Do NOT grab my Ears!! I don't need a MAP!

United States
March 10, 2007 10:08pm CST
What do you say to a loved one in the middle of an intimate moment? The man or woman who is guiding agressively in what you are trying to accomplish sexually? Do you find it offensive? Or do you appreciate their direct order? Just Curious?
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@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
11 Mar 07
I think after some time together you should have a pretty good idea what your partners likes and dislikes are. I also think that couples should communicate what they like and don't like. Most of the time a wife puts up with what a husband wants because she doesn't know how to tell him without starting some sort of war.
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• United States
11 Mar 07
OR ... fears that it will. You have hit the nail ... well sort of... on the head. Who wants to kill the mood so to speak? I feel it is a little more complicated than that. I don't mind him saying "do this or do that" but let go of my EARS!
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@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
11 Mar 07
that sounds AWFUL !!!!!!!!!!!!! maybe at times when you are up for it, jsy say red for stop, yellow for ok, or green for do it more otherwise why not just let it flow naturally and feel what each other is wanting and try to get with that grabbing ears? kick him out !
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@fatragu (677)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I told my hubby that if he ever directed my head while doing that then I would stop. I also told him that that was his one and only warning. He didn't believe me that night and tried to direct me and I stopped got into pj's and went to bed. Boy was he mad. I have issues with being touched and if I don't know that you are going to touch me I tend to panic and have anxiety problems. I told him that it was for his own safety and that of the "pokey" as I call it lol. Come to think of it that was over 2 years ago and he hasn't done it since.
• United States
11 Mar 07
I am truly LMAO. It sincerely is not funny. But I am happy to know that I am not alone in this matter. I could not kick him out over something he just does not comprehend in the heat of the moment, as the reversed reward is too great (so is he in his wholeness), I just want to be in control of the "moment".
• United States
11 Mar 07
both of you sound like a couple of whiners!!
@fatragu (677)
• United States
11 Mar 07
Well I told my husband about this post last night and he told me "You don't need to pull on her ears. That is what the pig tails are for lol" He got a kick out of my earlier response that I left on here.