Should I forgive him?

@giregla (148)
Philippines
March 10, 2007 11:52am CST
My bf admitted/confessed to me that he had an affair wih someone whe we were like just a year together. He did not really tell me all the details, and slowly those details like they did kiss, they wrote letters, they both shared a lot of time in the span of a week together and a lo t more. My boyfriend tol me he did not say I love you to the girl even once, but later I found out that he wrote letters with I love you content to the girl. It really hurts! But the good thing is that he was the one who confessed to me that he had an affair. Do you think that I should like forget and forgive? what should I do? If you're in my shoe, what would you do?
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@carlysle (271)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
its really up to you and how you feel. did he ask for forgiveness for lying to you?? if you think his sincere in his apologies and you want to go. there is still hope if both of you still want to be together... a lie is still a lie.. if it was me it is so hard for me to trust someone who could hurt me that much... i dont think i could ever go on with the relationship.. there would be a lot of trust issues...
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@giregla (148)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
yeah. he did asked for forgiveness. I told him I'd forgive him but the trust will never be back, well maybe not now. I love hi very much. He said that he is willing to suffer the consequences of what he did and I believed him. Do you think I did the right thing? I hope I did.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
22 Mar 07
If you think that the man is worth it and it is worth continuing a relationship, then maybe you should. Change roles, if you were to 'err' while caring for someone, what would you like that person to do, to forgive you or not to? I am sure that once you do that, you will get an answer to your dilemna.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
22 Mar 07
An after thought, methinks that whatevcr any one else says, the answer lies within you alone.
@Beowulf (552)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
Its hard to forgive and forget. When a guy/girl cheats on you, mostly the trust will be gone or atleast be broken. It would be hard to trust him/her, you might think that you're paranoid or something like that. Trust is something earned. You might want to give him a chance to make up for his fault. If the love is still the same you could forgive the guy, forgive and forget they say. If this is easy for you but most people in general would just be - forgiven but not forgotten. Well, there's a song written by The Corrs that sounds like this. Maybe you want to listen to it and then think for awhile.