduate teachers now are equipped with modern technique.
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
The choice between public and private school is heavily dependent on which country you're in. If you're in countries like the United States, England, the Netherlands, or any other country where education is responsibly state-funded, then by all means, enroll your child in a public school. In countries like these, state-funded education is up-to-date and competitive. If, on the other hand, you are in some third world country, forget public schools. In fact, you shouldn't even be contemplating this option because in this scenario, teacher-student ratio reaches 1 teacher for every sixty students. A glum summary of the situation: an overwhelming number of students, few classrooms, even fewer books, and few teachers, most of which have no business teaching to begin with.
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
Oh, I remember, that's another fact that I can consider--60 students ina classroom. I just hope, just in case we move there, my children would be in the A section since the're in honors' list.
@sunnypub (2130)
• United States
10 Mar 07
Well I can't afford private school and I am terrified to send my daughter to public school so I took the middle road and put my daughter into a Charter School. It is free but has more of the teaching styles of private schools. the teacher student ratio is low, there is more individual attention, it is a locked building, and the work is a little harder, which I like. It really is the best of both worlds. there are things you give up for most charter schools and that is public transportation. There are no busses so I have to take her and pick her up every day. Most charter schools don't offer any extracurricualr activites like the public schools, or when they do it is really small scale. So I have to make an extra effor to make sure my daughter gets those things, but it is so worht it to me. My daughter loves it too and doesn't want to leave. She has made really great friends, she loves her teachers, there is no gang activity. I just can't say enough about how wonderful the school is.
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
And speaking of extra curricular, their school is not behind of what the public school offers. The private school where they are enrolled sees has quiz bee, foundation day, sportsfest, etc. And the level of education is high. The math for grade 1 is already a grade 2 book. My 7 y/o is now dividing with remainder, and memorized all the tables in multiplication. And they were through with geometry already!
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@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
10 Mar 07
Public school for sure, teach them to be self reliant
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• Philippines
10 Mar 07
You really have a good point there, katyzzz.
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@rwoneca (11)
• United States
10 Mar 07
It honestly depends on the children. Early on the children will be fine in younger schools, but once they get into a high school there is a ton of pressure. If you think that they will be able to handle it and focus on school then transfer them, but if they may not be ready you may want to hold off.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I would say Private school. I know the cost is high but it's worth it. My daughter was in public school and didnt seem to learn anything or the teachers didnt care so I put her in private school and she had learned alot and was happy. It depends on how youand the child feels right for them.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
11 Mar 07
We live in an area with a very troubled public school system. About ten years ago a group of citizens sued the school district saying that it was racially biased and kids on one side of town didn't get the education that kids on the other side did. It was, unfortunately, a white vs. black thing, which I found totally ridiculous. So they "desegregatd" the scholls, giving parents a choice on where they wanted to send their kids, kinda a first come first serve thing. It led to kids being on a bus for two hours, going all over town before getting to their school. The scholl board voted to go back to neighborhood scholls this next year and I am happy about it. Maybe they can dump all that gas money into educational programs. My daughter has always gone to public schools and we have never had any problems, but we stay involved. And the lack of parental involvement is the biggest problem facing the schools. My daughter has gotten a good education thus far. My SIL who is the same age goes to private school, same grade level as our daughter. There is no doubt she has gotten an exceptional education, but the pressure is also greater in her school. And as far as manners? My daughter knows how to deal with a diverse group of people, where as my sister in law is convinced the whole world is white and drives Escalades. I wouldn't send my daughter to private school just because I see the attitude these private school kids already exude at such a young age.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
11 Mar 07
School, I can spell it! I swear! Although you can't tell by reading my post! :)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
All I can say is... I'd choose private school!
@men82in (1270)
• India
11 Mar 07
Each and every private school having their specialisation in a subject. We the parent to findout with the management regarding tutors. Public schools meant for government grants and benefits to tutors. Whether the student is well or not the tutors getting their bugs regularly. In private schools regularly monitoring the student's learning capacity. Eventhough from publicschools' gems might be, but unlike private schools' talent and IQ.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
11 Mar 07
well if the level of the teaching and the learning subjects are higher at private schools i would be a good idea to send them to a private school if the people in the private school are more discent people then i will sens them there but if this two criteria does not exist in the private school i would advice that the children will stay in public school.
@denden (803)
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
i will refer to private school than public school because public school the facilities there is insufficient and there are bad influences that may influence our children. in private school they have a religious subject which can help our children enhance their spiritual aspects of their life..
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
high respect is hereby given to these public school teachers who are really making their job in order for these elementary pupils have a great knowledge.. Based from experience i do learned a lot being a public pupil... Aside from the low expense, friendly people were there and were ready for friendship and help...