help im losing touch with my old school friends??? waht sud i do??

@meera88 (737)
India
March 14, 2007 9:21pm CST
wat should i do to regain the friendship we had during our happy school days..??? now im in college n im slowly losing touch with my school pals...
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Understand that there are relationships in life that are not neccessarily meant to last the whole lifetime. The fact is, when we move away or become involved in different interests, relationships often fade away. Take a look at what is going on in those friendships. Why are you losing touch? Are you too busy to keep in touch on your end, or is the slow down coming from their side? What are their lives like now? When you were in school together, you had many things in common and you had opportunity to be together a lot. Now there are new interests, probably on both sides, and geographical distance which makes it hard to keep in touch. Rather than trying too hard to hold on to those friends and through them, the past, you may want to concentrate on making new friends that are more in keeping with your present circumstances. If the relationship is meant to be more permament, it will survive infrequesnt communication and separation. If not, appreciate what the friendship meant to you while in school and move on. It's okay to grieve the loss of friends. Just know it won't be the last time it will happen.
@meera88 (737)
• India
15 Mar 07
well..now they r in different cities n dont have much of their contact nos....thats the problem... n ur opinion surely consoles me...relationships need not last the entire lifetime...
@mx_aman (2101)
• India
15 Mar 07
Find them in orkut...I am sure there you find them ..As i find so many of my friends there...
@meera88 (737)
• India
15 Mar 07
well.most of my friends are there...but since they r in hostel...they dont check them often...
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
15 Mar 07
In some cases, you can not do anything about losing some of your high school friends as they may have gotten married or have children to take care of and are not interested in maintaining a friendship. I lost some of my high school friends about the same time you are now. You can try and stay in touch with them if they gave you their number or email address.
• Israel
15 Mar 07
please try to manage yourself to do with your old friends
• United States
15 Mar 07
call them, email them, ask them to go out sometime. Do anything to keep in touch. They might be as relieved as you to be able to still talk! No one like slosing touch with old friends, just keep talking and going out with them. Maybe have at least one day a week where you get together to talk! :)
@kate1356 (697)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I think you should keep in touch by emailing your friends every so often.. let them know that you would like to hear from them too. Also, do you get breaks from college.. perhaps suggest to your friends that you should get together when you both come home for breaks or holidays. The thing is though.. sometimes you can do everything to stay in touch but your friends don't give you the same time/respect you show them. I always tried to keep in touch with my highschool best friend when we both went away to college.. but she didn't put any effort in to keeping in touch with me. Eventually, I felt she wasn't worth the effort. It is a bit sad but I have found that you become much closer with your college friends.