please help me!!!

@baby88 (696)
Singapore
March 14, 2007 9:40pm CST
as my previous posting, i hv said that i got a friend who is addicted to gamble but actually that was me myself. i must be honest now that im too addicted to online casino n i really lost alot alot...i really can't control myself when im betting n its just like im controlled by something. when i lose, i tend to want to win back but end up losing n keep on losing.i really felt that im such a failure n i just dare not tell this to my hubby. i love him n i love my family. i just don't want them to know abt this to hurt them but i really lost alot. tell me friend, how am i going to stop this n pls give me good advise. i just hate myself very much. help me.. :(
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27 responses
@ironstruck (2299)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
Gamblers can lose everything in the blink of an eye. And I don't mean just money. The glittering casinos of Las Vegas were built on the dreams of people who believed they could win. A gambler never wins. There is not a gambling game out there that can be beat over time. You will always lose. You may win once in a while, but ultimately what you win will be given back--plus more. STOP NOW!!! Do not go back to those gambling sites. You just cannot win. Ever. You can get counseling for gambling. It is a sickness and there is help out there. There is no shame in seeking help for this. The shame is in losing everything because you don't.
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@baby88 (696)
• Singapore
15 Mar 07
i really know now...:(
• United States
15 Mar 07
There are places that you can go to get help for your addiction like Gamblers Anonymous...and it will help if you tell your family about your problem.......i know it wont be easy but you are going to need alot of support to overxome your addiction
@baby88 (696)
• Singapore
15 Mar 07
thanks n i will try.
@sweetsue (759)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
If that makes you depress and devastated about your self, before its too late you've got to stop that. In the first place gambling will bring you no good.That would demoralize you.I know that won't be easy but stop it before your husbabd knew it. You can divert your time into something beneficial along with your husband. Why not you and your husband learn about stocks and invest on it? That's more interseting rather than gambling. And you'll surely earn unlike gambling where you depend everything by luck. Goodluck and pray.
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@baby88 (696)
• Singapore
15 Mar 07
i know nothing abt stocks but anyway thank you!
15 Mar 07
You have made a huge start by admitting to your problem and should be congratulated for that, well done. There are lots of organisations out there both in our communities and online that can support you and offer advice, but I cannot help feeling that you need to talk to your husband about this. While you are hiding it from the people who have the most to loose as a result of you gambling you can pretend to yourself that it is not as bad as that. By telling your husband everything you will have someone on hand to support and encourage you when things become difficult and you are tempted to gamble and also you can start looking together at the financial situation you are no doubt getting into by gambling. You clearly love this man, trust him enough to share this problem with him. You are not a bad person you are in an unfortunate situation but you have people around you who if you let them in will love and support you. Good luck x
@montreal (17)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
haha,your photo is a chinese movie star.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
First, u have to accept and keep in mind that u really want to change. Second, consider a therapy or rehabilitation. Third, visit a psychologist. I am not blaming u for the result of ur own curiousity or stupidity, but i tell u dear, that addiction comes from one time try, then it became repeatitious until such time u are addicted to it. As long as u want to change, then that woud be the first step. Everything follows afterwards. Good luck!
@lovesu (143)
• China
16 Mar 07
I think you shall tell you family the truth,and I think they will forgive you and help you if you keep away from gamble forever,stay more with you family
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Don't be greedy and do another good alternative to earn money not by taking someone else's money. That's what betting is "I want your money and I don't care if you loose". Try earning by giving to God and people first and expect God to pour out his blessings upon you by your act of kindness to others.
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
16 Mar 07
stay away from casinos don't buy any lottery tickets either if you can't do that gambler's anonymous next
@ellanick (191)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
well, first of all i would like to congratulate you because you already started to accept the reality that you are hooked in gambling. you already make the first step in controlling your addiction, now what you need to do is try to resist the temptation, focus on other things like spending more time with your family, to your husband or engage in a sport activities or anything that will shift your attention and look for a support group near to your place. Everytime you feel the urge, just think of your family and control the temptation. Goodluck!
• India
16 Mar 07
Stop it immediately. Divert your attention on other things reading books, going out, etc., Don't go to the computer for a few days. The gamblers first $100. Then lose $100 thousand before they start realising about the loss and they lose another $100 thousand when they start calculating their loss. So stop it immediately. It is good for you as well as for your family and country. Read books How to improve WILL POWER and practice them.
@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
16 Mar 07
ok thanks for coming out with true thing! i apreciate that! well there is only one thing remain and that is to stop stop stop that gambeling immediately by all means! otherwise you need a counsiler to deal with this because gambling is a thing which always provok the person to go for that! so try to handle that way! i hope that it will help you.
@tacoman25 (233)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I'm sorry you lost so much and are feeling so down. Compulsive gambling is a serious problem all over the world, and it can be one of the greatest and most damaging addictions. My only advice is to first of all, quit going to the online casinos. Once you start, you know how hard to stop it is, so just stay away. Also, if you absolutely must visit those sites, have someone else set a strict limit on how much you can spend at one time...most sites have the option to set this up. This is a good time for me to read a warning like this, I'm going to Las Vegas in a couple weeks...
@Kenny_Ng (16)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 07
Hi, my dear Baby88, may God Bless You, please try not to gambling anymore, don't even get into the online casino game, this no good for you, you had to control your mind and yourself, i don't want you lose anymore again, be honest to your hubby and family, maybe they can help you to stop gambling, and more important is pray to the God and Lord Jesus, to take out the gambling spirit out from your body, may God bless you. So remember don't ever try to gambling anymore. Wish you success.
• India
16 Mar 07
well to start on with i ll recommend stop hating yourself....you'll get nothing out of it except for some stupiditious feelings for yourslef, dragging you away form the people you love, and making yuor life more miserable... one of the problems you are encountering is an addiction actually.... whose only remedy is support---that too very extensively..... as i see that you love your family a lot-- i believe that your family loves you even more---- and this love bonding would only ber ur strenght.......... just wid up the things, regain the courageand reveal it all to ur family memebers anyhow---I know that should help...and that actaully will..... n tell them to always keep u busy or engaged in something lese-os that u dun have time for anything else..... simple...
• China
16 Mar 07
You could play some free online game first.Most casino game are scam.They earn money from us.
@greylady (153)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Start by admitting there is a problem. If you can do that there are a lot of places to help with your problem. Gamblers anonymous might be one place. You are not alone.
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
you know I've tried to gamble also when I was still in high school but when I started feeling like i don't have money anymore to support my needs or buy those things that i want. I started to think why? and then I recall that I'm loosing a lot of money because of the gamble that I'm doing. Yes it is addicted at start because if you win you win big but if you lose you lose almost everything ( nah! to exaggerated) but that how i describe it. Here's my advise try to divert your attention in something that is worth like go have a gimmick with your friends, or buy something for your family, be sports minded, or if you have time try to help some poor people in your place and the best thing is try to be a business minded person. instead of investing it in an online casino try to think of business that you want. like if you have lots of lots of money try to invest it in stocks (buy stocks from companies, establish a bar etc. or if you don't have any choice talk to me here! that's will be great and i'm glad to help you about it. By the way I'm jay-ar. =)
@mujtab20 (434)
• Nigeria
15 Mar 07
To be candid you just have to control yourself/emotion. Secondly, you need to slow down and even stop gambling at all, atleast that is least I can give you right now.
@beaniegdi (1966)
15 Mar 07
that is really sad but the first most important step with any addiction is recognising you have a problem and seeking help. The odd thing about gambling is that the people who do it want to lose not win, even if you think you want to win inside you actually want to lose which is why you cannot stop when you win. I have found some articles that I hope might help you and also a link from one of the articles to a website that could help. http://ezinearticles.com/?Gambling-Addiction-Is-Silent-And-Self-Destructive&id=69570 http://www.istoppedgambling.com/ Please don't hate yourself you are worth the love of your family and to have a happy life.