How old should you be before you move out of your parents?

United States
March 12, 2007 10:56pm CST
I'm asking everyone their opinion. There isn't a right or wrong answer just what you think. Is it bad to move out at 18? Do you think that's too young? How old were you before you moved out? What's the main thing you need to think about before you move out? Sorry about all the questions. I'm just trying to decide whether to stay with my parents a couple more years or get my own place now.
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24 responses
• United States
13 Mar 07
I assume you are not going to college or else you would have to move out to the college. I am in college so this doesn't really apply to me but I think you should move out when you feel that you are ready. Between the ages of 18 and 25 would probably be best but it really depends on the individual and what is best for you. If you are happy living with your parents and you get along then stay. Good luck!
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• United States
14 Mar 07
Actually I am in college. I don't see why I would want to even think of moving there though. It's only about an hour away. I agree with 18 to 25 being a good age to move out.
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@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I was seventeen when I moved out. One of my best friends and I rented a house together when we were seniors in high school. It worked out okay, but I ended up moving in with my grandma to take care of her after a few months. It was hard living there because my parents suddenly had to know where I was going and who I was going with again since someone else had to stay with my grandma during those times. After my grandma went into a nursing home, I ended up living on my own again. Then had to move BACK in with my parents while I was in cosmetology school. My parents were always cool about it. They understood why I couldn't spend 40 hours a week in school, and still find enough time to work and pay rent and all my bills entirely by myself (I didn't have a roommate). I moved back out after I was done and lived by myself for another year and a half. Then I had to move in with my parents one more time. My lease expired in March and I was getting married in May. My parents didn't want me to have to look for another place to live for just six weeks. I would recommend waiting until you are sure you are ready to move out. Even if your parents let you move back in, it's much worse the second and third time you live there. They expect you to tell them when and where you are going (they have every right to) but you aren't used to having to tell anyone. It can make life difficult.
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@longhong (20)
• China
14 Mar 07
It has been a long time when I left wy home .I was fourteen ,after leaving wy home ,I learn to be independ ,in fact I left home because I have to go to study ,after many years ,I have accusmed to this life of leaving home.
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14 Mar 07
I think it really depends on your particular situation. Many young adults head off to college away from home at the age of 18 or 19 and live in dorms or other student housing. Others will go to a college near home so that they can live with their parents and save on rent. They might not end up moving out for a few years or even until they graduate. For many young people, it comes down to how long your parents are willing to let you stay and how long you are able to put up with your parents:) If you don't mind staying there and you aren't burdening your parents too much, then why not? It beats paying rent. Personally, I couldn't wait to get away from my parents' house and have some much-needed freedom. We got along just fine, but I needed my own space.
@cielo_22 (38)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
i have moved out from my parents one year after i graduated from high school.i decided to live on my own because i want to experience how to earn money and provide my own needs...fortunately i got a good job which im able to sustained my needs and i can helped them by sending money. moving out from your parents is really difficult but at the same time its good because you`ll be responsible for yourself.you can move away when you reach the age of maturity,theres no difinite age,as long as you know how to take care of your self and you can provide your own needs...
• United States
14 Mar 07
In the U.S. you can't get a place of your own on your own without being 18 so I would say at least 18. But besides that, I would not move out of my parents home until I was mature enough to take care of myself, my family and my responsibilities. Nor would I make that my parents problem. Sometimes you just got to grow up and be responsible. If you have a good relationship with your parents and you can use this time after high school to get your life organized and pay off school loans and stuff, do it. If not, then you may have to find your own place.
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@feralwoman (2199)
• Australia
14 Mar 07
I left home when I was 19 to go to university and I never went to live with my parents again. It was the right decision for me as it taught me how to be self sufficient and not dependent on them. I worked hard to earn money to pay a mortage on a house and started off with no furniture whatsoever! When you learn to do things from scratch, it makes you appreciate it all the more. However, this is just what happened to me. If you feel comfortable living with your folks and they let you live your own life then go ahead and save like crazy for your own place and when you're ready move out. Good luck! lol
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@chardyme (1632)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
i think you should moved out of your parents when the times comes that you really can do it by yourself. if your not stable and ready you should not move away from your parents.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 07
Well Ive heard in the states you should be 18 so you can move out in your parents house. But here in asia, it doesnt matter. even if you wanna live with your parents forever they wont mind and people wont mind.
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
14 Mar 07
i stay with my parents until i get married... that is the tradition in my original country... the children live with the parents until they are married... but again, it totally depends on individual... if they are ready and mature enough, they can go out and have their own space if they want to... but i will suggest at least to be 18 years old to do that...
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@classy56 (2884)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Giggles.if you feel that you are ready to move out an be on your own.then go ahead.there is no certain age saying you have to stay home with your parents.i moved out at 15.an i was so ready to be on my own.the main thing to think about is. "can you afford to pay your own way for anything..like move in with friends/or your own place.can you pay your share or all of the rent or whatever.if you answer yes" then i say you are ready.an you can still save money an still be on your own.
• United States
13 Mar 07
it depends on the culture though... im a filipino, and as long as you are single, you can live with your parents. even though your married, some of them still live with their parents, but for a reason, still not ready yet, financially. but for my situation, i moved to new york and my first time here(21), i live with my dad. after a year, i moved out...now im 23.you know americans, thats the american way, im an adult now so i need to be on my own, when im ready i look for a room and moved.
• United States
13 Mar 07
I didn't just move out of my grandmother's house I moved halfway across the world. I was almost 20 years old when I decided I wanted some excitement in my life so I moved from Scotland to North Africa. It was really a difficult decision as I loved my Granny dearly.
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@layamaria (102)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
In my country, some people don't let their children move out even when they marry. The elders even take care of their grandchildren and the home while their children work. I lived at home till I was 24, and had to comply with going home early, having to inform my parents when I go out, whom I'm going to be with, where I'm going, what we're doing there, and what time I planned to go home, and even being prevented from going out if my parents didn't want me to, having to ask my parent's recommendation about what to do with my life, and having to comply with what they think I should do with my life. Finally, I had enough and left home at age 24. Although it is difficult to have to entirely rely on yourself without having one's parents to run to when you're broke, I'm a whole lot happier. Even when my dad kept calling and asking if I needed that one way (note, one way) ticket home yet. I had to stay away for almost 3 years before my finances stabilized enough for me to be able to buy that round trip ticket home. Because if it wasn't round trip, I wouldn't be able to leave again!
• Romania
13 Mar 07
as you may probably recall, i said i am going to move in with my boyfriend although i am almost 19 and many people would certainly freak out and say that i'm crazy and that i should wait... but i have already made my mind although i can't really tell you what is the perfect age to move out from your parents house... i think it's only when you feel like leaving... i just felt that and here i go.... anyway this doesn't mean that everybody should act this way...
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I think you should be at least 18 years old before you even think about moving away from your parents home. I think you should at least stay with them long enough to get through High School. Sometimes children should stay with their parents longer if they do not have the knowledge, money or the skills to move out on their own. Alot of kids don't go to college and it is very hard for them to find a good paying job and be able to make it on their own. I say they should stay with their parents until they can make it by themselves, but do not sponge off of your parents for a long time and not even try to better yourself.
@cdparazo (5769)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
I'm 31 years old, have my own house but i still live in my parents house together with my 2 kids. So does my sister who is 30years old and my brother who is 24 years old. My sister and I are already financially independent but we still opt to live with our parents and my parents also prefer it that way. It's part of our filipino culture that even married children still live with the parents so that we could also get to take care of our parents when the time comes. If at 18 you are already emotionally mature, responsible and capable of taking care of yourself, then by all means move out. It's also a good way of realizing your capabilities too as a fully independent person. When you feel that it's already the right time, all you have to do is talk to your parents and explain to them your side and your reasons. If you are already mature enough, then you could get them to your way of thinking. Good luck!
• United States
13 Mar 07
My parents are all for it but I'm worried that if I do move out too early I could mess up my future. I'll probably wait another year or so and give myself some time to think about it and save up money.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 07
well for me as long your ready to supprot yourself.
@langhua (501)
• China
14 Mar 07
oh ,i thought it /s bad to movie out after 18years,i movie out of my parents when i was in mid-school.the school is far to my home ,so i stay at school every.
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
Why not save your money for college instead of saving it for rent? Just a suggestion. I hope I did not offend you.