Spare the rod,spoil the child? what do you think?

@sincere (178)
India
March 10, 2007 3:46am CST
Respected parents of their children,spare the rod spoil the child,I know this is old cliche but still worht enough to be noteciable.This morning i was in market,i saw a child saying to his mom" mama i need this ,mama i need this.First mother shouted stop crying then she threated him and finally slaped him.And child was of the age of 3 years,was it good humanity to hit child who even doesnt reach their maturity level.Which one is better to teach your children by discipline or by punishment and humiliating?Many times i found that,father screaming at his doughter,"get out of my sight,dont show me your face.Friends is it justified to humiliate or punish children rather than discipline them?I have gone through the article say,the children are who are beaten at school can complaint their parents ,principal but those who are beaten by their love one where they will go to complaint?Dont you think i makes psycological changes to children?Many parents think that beating is the solution to discipline their children,what do you think?
3 responses
10 Mar 07
i don't believe that beating is the way to go i discipline my child at the moment im using a naughty box when he is naughty if i have to tell him more than 3 times a toy goes in the naughty box and he doesn't get it back until i think he has been good enough to earn it back this method is going down a treat.i even do this while im out cause i eplain ill put a toy in when i get home and if he's still been naughty i make sure i follow through with what i said as soon as i get in.
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@gbolly54 (662)
• Nigeria
10 Mar 07
For a child to grow into a responsible adult, it needs to be well guided by the parents. Guidance can take several forms, including verbal cautioning, threat of punishment, threat of denials, mild to strong spanking. Each child differs from another; each one requires different approaches to guidance. Verbal cautioning and threats should precede the other more harsh approaches. However, stronger approaches should be applied where the softer ones have consistently failed. Spanking and other harsh punishments are the language some children understand. There was the case of an armed robber tied to the stake for execution who called for his mom, and bit off her ear under the pretext that he wanted to tell her something. He condemned the mother aloud that she was the cause of her bad way of life through over-pampering.
@sincere (178)
• India
12 Mar 07
Children in their childhood are in the stage of learning process.sometimes they dont understand,am i learning right thingh or wrong?The best source they find to learn is imitating other.So if child doing somethingh wrong,then parents should do the same act(just acting) in the right way so child will learn that,whaever he is doing other are opposite to him\her.And child definitely start doing in your way.
• United States
10 Mar 07
Hitting= Hitting- if you teach a child to "hit" when mad, upset, that is what they will mimic. I don't spank, don't ever plan to (and after being a nanny for many years, you are NOT allowed to spank, and yes, there are methods of discipline that have nothing to do with spanking!) Hitting, slapping is humiliation and I don't see what purpose it accomplishes...look at our world- does violence ever accomplish anything? Can't think of a time.....
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@sincere (178)
• India
12 Mar 07
im totally agree with you.There are lot way to discipline child,if child is turn out to naughty they treat with him\her in a naughty way.Becouse mostly children in this violent world learn more from their collegues than their parents.Better to treat with them in their pattern.
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
12 Mar 07
Hiii, I think giving punishments to children is okay but beating them is not good.there should be a law for parents to be imprisoned for hammering their child.