Childrens From Broken Family

Boy crying - The effect of divorce on poor innocent childrens
@mdarma (868)
Singapore
March 13, 2007 1:24am CST
Whenever there is a divorce, the childrens are the badly effected party. These poor childrens undergo great emotional stress. How or what are the ways can these childrens be saved from these misery?
4 responses
• Malaysia
13 Mar 07
I came from a broken family. My parents divorce when I was 10. It was a hard time for me, but I survive. This is what I was going through on that time. I though I was losing a parent. Soon I realize that I am not losing a parent just that they are no longer living together. I learn to look at the brighter side of things. I have two homes. I have two source of pocket money. Two presents for my birthday. A child will be effected, thats for sure. But the divorce parents could less the bad effect by still showing that both of then still love the child, eventho they have no love for each other. The children could still live a happy life if both of the parents still care and shows love to the children. I'm 24 now, still in contact with both of my parents.
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@arnboy (357)
• India
13 Mar 07
I think you are the most positive person, i have ever encountered at Mylot. Its good that there are people like you, other wise the usual stereotyped image of the child suffering is all that people know and people prefer staying together in a troubled marriage, which leads to a child who is even more stressed out and lacking in confidence.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Hi webdrifter, as "aruboy" rightly put that you are a very positive individual. And I think this could be one of the factors that you are and have taken live into a dimension for yourself. You did mentioned the key phrase "the divorce parents could lessen the bad effect but still showing that both of them stili LOVE the child" Thank you and cheers to you
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Hi arubay it is nice that you acknowledge the positive attitude of webdrifter. I surely hope that his reply will help many people. Cheers to webdrifter
@Mbirck (73)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I do not like the term broken family. 1. because a lot of families are better off when a divorce happens. I come from what is termed a broken home, but our home was broken there, it fixed when my parents got divorced. Children are going to be upset when a divorce happens its only natural they go from living with both parents to living withe one and visiting the other. I feel its up to the parents to make sure the situation is handled as stress free as possible and for parents to remember to put there own feelings on the back burner and to put the kids first. Kids need to be reminded the divorce is not there fault as some feel they are cause of the divorce. Communication and reassurance are vital parts the parents need to have with their kids. Not all children who come from a "broken home" go through the misery and such some children realize that the divorce is a good thing. They will no longer have to take part in the fact that parents can not get along or live together.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Hi Mbirck I am truly sorry for not finding a better term. Your respond was good and i have marked best respond. It is nice to know that there are suitations when the ending is a happy on. Let us hope and pray that all these childrens eventually will get a happy ending Cheers
@Mbirck (73)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Hello Mdarma, I wish there was a better term out there for familys of divorce but thats the term they use. I am with you on the hopes and prayers that all children have a happy ending. Some times the parents are so wraped up in themselves during a divorce they forget what it does to the children! :) Have agreat day!
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
there is no way that one can answer a question so deep as this one here in a discussion. Understanding by the parents is necessary not fighting in front of the children not talking bad about each other in front of the children not refusing to let the children see the other parent talking to the children and making sure they know that they are still loved and had nothing to do with the divorce
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Yes winterose, irresponsible parents will contribute to the childrens misery by doing all the unnecessary and unpleasant things, as you mentioned infront of their childrens. Whatever the differences the parents may have, it is best to keep it away from the children. Thank you for your participation.
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
Hi, mdarma. I think that the best way to save them, if they are already in the situation, is constant communication from both parent. The parents should always tell them how much they love them. And that mommy and daddy may not be together anymore but are still the best of friends. Maybe, set aside one day in a week a picnic or any get together in either tha man's place or the mom's.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
13 Mar 07
Very sound and logical thinking. The secret is constant communication and that part that you mentioned "mommy and daddy may not be together anymore but are still the best of friends." Thank you lissienpaul for you comment