spoiled child..good or bad?

@sahira (1072)
Philippines
March 12, 2007 10:47am CST
I don't like to spoil my son but i can't resist him on whatever he wants and does,since he is only one i have as of now..is it good to spoil a child or not?any ideas/opinions be appreciated..thanks!
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6 responses
• Singapore
12 Mar 07
No, I don't think it's good to spoil a child. It is fine to let him know that you love him and to treat him good. But to indulge him even if he does wrong... that is not something that should be done. Just my take. ;-)
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@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
ok,that's good idea..thank you!
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Very sound parenting. Do you have any childrens?
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@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
is it me,you are asking?yes i have one spoiled son.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Sahira, I strongly believe you know the answer to your question... You also know what will be result and the consequences of bring up a spoilt child... However, to answer the question, You have to decide what you want the child to be. Then bring the child up accordingly to you and your hubby's dream. Spoiling a child is like having time bomb, that might activate anytime. ( Sometimes this may not be the case) You need to give him undivided love and attentions, but sometimes there can be situation that you may not want to do what he asked for. This is where you should stand your grounds and never bulged from your decision. Enjoy his growing up with him, but never do anything that you might regret later. Happy Parenting
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@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
yes i know it's bad and it's good also,but i just want to know the other mothers out there about their opinion on spoiling a kid..because i want to know the right and wrong points when it comes to parenting..ok?thanks for the response!
@Phlamingho (7831)
• Denmark
12 Mar 07
It's bad to spoil your kid too much, but I have to admit that if I had a kid I probably couldn't help myself. I would spoil that poor kid out of its mind :-D
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@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
one day you'll have a kid and you'll realize how happy mother is!
@crosa125 (1484)
12 Mar 07
well i don't know why are you asking us,i'm sure you would do what ever you want again,it is good to spoil a child but if you will teach him how to appreciate it too,not like you are going to end up being his server,the more you give him the more he wants
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@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
ok.thanks for the response.
@myklaire (437)
• Philippines
12 Mar 07
I also spoil my eldest kid. He's 5 yrs old now and I buy him toys that he likes everytime we go the mall. Im a lenient mother but I don't see any reason to be strict and impose do's and don'ts. At his young age, I think it's alright to give him what he wants especially he's doing good at school. He's even the top student in his class (he's kinder 1, by the way). I want him to enjoy his youth. I want that when he'll grow up and look back, he'll have a colorful childhood memories.
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@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
That is also my point,giving him all he wants at his younger age..and i think it's not good to give all,i mean i spoil him in giving things he wants,but i should restrict him in his deeds that is not good.
@crystal8577 (1470)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I think a spoiled child becomes one who thinks they are entitled to things. It is important to not let this become a habit because you may not be able to spoil them forever. They can fall into the mindset that they are better than everyone else & that everyone should give them what they want. Worse than that is when a spoiled child becomes a spoiled adult in my opinion.
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@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
yes you are right..thanks for the good advice.