I have two BOYFRIENDS at the same time..

Philippines
March 12, 2007 9:51pm CST
i dont know how it all started.. well i guess its because of my current boyfriend,,its just like one day when i wake up in the morning i just realized that im getting so bored to our relationship. things aren't new for both of us,same things happened that's why i got easily bored... Were almost a year.. but i could'nt feel the spark anymore.. He's nice but he doesnt even know how to hold my hands, kiss me goodbye, hug me.. He can't really show his affection. Im tired of it.. I cant tell this to him because I might get him offended.. this was the reason why I got to know this other guy.. this guy was so sweet he does things i want.. and im happy whenever where together.. How can i tell my boyfriend that im having another guy besides him?.. how can i do that, he's been so nice to me,, and i dont wana hurt his feelings.. im just loving this guy day after day.. and it bothers me everyday..
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6 responses
@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
13 Mar 07
You have to make a decision real fast before he really gets hurt by hearing it from someone else. What if they both find out and both of them leave you? He will be hurt at first but then will go on his way and find someone else soon.
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Thank you for best response. Have a wonderful weekend.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
18 May 11
Hi. hiddenpoetry. Welcome to myLot! You will have to find a suitable moment and tell your current boyfriend that you have someone else that you are now talking to. I know that it won't be easy, but you will have to tell him the truth. If he finds out on his own, he will be so devastated.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
18 May 11
I also wanted to add that I dated three brothers at the same time. They all lived in the same house together. They all knew that I was dating them too. They did not have a problem with me being with them all at one time. I was about 6 or 7 years old when this happened. I was a little girl then. They all knew I was dating them all. But your boyfriend does not know that you have someone else.
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• United States
28 May 10
Wow my story is this one . . . I went out with my boyfriend for two years aswell and just didn't feel any love for him anymore , found another guy and didn't know how to tell my boyfriend , he was always nice to me and i really didn't want to loose our realationship , i wanted to keep him as a friend but I knew telling him I found another guy will make him never want to talk to me again , that's why i started random arguments with him and made it seem like it was him who started the argument or made me feel bad , there's always something your boyfriend does that can get you mad and make it a big deal ! So then I broke up wit him and told him it was his fault and that we should just be friends my plans worked until this day we are bestfriends and have our own lives :) it's goin to be difficult and you will feel guilty but you won't regret it becuase you guys will still be friends ! Hope I helped .
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• Malaysia
7 Apr 07
I am facing the same problems as urs rite now except that I don't have another guy~~ I am a chubby & not pretty as other gals, & i knew him in the internet. He is nice, & accepted me as who am I. But He did not dare to hold my hands, hug me or kiss me in the public, where it makes my heart aches. It's hurt me more, when he told me that he did mind my appearance even though that he love me. To tell u the truth I'm really happy to meet him, & have him as my partner, but fate did not last long... I fought wid him yesterday, lastly v asked for break up~ Now I donno whether I want to keep this relationship to go on or not, I just know that I am confused now..
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@heartsick (832)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
the more you keep this secret to your boyfriend the more ur situation is getting worse. I Think u should talk to him about this. because it is better to talk about your feelings and what you want in order to have a good relationship. but if you think that you no longer have feelings for this guy, i think u should tell him once and for all.. coz the more you keep it the more you hurt him. if he loves you then he'll understand. i can't blame you if you fell in love to other guy. but on the other hand what you did is cheating. but its love that comes your way you cant stop it.. i just hope you make the right decision and ready to face the consequences. as long as your happy then follow your heart. forget the guilt feeling if you want to be happy.. truth will set you free.. (am i getting sense hir.. got to go,, i dont even understand my english haha)
@mEisky (825)
• Philippines
31 May 11
Oh you made a bad thing. Im gonna be honest with you, I hate something like this. I hate people who's unfaithful. :( My bf did that once to me. And it really hurts so much. I hope you'll realize what you did was wrong.. GoodLuck!