do you hate it aswell ??

@mimpi1911 (25455)
India
March 14, 2007 5:11am CST
do you hate when not being commented on your responses ?? well, its really annoying for me. after a thoughtful, studied and apparently appealing response when i go back to learn about the comment i see none, it feels awfully bad!! how can the user be so inert !! some which has quite a lot of responses, its understandable but the ones having only a few, it's gross. how do ya feel??
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21 responses
• Singapore
14 Mar 07
I have to confess that I do not comment on all responses. In fact, I wouldn't recommend you do that for your responses too. When you add in your own comments, the page gets lengthened and sort of spoil the conversation. So what I do is I will *selectively* comment. I do read every single response but I will comment only if you ask a non-rhetorical question, if I have something to say, or if your response is so exceptional that it begs comment. For discussions that get many responses, it also becomes impractical to respond to EVERY response. Think about it this way. If I look at just one discussion and reply to all 100 people - that would be 100 posts! Why, on good days, I might be able to make 100 posts. So saying, if I spend myself making that 100 responses, I cannot respond to discussions started by my friends - I would simply have no time. And for me, I like to start regular discussions. It's really not possible to make a few hundred posts a day.. :P So I strike a balance. I try to reply to my friends' discussions, as well as respond to the quality responses made to my discussions. I would also suggest that if your response isn't commented on, it might be that the discussion starter is not active anyway. If you know that a certain person will never bother to reply to anyone, then just drop him. Don't bother with his discussions anymore. :P
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@MySpot (2602)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Is there room for two in the confessional? It's nearly impossible and definitely impractical to comment on every response you read, especially if you stay very active. Truth is, myLot's guidelines suggest NOT commenting on every response you recieve. I also read every response but not all of them call for a comment. I do understand how you feel and sympathize because I have given long thought out responses and saw that other less informative responses were acknowledged but mine wasn't. I also take the time to check back on 'discussions I've replied to' but not everyone does and it's difficult because some are bumped and get lost in the shuffle. In fact, I took a day to go through them and went through 200 pages without finding specific ones I was looking for. I've been here for 6 months now too so I have a long list to sort through!
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
dear lordwarwizard i really appreciate your analysis, agree to it partly though. i feel, if possible, i should comment on the responses, unless they are very inane and worthless. i should try and acknowledge and credit or discredit the hard work accordingly. it's not advisable to comment on 100 responses or all responses for that matter, every day, but we can always take time out and catch up with the list. see, i am a person driven by my heart and this invariably surpasses my brain. obviously i do what i like doing even if i do not get the credit or incentive for that. thanx for sharing
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
dear myspot thanx for your input and you feel free to break in. infact, you are always welcome. yes, it's indeed impractical to revert to all the responses. however, i haven't had any problem whatsoever, obviously my discussions never could fetch deluge of those. LOL.... Time is an important factor but the urge was never low and the intention was at all time high. keep sharing...
@bluewings (3857)
14 Mar 07
I know what you mean.I try not to feel discouraged when someone doesn't comment to my reply even when there are few respondents.However,I understand when there is a deluge of responses to the discussion. I try to comment to all responses in my threads as much as possible.It's only when a discussion receives huge number of responses that I feel little intimidated.In that case,I always try to answer in the respondents discussions so they know that I did acknowledge their responses and visited their profile to check their threads. From now on ,I will make it a point to comment to atleast my friends responses no matter what .I will try to comment to as many others as I can manage. Hopefully, some of these days a solution will pop up and I will stop feeling guilty,lol.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
bluewings, i try to respond to the user who have responded to mine after reviewing their profiles. that is another way to make them feel special. why do you have to feel guilty, you are one of the most consistent mylotter who does just to all his friends. thank you
@bluewings (3857)
15 Mar 07
Thanks,Mimpi:-)I try.
• Ireland
14 Mar 07
I leave comments after all the responses which I receive to my discussions. It is just my personal choice, as I like to let people know I have read them and appreciate their response. I also don't like to be discourteous but that is another personal feeling. I don't get annoyed when people don't leave comments after my responses as I know it can be difficult if they have posted a lot of topics, but like you, if I post a response and there are only a couple of responses, then I think it would be nice to receive a comment. I find quite a lot of these people never bother to pick a best response either, so they are just posting in order to gain points.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
you have just spoke my words...i couldn't have expressed it better. thanx for sharing
@budsr03 (2355)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
I find it very annoying. I expect more from these users, but some people show their true colors. They are first and formost here for the earnings. It does take some mylotians a little longer co reply because of the many responses they get. But i do see some users starting new discussions and not even going back to review previous discussions that might have been replied to. Believe me you will hear many make excuses. There are people who will get back to you just give it time. Don't get to down thinks can improve. Take care Mimpi.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
Thanx budsr03, you are being very understanding. it really annoys when the user never go back to their discussions, posting is all they do to it!!
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
14 Mar 07
Well, I don't hate but sometimes somewhat disappointment I really feel. Response is always given after a thought and to add a comment really means that your response has been accorded by the person. But not necessarily to have a comment is imperative. No comment means nothing more than a little bit satisfaction. ;) Feel positive with your response while having no comment. I try to do so. If few responses are there then I really try to make some comments. Good Luck for next time.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
yes, HATE is a strong word and it's more of a dissapointment. you are right, it's all how we look at it. next time definitely i wouldn't be feeling that bad. courtesy: aliasad
@ironstruck (2300)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
I try to respond to as many as I can, but once you start 20 discussions a day it can get pretty time consuming. Sometimes, I just take an hour and go back and respond to an many responses to by discussions as possible..Also try and rate everyone a + and pick a best response.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
Even i do the same. i rate +, comment and even go back to recomment. i do agree, it takes some time to cover up all the responses, but i make sure revert. thanx
@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I had this problem in the beginning and so I took time to study the system to see why my discussions were not being seen. This is what I found, when you start a new discussion it only stays visible a few seconds on the first page. Most people never go beyond the first page to respond. I now get lots of responses, but it took me months to figure out how to do this. I will tell you my secret. I have spent a lot of time building my friends list to a whopping 500. I support all of my friends that support my discussions. Once I started adding more and more friends to my list my discussions started getting responses. As big as MyLot is today it is imperative to build a good strong friend base and support them.
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@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Sorry wrong response to your discussion. I wanted to let you know I do not always comment on all my responses because I have over 100 some times. But if you see a comment on the page it does mean I rated that page. Also I save some of my comments to responses to bring the topic back. So do not get discouraged, everyone has their system. When you have hundreds of responses it is very hard to comment to all of them.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Mar 07
this is understandable, taken the huge amount of responses your discussions manage to fetch. i feel, the reward should come either in the form of commenting or responding to other discussions posted by the user or any other form we feel appropriate. i just love been pampered and love to make others feel special aswell. thank you dear.
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
Sometimes I hate comments especially when they are bad comments and they disagree with my beliefs but sooner or later I realize that it is just a comment and time will pass that I won't get to remember it. As well as the person who tells that comment.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
i feel, we should be brave enough to withstand criticism. good things and bad things come and go, it's important to take it in our stride, that's life, dear. just have fun sweetie.
@aidonia (4210)
• Greece
15 Mar 07
I totally agree with you.I saw many people here never add a comment at them discussion.They thinking that is waste of time ....I 'm not sure if you get paid from this (I think but very little)and really I don't care at all.I always try add comments ,this is a way to show you start a discussion but YOU didn't even care about it ,and of course for all the people them come to response.So impolite.I admit this was the reason I stop response to some members. PS:I'm glad you aren't one of them.Before little you response to one of my discussion,the first thing I did when I open mylot was add for you a comment.....untill I type this post I saw you add comment to my comment.....thanks.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
thanx dear. you are being thoughtful and very sweet, as always. don't ever change. and one thing you are just doing great with English. congrats!!!
@healwell (1271)
• Ahmedabad, India
15 Mar 07
Why there should be hate if any one or few one is not responsing? We write because we want to write: Want to give comments or to express our our self and point of view! you can visit my posting and see that still there discusions i have started and yet no one is responded! But I know that what I wanted to put and start I have put and started now who will have such interest will come across and respond! That's all!
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
HATE is a strong word, i agree, but I do feel bit down when my much ‘passionate’ reponses donot get a credit or discredit for that matter. I know that this is not always acceptable but I have to be more poised like you to be in that stage where it would not matter atall. I can understand your viewpoint but what is the use of posting a opinion or query if not responded !! a discussion without no responses and counter comments is not justified. this not a journal. This site calls for a debate, discussion and not just airing a viewpoint!! Thank you, keep sharing
• United States
15 Mar 07
I have noticed that some of my questions (which are ask in the wee hours) someone has copied them to some effect in day time hours and have lots of responses. Maybe I am not wording them properly? It makes me feel like my questions are not very important and I need to carefully choose my words better.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
i appreciate your response, however, have a relook on the discussion. was i not clear enough!!
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I tend to comment back on most responses, at least on the first page... which covers your scenario of discussions with just a FEW responses. However, when a discussion gets into the 40,60, 100 response range, I only comment back selectively... mostly to give a "nod of recognition" to those who obviously put quite a lot of effort into their reply. However, I'm unlikely to comment back on "one-liners" or responses that basically repeat what several previous posters have already said.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
I REALLY APPRECIATE. i should prioritise on my intention aswell. as you have rightly said, onelines or the digressed ones do not deserve comments and next time i will make it a point, no use concentrating on inane stuff!! thanx so much
• India
15 Mar 07
I totally support u. i would feel bad
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
thanx dear.
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
For me no..but I would most appreciate it if my response was responded as well. What I am not pleased about is when nobody responds to a discussion I make.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
LOL... that's a good one.
@greylady (153)
• United States
14 Mar 07
There are a lot that I don't really have a response for. If you need an example, someone stared a discussion about American Idol. I don't watch it. That doesn't mean I think no one should. It just means I don't and because I don't, I don't have an opinion.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
sweetie, what i meant was discssions that you start and the subsequent responses and comments on them. anyways thanx
14 Mar 07
That really pees me off as well because then you really see who is here for the discussion or who is here for the cash. And i really hope that they aren't making as much cash as me. I think the word discussion must mean that there is an exchange of comments and not jst someone asking a question and someone answering it and thats the end of it.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
i get that we are like minded. thanx for your valuable words. i bet, you know what i meant. keep sharing friend.
@jchampany (1131)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I do agree with you to a point. I generally comment on a reply that I have gotten but not to every single person. Sometimes the responses all pretty much say the same thing so I don't just continue to repeat myself. I do like to go back and look at discussions that I have responded to to see if the person enjoyed my input, thought it was helpful, or didn't like what I had to say. I don't know maybe I just don't have anything better to do.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
you have devised a good method altogether...much appreciated. thanx
@MySpot (2602)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Being that I already left a long comment on another response... I just wanted to add that I wouldn't take it personal. Beleieve it or not, some discussions actually recieve hundreds of responses. I saw one with 500 something! Could you imagine trying to acknowledge every single one?
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
i cannot deny the practicality of your input. however, i have found ppl who hardly care (some instinct tells me so...LOL..), its in those times i feel bit low, especially if it is a well thought and self satisfying one. thanx for sharing and enriching this post.
@sunita64 (6474)
• India
14 Mar 07
Well I have learnt to take this in my stride, there is no point in thinking bad about your responses as with time you might get some very good responses. It is worth the wait.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
i appreciate, however, i can't stop being feeling bad. thanx for your response.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
14 Mar 07
The only time I get irritated is when I have given a long, thought out response to a serious subject and I get no comment. I think I'm starting to adjust to MyLot and some things I am beginning to take with a grain of salt. It does get frustrating, especially if the person seemed passionate about the topic. but if there area ton of responses i don't always expect to get a comment.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
17 Mar 07
thanx for your add on, much appreciated. since alot of passion goes into my responses, it does hurt when i donot get acknowledged (it could be a negative one aswell). but then when tons are concerned its understandable. thanx so much