do you think its important to disclose everything to your partner??????

March 14, 2007 11:00am CST
what do you think about this? is it necessary to tell him everything about your past and present to him......
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8 responses
• United States
14 Mar 07
Wow. I'm not sure about this one on a personal level, but I do feel it's important to share all you can about yourself, that way if anyone ever comes up with something damaging, your partner has already heard it from you. Shock tends to make a situation worse, especially when the news is coming from someone other than you. I'd say there's only one thing about my past I haven't disclosed, but other than that I share everything with my husband. I'm not sure why I haven't told him, but something just tells me to hold off even though we've been married for almost five years and together for seven. I suppose one day I'll tell him this 'secret.'
14 Mar 07
in the same way i too may have some secrets which is not letting me to say
• United States
14 Mar 07
Yeah, I think some things are better left alone. Now, if it is something he would ask about I would tell because I believe in being honest with my husband. He asks me something, I will not lie about it.
@rsp9098 (755)
• India
14 Mar 07
yes!itz really necessary so that we can avoid som kind of problems in future!why keep secrets???
14 Mar 07
are you sure that if we disclose something that wont make anyproblem
14 Mar 07
are you sure that if we disclose something that wont make anyproblem
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
14 Mar 07
secrets can harm a relationship yes but that does not necessarily mean you should disclose every thing just anything some secrets that will only harm you if disclosed is best left alone but if its something that can harm both of you in the relationship if it is found out by some other means then its best get it out now and try to work it out with love all things are possible but you should know what your spouse is like and follow your instincts on what to do.
• United States
14 Mar 07
Yeah, there's just this one thing I've never disclosed to my husband and I think it is better just left alone. It has nothing to do with him, but I feel I'm better off and so is he.
• United States
14 Mar 07
No, I don't think it is necessary. Yes the important life changing things, but those little things we hold precious and secret to our own hearts, no I think its perfectly acceptable to keep them ours. In the movie Titanic the "OLD" rose says "A womans heart is a place of many secrets" and I believe thats true. There are somethings that should belong only to you.
14 Mar 07
yea i too think soo why to take risk?
@listen2me (511)
• United States
14 Mar 07
i really dont think its wise. i just had asituation like this. everyone isn't built the same. some ppl handle info different. so i dont think its allways smart to let your partner know everything.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
I think its fully up to you in my case I did with my ex husband and what a Huge mistake it was thorwn up eveything we were together. Now being with a great man I have told him and we talk through it and has never made it an issue! I wish you all the best Stacy
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
no, things will changed sooner or later (I'm talking about your feelings for each other) a secret should always stay as a secret or else it won't be called secret anymore.
@dlkuku (1936)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I think some things from the past should remain there. Unless it is something that affects him personally, then no, I don't think we need to tell all of our little secrets. Besides, I am not the person I was then, what's important is who I am today, not the person I was 20 years ago. He didn't know me then so it has no bearing on our relationship now.