Out-laws or In-laws?

@BlackBay (584)
Canada
March 14, 2007 12:04pm CST
Do you get along with your in-laws or do you cringe when a certain member of the family is coming over? I have a family member that only comes over to borrow money, they call and say"oh we haven't seen you's in awhile , we need to catch up" when they do come over they end up hitting us up for money, then you don't hear from them until the next time.Do you have in-laws like this and how do you stop from being used by these people? I'm getting tired of seeing and hearing from them, I have caller ID and when I see their number I don't answer because I know what's coming. Any Advice?
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7 responses
• United States
14 Mar 07
I actually get along with my in-laws well, however my aunt (who lives next door) is like that. we don't have alot ourselves so when she calls i know that she wants something. i have begun to not answer the phone when she calls but now she sends her kids over. I hate answering the door when they knock because they tell me she wants whatever it is now. I have begun just telling them all no; no matter what it is that they want even if i do have it. they have not spoken to us in about 2 days now and i am so relieved. not that it will work for long but at least it does for now.
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@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
I know it's hard with family and all but I just wonder when enough is enough. A person tries to be helpful but it never returned and it gets frustrating,lol. You know what I mean.
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• United States
15 Mar 07
yes i do know. it is especially harder when the live right next door. my aunt has now not talked to me for another day. she will not even let her kids come over right now, which isnt totally upsetting as when she does its to ask for something, but for the kids (hers and mine included) they like to play together but right now are not allowed to. all because i told her no about several things in the two days before she stopped talking to me. i hope all is well with you and your family. good luck
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• United States
15 Mar 07
I get along with my in-laws. The only person that I don't get along that is considered an inlaw is my aunt by marriage but that is because she stole money from my grandmother. messed up huh?
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
I definitely have out-laws! Unfortunately, we live on the same piece of land and since my house isnĀ“t finished, we have all of our stuff in boxes in a shed between the two houses. They frequently take my things and ruin them (including some lovely handwoven napkins my mother made for me, they used them as rags!). And my mother-in-law believes that we have heaps of money and are just hiding it from her, so she charges us for everything. WHen I had my son, he went to another hospital in the capital to have surgery, I had to stay in the local hospital. She spent two days travelling with my husband to see the baby and support my husband until I could get out of the hospital. Then afterwards, she had the gall to CHARGE us for her days off work! The only way I have found to deal with these people is to try and ignore them and to tell my family not to send me anything anymore, at least not until I have a house where I can lock stuff up.
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• United States
14 Mar 07
I have been extremely lucky. My first husband now deceased had a wonderful set of parents. His mom & step-dad were great and we loved visting them. His real dad was very nice and we got along well. His step mom was another story. Very upity and critical about everything. We both just put up with her for his dad's sake. My second husband has a great set of parents and I get along very well with them. We enjoy each others company. I also am happy that both husbands got along very well with my parents and we spent alot of time with them. So, I count my blessings that I ahve been fortunate to enjoy many happy replationships with in-laws.
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
15 Mar 07
i have some interesting in laws. i will say that its hard having them in our lives. but, they are family, and i just live with it. we are not close, and we are not enemies. thats all you can ask for,,anything more is just pure joy!
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@acquaria (719)
• Italy
15 Mar 07
Continue to not answer to their calls.Fortunately I don't have in family these kind of people.
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• Canada
15 Mar 07
You only get to choose who you marry the rest is just baggage adn has to be delt with me and the outlaws never seen eye to eye on anythign and made for a strained relationship with them. But other family members have great inlaws and they really like them. Hit and miss i guess jsut soemthing we all have to deal with. I promised myself would not be a problem to my kids future spouses.
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