Why do friends do this?

@rainbow (6763)
March 14, 2007 10:36am CST
I usually accept most friend requests and see how we get on. I accepted someone yesterday and today I have a private message for referals to some other money making site, including the link. I don't think it's very nice it's not as if I know this person at all. Does everyone get these? Would you stay friends with this person?
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@SageMother (2277)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I like to get to know someone before we get to slinging referral links at each other....LOL. I usually ASK if someone is interested before I send them something, which means we are talking about a post or some other issue we have in common to begin with. Even though a few referrals would be nice, it is more important, to me, that I be able to actually help someone out either by providing information ro helping them resolve and issue on their own.
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@prestocaro (1254)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I usually stay friends unless they post something really stupid or wrong. I just sort of shrug of the solicitation (even though it is a bit rude) as someone elses perogative. I've unly unfriended people who seem scum-y
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
I received some of them also, and I politely decline on their offers. Because I think being here in mylot is already enough for me, and I am not interested anymore on any money making sites. But if they still don't stop on sending me PM's about their links and sites, I sometimes reply some rude things because I don't think that they do got my message. And after that, I delete them to my friends list. I feel relieved by then..
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I have had that two. I just thank them for thinking of me. If one of them would interest me I ask them for more information. So far no one has been bad enough to delete and I am getting discussions to respond to. It they really do rub you the wrong way then email them that you are deleting them and why then just do so. If that is what works for you then go for it. I have not had a bad one yet. Good luck with this.
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• Singapore
14 Mar 07
Yes, this happens.. I've gotten a few myself. To them, you are just a stepping stone for them to get you as their referrals, and hoping get some money. Just shrug them off, you can't stop them. A new one pops up every now and then. They are just trying to make money anyway so... be nice. :P
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@estherlou (5020)
• United States
18 Mar 07
That's just what I call an "eye-roller"...meaning you get the message, thinking cool, and find the money making opportunity. so, you just roll your eyes and delete the message and go on. Sometimes they just get all caught up in their online stuff and think everyone should be as excited as they are. It's usually harmless.
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@rainbow (6763)
19 Mar 07
I like that name for it, lol, thank-you!
@weemam (13378)
19 Mar 07
I have had two people do this to me , I wrote back and said so sorry but I just didn't have the time to do this , they were very nice and wrote back saying thank you anyway , it luckily has turned out OK for me both times xx
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@weemam (13378)
19 Mar 07
I have had two people do this to me , I wrote back and said so sorry but I just didn't have the time to do this , they were very nice and wrote back saying thank you anyway , it luckily has turned out OK for me both times xx
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@polachicago (19075)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I don't accept new friend’s requests most of the time. I have same bad experience as yours.
@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I think we all get these its very annoying lol.
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@sherinek (3323)
• United States
15 Mar 07
This happened to me two or three times. I never answer such mail and slowly with time, I deleted them from my friends' List. These people never answer your discussions nor they give you any good advise or anything. They are just posting links and post yes/no answers. I think myLot should closely monitor this type of people and take action. Take care and have a nice day.
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@wishangel (225)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 07
i will stay friend with this person, because it give me the website to earn money,this is good for us,so why no?
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
15 Mar 07
yes, even i have faced this couple of times when i got referral links from the user. not only this, i have been finding a user posting his referral URL (of agloco i guess)in his responses. to start with i couldn't really match upto the intentions but now as a veteran in here i have learned to dogde these intelligently. i really appreciate your post. we can't stop this from happening but at least we should try to air something which is not desirable.
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@14missy (3185)
• Australia
15 Mar 07
I've had this a few times too. Don't you think if you wanted these links you would just ask for them!? I always look to see if the person has a million friends before I say yes also because they are usually the ones that are only on here to pass on all their make money quick schemes...
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I have been lucky so far not to have any of the friends I've accepted do that to me as of yet. All they need to do is steer me to their profile page and I'll take a look when I have the time. It makes me mad when other people do that.
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
14 Mar 07
If I get one message from them, I do nothing. If I get more, I delete them.
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@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
14 Mar 07
Sometimes it also happens to me, but i dont think its a big deal, they are only trying their chance, i just dont answer and its ok for both sides.
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