wanting a certain type of GIRLFRIEND

United States
March 12, 2007 11:38am CST
Well I'm 21 years old, black Male, and I stay in Los Angeles and one of the things that I really love is Japanese Cartoons (anime) Now every since I start liking Japanese Cartoons, I fell in love with the whole culture. With that the Women, which is where my problem is...I have no way the talk with a Japanese girl or any girls at that, most girl are afraid of me! if you can, please help
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
12 Mar 07
Why are they afraid of you? Just approche them gently ask them a question or 2, maybe join a group of some kind that interests you. There are alot of groups out there for people that have trouble meeting others =) Good luck!
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• United States
12 Mar 07
why, well I'm pretty big I guest, but to be honest I wouldnt know what to say to them, and this is to all girls not just Asian girls, but over the phone I have no problem talking to new people, hmmm i got to find out why that is. lol
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• United States
19 Mar 07
If you are fine with them over the phone, might want to use VoIP to chat with a few people in your area. Your 21 so you don't have to worry about net nanny or any thing (I hope). After you talk to them quite a bit, they wont be afraid of you in person, and you wont be afraid of them as much. Or go from VoIP to vid chat. If that doesn't interest you, get a few comic books and right down some conversation sentences and responses. Practice in front of a mirror. Yes actually practice it. I know it's corny and dorky but with out practice you'll end up stuttering when you try to say it to her. The brain works on memory, when you get nervous the part of your brain that thinks of new things (stuff not in memory) shuts down and the other parts of your brain takes over. If the sentences are in memory then your set. Just memorize a certain amount of information to get to the part of grabbing her digits. The hurdle is over with after that. You've got her number and can talk on the phone with her until your comfortable. If she asks, "Let's meet up!" just tell her your busy and can't. Then change the subject, never stay on a lie subject very long, it's the 'police-interragation' technique. The longer your on a lie subject the more you'll fumble and give out the truth. Tell you the truth boxervseible. It comes down to what type of girl you want. If you want a kewl laid back type of girl (other wise known as gurl), then doesn't matter what you act like, she will like you as long as you don't make her mad. If you can make her laugh, your doing great! If you want a rich almost snobish girl (not talking about any one in particular) then carry around a silk flower. Give it to her when you want to start a conversation. Give her a compliment. This is technically a pick-up line, but since your giving her a gift, she wont know it (unless she's a smart rich). As for picking up Asian girls .... learn their language. There are sites out there tho that allow you to pen pals with Asian people. They are trying to learn English so most of their messages or mail will be English. You write what you want to in either English or their language. They will like the English, and writing in their language will help teach you. Along with that, you can watch anime with no subtitles in their language. Your brain wont process their language if your reading the subtitles. Your brain only focuses on one item at a time and can only proccess 7 items to long term memory at any giving time. I'd love to read any responses you have, including but not limited to updates on how the girl/girlfriend thing is going, and if you try out any sites/plans and if they work or not!
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