And suddenly I realized

United States
March 12, 2007 9:58am CST
I know I talk alot about my mom, my kids and being a mom myself, but the truth is, my kids ,even though grown are still my babies, the most important job I have ever had is that of mom and I never knew i would miss my mother so much. Sometimes though, I sit and think on the things of yesteryear. Much of it just makes me laugh when I think of the stages we go through on the road to becoming adults. I was talking to a teenager that lives across the street from me and trying to guide her a little bit about the dangers of being out alone, the importance of realizing early that her parents are not at all stupid, but are very wise. Then I said something that kind of stopped me in my tracks, I looked her in the eye and said, someday you will know and you will call them and thank them for being a little strict on you. You will tell them you wish you had listened because things may have gone a little smoother for you if you had. And suddenly, at that moment, I realized, I have turned into my mother! I said all of the things to her that my mom said to me. All the things I swore I would never say! Another realization came to me too though, I am not at all horrified at the thought of being just like her. In fact, I feel really good about it. I can now look up toward heaven and say, see mom, I was listening afterall. I heard you and placed the knowledge somewhere within me until I needed it. I am my mother's daughter in every way, I am very much like her but with the individuality that she told me was also important. My mother's daughter, what a great person to be!!
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@charms88 (7541)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
Hello loves, thank you for sharing a little piece of your life. I honestly have to tell you that I need to control my tears while reading your post. Because it bring so much memories that I have with my mother. For the short time that we've been together, I still miss her this much. Too much that it hurt. I always wonder what will it be like if my mother was still alive. Maybe, she will be here with her grandchildren and teaching them to paint. Deep in my heart, I know my mother is in heaven now and happily leading a cancer-free life. All the best, loves.
• United States
12 Mar 07
Oh sweetie, this may sound strange to some, but you can take comfort in those tears for they are tears of love. For me, I am happy that I am able to cry for my mother in this way. It would be so much worse to be crying for what I never had. I know it hurts, it always will in some way, but in that pain, know you were blessed in a way that some are not. Bless you and remember, a person is never completely gone as long as they are remembered. She lives on in your heart and if you look into your own eyes and into the eys of your children, you will see her.
@charms88 (7541)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
Thanks for the word of encouragement. All the best, loves
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• United States
12 Mar 07
Anytime charms, anytime
@12051976 (231)
• Ghana
14 Mar 07
hahahahahahhaaaa!(laughing) that's a brilliant story you know! its always like that and am happy you remembered all that you passed through with your mum. Thats why i love to be friends to people like you. People who are experienced and can really give me a helping hand in life through their rich experiences. i have always been a learner and will ever be a learner to get more experience to become a blessing someday like you doing.
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• United States
15 Mar 07
You have already become a blessing to me my friend. I have so enjoyed our correspondence with each other.
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
12 Mar 07
this is very deep and heart felt and really from the heart and you should be very proud to be a mom. I think about my mom all the time she passed away about 10 years ago but I think about all the stuff that she tought me in life and I tried to instill that in my kids. my kids are my best friends in life.
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• United States
13 Mar 07
I am sorry to hear about your mother's passing. I am indeed proud to be a mom, it is a gift with responsiblities and I love it!
• United States
12 Mar 07
Our parents do instill in us morals and beliefs when at the time they are delivered we just brush them off. Later on in our lives we pull out those words and refer to them when needed. It is a time honored tradition. My children will do the same one day.
• United States
12 Mar 07
This is so true, and even though I didn't know it at the time, it is a wonderul legacy.