A house on your street...

@Debs_place (10525)
United States
March 12, 2007 8:41pm CST
has been purchased to be used as a group home for 4 - 6 developmentally disabled adults. These people are austic and/ or retarded. They will never be home alone, there will always be staff to supervise and assist them. They have no criminal history. How would you feel about this? Would you be upset? Why?
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I would not be upset. Everyone needs a place to live. People who are developmentally disabled are people. They might need extra help but they still have feelings. I'm sure if they were told that someone was not happy about them moving in. it would make them sad. They want to be loved and have friends like everyone else. I would probably go to the place and see how I could help out.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Wow, ai mso happy I asked this, it is so nice to hear that the people on myLot are so much nicer then the rest of the world. I am sure the occupants would be happy to meet you. Thanks.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Wow, ai mso happy I asked this, it is so nice to hear that the people on myLot are so much nicer then the rest of the world. I am sure the occupants would be happy to meet you. Thanks.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I always beleive in treating people equally. Thanks :)
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@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
13 Mar 07
No I wouldn't be. There is a house behind us where the adult son is developmentally disabled and he sometimes makes strange animal sounds and they carry over the neighborhood on summer nights. The first time we heard it my husband thought there was a wild animal in the backyard. We spoke to the next door neighbor and she said oh dont worry that is just Joe he makes those sounds all the time. The lights are on over there all night long. I think he stays up all night and watches TV, but I dont think he is a threat to anyone. I dont think he could live there if he was. Besides the neighbor across the street painted her house dark purple and lavender. Her taste is all in her mouth. So if the neighborhood was going to be devalued that would have done it. Besides it makes a good landmark when people are looking for our house. We just have to say We live across the street from the purple house, you cant miss it and they never do. No I wouldn't worry. If it was a house with perverts they were trying to rehabilitate I would throw a real hissy fit.
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
14 Mar 07
It is actually a older lady watching out for him . I feel really bad for her. But the purple house definately is more disturbing then the house with the developmentally disabled guy living in it.
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Of course not, why would I be upset? They have an equal right to live anywhere the others live too. I would in fact maybe think of volunteering to help there. I have been to old age homes and also worked with mentally challenged children,so I know how to deal with them.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
This is very nice, I am so glad to hear these things. You know it is funny, that I don't know where any one here so far lives, I might be working on therir street next week orr next year. Thanks.
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@brendalee (6083)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I would not be upset by this at all. In my community there are many of these houses. As a matter of fact, my son's girlfriend works at one of them. She loves her job and she says they are some very wonderful people there. They keep a close eye on them so there is very little chance of them causing any trouble. I doubt that they would cause much trouble anyway.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
You hit the nail right on the head, these guys are very well supervised. I am getting a 2 week orientation and there is much more training to go. Never having worked in the field, it is so great, because I am getting such a chance to learn. ANd I think, that after 25 years of working with computers, I will not get a chance to help people. That is kind of exciting, a nice feeling.
@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
Even if they aren't supervised, 99% of dd adults would never do anything to hurt anyone else. They tend to be more sensitive to others' feelings than the rest ofus, probably because they've been treated so badly in life.
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• United States
13 Mar 07
i think as long as they are being supervised and they aren't a danger to them selves or to society then its fine let them move in on my street
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
It is good to hear you say that.
• United States
13 Mar 07
To be honest, I did have this happen to us and the house was for "handicapped". I was angry that people were so evil as to complain, as if these people had no right. BUT oddly enough, it was ME and my family who suffered the after effects. My daughter, then about 7 years old, was stalked by a 50 something yr old man that she had said hello to. End result, between the D.A.'s office and new stalker laws we had him removed from that home but it didn't matter, by that time he had already done damage to at least 2 other kids by molesting them. So while I can relate to not wanting to "not have it in my yard"... I can also now fully relate to "I don't want to take the chances with MY family".
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
It sounds more like a halfway house then a house for developmentally Disabled adults. Some one lied to you about the nature of the house. I am really sorry about that. Did anyone look into the organization that purchased the house and check on their history? I understand what you are saying. Thanks for being so honest.
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@Jarose80 (42)
• United States
13 Mar 07
This wouldn't bother me at all. I live in a relatively small town that has a State prison, the state hospital for the mentally handicapped which used to be the state prison for the mentally handicapped, the state school for the visually impaired as well as the state school for the hearing impaired. I remember when we first moved into town and heard some of the people in church describe these places as dark clouds over the city, that they were a horrible thing to have here and it broke my heart. These people can't help the way they are and don't deserve to be treated as problems. (Well, except for the prison...they deserve to be there, for the most part)
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• Canada
28 Dec 07
Certainly not Deb! These people have always had a special place in my heart... I was an Educational Assistant before my son was born and diagnosed with Autism...He is such a joy and he works so hard to learn from his therapists! It gives me joy when I see these people being accepted in society and attaining employment...Tim Hortons here in Ontario Canada is a prime example as they often hire people of varying age and ability to work. I know of a beautiful "special" girl that works at one down the street from here...You often see her clearing and wiping the tables so efficiently and it makes my heart glad to see her in that uniform! I too have dreams for my son... Thanks for the discussion! :) ~Heavens~
• Canada
28 Dec 07
Well said heavenschild. I couldn't agree more with you.:)
• Canada
29 Dec 07
Thanks so much Mom... It's great to see you here! :)
13 Mar 07
I think it is great that these people are given the chance to live in a proper community. If they are autistic they are no threat to anyone else and they are being helped anyway, so I wouldn't be worried.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
April is autism awareness month, at least around here it is. I am really surprised that so many people are so willing and open. Did you know many people feel that Einstein was autistic?
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
No it would be fine with me people cannot help that they are austic or retarded, this would not worry me it would be better than barking dogs, or noisy children which are hard to be controlled some times.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Yes, or people who play loud music, because they think the whole neighborhood likes their music. Trust me, these guys are among the quietest neightbors that one could have. For you shift workers, absolutely perfect.
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Wouldnt affect me at all. When I used to work at a local grocery store. There was a mentally handicapped woman came in once a week. She always thought people were making fun of her and she would scream at them and cry. I was the only one who could control her. I had to ring her grocerys up even and it was not my job to run register. One day she was having a fit and I was outside on my lunch break. they had to come and get me to calm her down. I did not know the lady. I just seem to be able to relate to peole with problems well. I love all people and I am thankful every day that I am not trapped inside myself like some mentally disabled people are.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
SOme people just have a knack for working with the disabled. I think they are naturally very nice and trustworthy people. Glad to know you are one of them and among my friends.
@bgerig (1259)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I would not be upset at all. There will probably be more security and attention to that neighborhood now than if that kind of housing unit was not there.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
That is true, when they go to remodel the homes, they have to meet standards way and above the usual standards.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I wouldn't. Why would I be upset? I was working with retarded children. They are not animals, they are just sick people.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Well, they are not sick, they are just not as lucky as we are. I must admit, when I heard severely retarded, that i did not know what to expect, then I saw of the guys, setting the table, the plates, the napkins, the silverware. He sure put more into then I would have. I have been really impressed overall with thees guys.
• United States
13 Mar 07
I will not be bothered at all. I would be bothered by normal people like my neighbors who are so annoying because they are not retarded but act worse hahaha. There's nothing wrong with the developmentally disabled, as long as they have people to supervise them.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
13 Mar 07
That I understand. It is the people that are capable of more, that act so awful that is aggravating. Supervise- they have to check on all of the inhabitants of the house, at night, every 15 minutes, it must be stated what they are doing, sleeping, awake, bathroom etc. I can not believe how supervised they are.
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• United States
14 Mar 07
It is so imprtant today to be aware of who is living in your neighborhood. In this case, I would certainly have no objections. People with developmental disabilities should be able to live in neighborhood communities like anyone else.
@GardenGerty (102595)
• United States
14 Mar 07
My second job is to help staff such a home, except this organization built their duplexes new, with offices and an activity center nearby. The neighborhood grew up around them, they were there first. We did have a big flap about twenty years ago when a prominent citizen sold his home to a different agency. Neighbors were protesting loudly about property values, etc. The house sold, and became occupied, and it was almost six months until the neighbors knew it was them. I would prefer these people over some other neighbors I have had.
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
13 Mar 07
no. i would not be upaset. why should i. i think it is wonderful that there is an oppurtunity to those peope to try and live a normal life in the day to day reality. and think that it is wonderful for kids to see different kinds of people and to live among them. i welcome this step.
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
13 Mar 07
That is preferable to the group home for convicts. That said you would be well aware that once you allow this more might follow. You would have to think about that being the possibility. Also would need to be aware since every now and then one of them wander off and you might be surprised to look up while gardening and see one of them standing there. No harm, just a big surprise.
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@Bev1986 (1427)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Nope, I wouldn't be upset. My husband has worked for companies who work with the mentally disabled his whole life. He even worked in a group home just like you described. They are watched very closely and can bring real joy to your neighborhood.
@clod0327 (817)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
No, I will not feel upset. They’re building a home to take care of individuals who need care attention. So it’s a worthy cause and there’s no reason for me to be upset.
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