Can Marriage Survive H Requesting Abortion?

United States
March 14, 2007 2:21pm CST
Can a marriage survive if a husband requests a wife to have an abortion over an accidental pregnancy; while the wife clearly would not consider it? Would you be able to forgive this if it were the first thing out of his mouth?
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@MySpot (2602)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Personally, I don't think I'd handle it very well. My respect for him would lessen, knowing he wanted to kill his own (and my) child... especially if he was fully aware of my feelings about abortion.
• United States
14 Mar 07
Yes, my feelings exactly. My respect is completely gone for over a year now :( I ended up having a miscarriage, which made it a more traumatic experience...to see him happy about that :( I had another pregnancy scare last week (am not pregnant), but he reacted the same way. Told him to go get fixed and not come near me til he did.
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@MySpot (2602)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I'm so sorry that you've had to suffer such loss! Has your husband been totally unsupportive? I hope he's at least more sensitive to your feelings and helping you deal with the loss : (
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• United States
14 Mar 07
I think what can end a marriage is a vehement difference in opinion and values. Especially if they are a severe contradiction of one another and neither person is willing to compromise. With something as emotionally complex as pergnancy and abortion, I think it would depend on the people involved. But I do think it could cause a break-up.
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• Philippines
20 May 08
things like this should be well thought of between the mother and the father or the husband and wife. if both agreed to it, i dont think it will cause too much harm on the marriage, and marriage will survive. however, there are psychological impact on the mom that we need to consider. let us avoid abortion as much as possible. we must look into preventive measures than this.
• United States
20 May 08
Yes, indeed, there are huge psychological impacts on a mother; especially when the mother is suggested to have an abortion by her husband. A mother has a right to her own body and no man should force any woman otherwise.
@Hatley (157768)
• Garden Grove, California
20 May 08
no I would not, not at all.I could not forgive this in any way shape or form.The husband should have thought of all the ramifications of his wife getting pregnant before marriage and if he did not want kids at least right away he should have been the one to take precautions. abortion is not a good answer in this case at all.itis her body and her right to decide whether or not she wants this baby. no the marriage will not survive.
• United States
20 May 08
I fully agree with you on this.
• Canada
19 May 08
I am very glad my husband and I discussed children before we got married. Neither of us want children, and luckily for us the way things areno, we will never be able to have childrn together. As for your question, no I don't think this can be forgiven. When someone truly wants a human life and someone else suggests an abortion, I don't think it can be forgiven, UNLESS there will be danger to the mother or child, if she keeps the pregnancy.