Think you got it to ADOPT?

@Profetu (1253)
Romania
March 10, 2007 9:27am CST
If put in the situation of adopting...WOULD YOU? or better yet: Could you deal with it?Can you deal with the thought that is NOT yours? Saying that you can't make one and you are "forced" to addopt one...would you be able to care for him as it was yours?When he/she will grow up...and it will not resemble you...will that affect anything? If you think that you are up for it.....give it a try on ME (giggle) and see what hell released on Earth is!!! (i'm not against adoptions by the way):P
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
10 Mar 07
I would love to adopt a child. I have friends who have adopted children who are very happy, and I feel badly for the children that languish in the foster care system, or worse. I think it's a wonderful thing to do for the child, and for the world. I do have one child of my own, and that's all I plan on having in that way. Right now we're not in a financial situation where we could afford to adopt a child, but I do hope that at some time we are. Once my son is a little older, I would love to adopt a sibling for him. =) As a child who grew up in a family that was abusive, I know that the biological links between parent and child do not guarantee either love or proper treatment. I would like to give a child the type of home I always wished I could have grown up in.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
WOW...Once again I am left with no proper words to comment what you said. I also think that the financial situation must be more than good to "handle "one or more children and to give them the opportunity of a carefree life.At least until they'll grow up. I admire the open-minded way you have regarding adoption. I am deeply sory to hear that your childhood was not the best..but I am so sure that you learmed from your parents's mistake and that now you are an incredible parent... Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. :)
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
11 Mar 07
Awww. I really don't mean to be so negative all the time, I promise! It's just that's my way of dealing with things: applying the negative experiences of my past to positive ways I can influence the future. I hope you understand! I do hope to use my parent's mistakes to become a better parent, to my own child, and assuming my financial situation gets better, to other children as well. =)
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
i sure can understand , dear friend. I try at least to do the same but in a diferent manner.I guess that's why everybody calls me a "negative" one (heheh)...and i keep teliing them "no , no , i'm just trying to be realistic here). I'm sure that you will do a great job in life (guess it's because you've opened your eyes and started "seeing").
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@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
11 Mar 07
Yessssss, I'm sure I could adopt yee. Put you in your place, make you behave. Hell has no fury like a Profetu scorned; Yet Earth is prepared for yee. Where have you been btw, missing in action for a time. I did notice. Did you're computer get hijacked or was it an overdose of chocolate? Are you in need of chicken soup perhaps? I'd make sure you were tucked in with warm chocolate milk, kiss you on the forehead and wish you sweet dreams and cosmic journeys. Am not a mum this time round but have no problems with adoption, what a gift to give someone else.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
Dear Tetchie...lots of hugs! I was missing all the action because I was very tired.I barely do sports,and I had to chop wood all day(thursday that would be and my muscles became over-stressed.I had what we call here "muscle fever" and I was like a grandpa for a couple of days lol).Than there is another factor: I was backing of a little so that you all can see my beloved in her beauty.*wink* I enjoy admiring what she is writing,and I wanted all of you to see her as I do.:) Thanks dear Tetchie.Lots of hugs!!!!!Can I have a TimTam please? (smile)
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
12 Mar 07
You can certainly have a Tim Tam.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
12 Mar 07
yummy!! thank you.
@gharinder (2044)
• India
10 Mar 07
i dont mind adoption, my cousin sister too had adopted two girls since she had some problems and was not able to conceive, if we can love pets, they still are human, so i dont think it makes any large difference, there are so many people who have adopted and made their life beautiful. tell me the procedure i will adopt you both----------hee---------its good i am elder to both of you.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
hahahaa....thank you ,thank you but do you really know what you're up for? Your hair will turn grey and fall...before we finish with you (rofl...ehhehe). Oh and Ps : the "elder" the better...we love a good ol' challenge ! :))
@gharinder (2044)
• India
12 Mar 07
yes, it will be a distance adoption, atleast you wont be able to mess my home---------------heeeeeeee----------and mom can handle their children-------hee, and the largest benefit will be , i can scold both of you, isnt?
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
11 Mar 07
Oh yes I would adopt a child, yes I could deal wtih it. After all I am an adopted child. I would give him or her a lot of love and everything that they really needed in their life just because the child is not really mine, I would give everything to the child so they would love me and not have to have any feelings that they would be hurt deep down in their hearts. Children do grow up to look like their adopted parents and have a lot of their traits and habits.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
They are more fragile than the other kids,aren't they? Thanks
@shannon76 (1234)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Before I got married (it will be 2 years in June) I always said that I would rather adopt then bring another child into this world. I wanted to save the unwanted children and be able to care for a child that had not got the proper care before. I now have a baby boy that will be one year old in about two weeks and my whole thinking of adoption has changed. I am now not so sure that I could take care of someone else's child. Not that I don't like other kids or anything like that. It is just different. My baby means the world to me and my husband. Nothing can even compare to that bond of a child with their biological parents. I am not sure that I could provide that love for a child that is not my own. I have two nieces from my sister and two nephews from my husbands sister and believe me when I say that I love them all dearly. They are so much fun to play with and spend time with, but I also love to give them back to their parents. Which for my child, I love to take home with me. I love knowing he is of my blood and he is being care for by my husband and I. I know there are so many kids out there that deserve that and that are not being taken care of and I would love to say that I could do that. But I am not so sure anymore that I could.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
I understand perfectly what you are saying there.I think a lot of couples are going through the same thing. Thank you and best of luck!I wish you and your family all the health and hapiness in the world!
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• United States
11 Mar 07
I will adopt you!! Your nothing I can't handle. LOL Anyway I would be able to love an adopted child as my own. Heck I already love my cousins kids (who I barely see) as they were my own. I have even fallen in love with children belonging to friends of mine. God made me with a huge maternal instinct. I was made to be a mommy!
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
*smile*...dear maildumpster...you do have a very developed maternal skill. I already told you that I think you are a great mother.And I am so sure that you can give so much love to all the children.. I thank you so much,dear friend for taking time to answer this one :) *hugs*
• United States
11 Mar 07
ooh man... Good topic of discussion! To me, it wouldn't matter that the child isn't mine... I would still be their parental and guide them through life and take care of them as if they were my own... There are good kids out there that need a home and don't have one... More people should adopt them. They deserve it.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
I think that too. Thanks
• United States
10 Mar 07
I wouldn't have any problem with adopting and when I adopt, the child is mine. He or she may not have my blood in them but my heart will be in them because I will teach them my values and I will love them because I chose them. I think that people who are absorbed with whether or not a child looks like them or has their blood are immature and shouldn't adopt. That's a very selfish attitude and someone who is that selfish has no business adopting a child or having one, for that matter. If someone is that consumed over having a child because of blood, they aren't having a child for the right reason and they have no business being a parent. You don't have a child to satisfy some need in you about your bloodline. You have a child because you want to love and nurture them and because you believe you have something to give and impart into that child. You also shouldn't have a child to manufacture someone who will love you because a child will love you one day and hate you the next when they are growing up and eventually they may hate you as an adult, especially if that is your reason to have a child.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
If only more people would think like that... Thanks.
• United States
10 Mar 07
Actually, if I were going to have a child, I would prefer to adopt. I really don't want to have to go through the pain of child birth. And why should I produce a new living being when there are so many already that need caring, loving homes?
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
I think this would be an idea ... to adopt because you are afraid of giving birth. Well i'm no women so i can't really say anything about that but i think it's wonderful that some of you are up for it.Thank you
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I believe it really depends on the person alone, Sure, thinking about it, I would say sure I can adopt. I think if I couldn't have any children and I wanted more I know there is always adoption that is available to me. I wouldn't worry about if that child resembles me or care for him/her like they are my own..They would be mine... I feel that the people who think of if that child going to look like them or what not, really not looking at the bigger picture, that's making your family whole and giving a child a chance at life as well rather than stuck in a foster home for most of it...
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
I think it depends on the person alone too...and the education THEY received about that.Not mentioning that it must be an open-minded person to be able to handle this.
@kaplya (1578)
• India
10 Mar 07
why not? if given a chance for sure i m going to adopt a child. in my opinion those people must have very shallow emotions and feelings who need their own blood and flesh to show them!i m not able to understand such mentality towards an adopted child i think if there's true feeling and love in ur heart there's no need for specific things to help them come on surface. adoptation is one of my ideas in fact, if i'll have capicity and ability then i m going to adopt. today this world is so full of orphan children that we don't really need to have our own children, i believe. we should just lighten up the lives of those already present on earth instead of bringing some new lives on earth!
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
Your avatar kills me...rofl.. Ahh you will find different kind of attitudes...and people who think different. People are strange someone said...and we are :) Maybe we wouldn't have that much orphans of we had a better education...we just don't care anymore for anything but the money. I think that we really must STOP the time for a day and resolve our problems so far....
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• United States
10 Mar 07
I am completely for adoption. There is a love for children that is unspeakable whether they are your or not. I currently have three children of my own and my husband has a son of his own. When my husband and I got together he knew I could not have any more kids because I got tied. ^ years later we are married and he decided he'd like to have oneof our own. We have discussed it and adoption is always a possibility if problems occur. Just because the child will not look like you does not mean you will love them any less. When you take the time and effort it takes to raise a child, you will love them wholeheartedly, no matter what.
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
I totally agree with you , and the answers above. This "problem",however ,is solved by many of us saying that we will love , care , guide ,etc them.But i've seen people change a lot.People who can actually change and get frustrated when it comes to an "arguement" inside the family.The "sides" are established from the begining. If you get into a fight with your loved one...i think the kids will take sides (in most of the cases). What i'm trying to say here is : take care with them because things can change.Thank you for posting
• United States
10 Mar 07
Not only do I think that I am up for it, we often have thought that it would be the way to go for us. There are so many older kids in the world that need a home and to be honest, I am not all that sold on the entire diaper stage. We love to travel and do things and I would love to share that with a child. It wouldn't make a difference to me if they looked like me or not, heck, they would probably be better off if they didn't...LOL
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
I presume that you really do have a desire to raise "the" children , even if they are not your own.I say "the" because of the strong beleifs that you show in your post , that of "sharing" with anyone who starts his life (besides you ;as a child).thank you for posting here. Hello there dear friend(s) , i'm a little back on the track.You also considered even the "big" one's didn't you ? (hehe)My thoughts at first were : well if i'm not up for making my own...then perhaps , perhaps...Then it struck me , what if that kid is older already? Guess it's a matter of adaptation and learning, from both sides of the problem.(It's like meeting aliens....small ones). Didn't really thought that i would stir up some answers...but , THANK YOU !
@Ravian (51)
• Pakistan
11 Mar 07
Adopting is a ggod thing specially childern. But i think first of all ppl should ask themselves that they can take care and traet the adopted as their own and only then they should adopt. If after adoption the parents will not give equal attention to adopted child, it will make their life more miserable than before.
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
Thank you.
@alirana (297)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 07
All Human beings are From Adams so Adams made from Soil or clay..so if there is any child out of your race or religion needs to be adopted.i don't think so that their is any problem to do this. Since all human share the same value.If i could adopt i will give my best of love to any kids i adopt.
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
That is a wonderful way to see things. Thank you!
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
I would adopt only if I know I am ready emotionally, physicaally and financially. Raising a child would be challenging and I want to be prepared. Adopting isn't bad, at least you saved a child's life.
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
Thanks
• Philippines
11 Mar 07
Yes. In fact, if I reach the age of 35 and still unmarried, I will adopt one. There are a lot of children who were not born to a privileged life. Hopefully by that time I am already stable financially and am able to provide for him/her. I don't care if he/she won't look like me (although I must admit that I am really looking forward to having kids of my own). I think what's important is that I am able to change someone's life and give him/her an opportunity to live a decent life when he/she grows older. :)
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
Many thanks.
• India
11 Mar 07
I think adopting is very good, but u can't make someone to become u or behave like u, even twins donot behave same. somethings are meant the way they are even u force they would not be changed
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
Thank you.
• United States
11 Mar 07
i personally do not want children and am looking into getting my tubes tied. However, if i DID want a child, i would prefer to adopt than carry my own child. There are so many children out there who need homes. i hate this world. It is filthy disgusting, corrupt...why would i want to bring another life into it?
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
Ehmm..ok.Thanks.That's a very positive way of thinking..........
• United States
11 Mar 07
I do think by the time I have a house i'll adopt a kid. It's nothing to love a child unconditionally. I know it's costly and all. I am not the spend drift type. I also know I could not adopt a child with many issues to deal with. This is just my heart being to weak and all. I wish I could adopt now but,I don't have the cash.
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
11 Mar 07
They sure need a secure financial situation. Thank you.