Teachers having relationship with students? Agree or Disagree?

Philippines
March 15, 2007 9:00am CST
Hmmmm...sounds familiar to all our ears. I might say most of us teachers could relate on this situation. I myself, Disagree on this. But how dare me judge such things...I don't even know the feelings of teachers being in love with students or vise versa. Anyone here who could share their own experience..?
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15 responses
• Malaysia
20 Mar 07
One of the major contributions the teacher can make is to develop a warm, accepting atmosphere.It is essential that "the staff" who are in close daily contact with the students be honest, sincere, friendly people who really care about others. A feeling of security is an essential element in developing a therapeutic climate-accepting atmosphere, in other hands they need to behave because of "their illness", secure in knowledge that they will not be rejected. But,..having relationship with students?, is it the faulty interpersonal relationships? or failed to recognized, observed the students with a thought disturbance but sincere in these relationship. ....See you soon..!
@jean_rose (416)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
I am a high school teacher and it is not acceptable. It is against the Code of Ethics for Teachers. Those who went ahead and paid a heed to their wayward emotions were sacked from the service.
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
I agree with you jean, relationship or any love affair of a teacher and student is really against the Code of Ethics for Teachers. I did not graduated as a teacher, but I have read and understand the Code of Ethics for Teachers. Hmmmm, anyway, most of the guys here who comment have their own way explaining it, and I agree on them..
@demo3424 (599)
• India
26 Apr 07
i don't like teachers having relationship with students.i think in conservative india.Teacher ought to be fired for having relationship with student.it is against morality and normal behaviour to have relationship with students.
• India
25 Apr 07
hello saamir here.i think we go to schools and other institutions to get knowledge from our teachers and they makes our future and so it is our duty to respet them and dont look tyhem with wrong thinking in our mind.and its true there are sometimes relationships between teacher and students but it further depends on there faamily bakgrounds and the teahings the both got from their parents.thaks.
• Malaysia
17 Mar 07
This is very subjective.But i think one should know how to separate private life and profession.Being attracted to a student is something a teacher should avoid.Some may say that is all about love.When i was in high school,there was this type of relationship.A teacher-student relationship.The teacher was transfered to another state.That student was only 14 years old. The family of that students really mad at that male teacher who are in his early thirties.
@18101989 (700)
• India
17 Mar 07
i strongly disagree nooooooooooooooooooooo it's bad
@gbaben (509)
• Russian Federation
17 Mar 07
Either I agreed or not agreed,apropriate or not apropriate,it is happening everywhere.I have seen it over 10times During and after my high school.Some times ago this had made me concluded that all male teacher are the same.May the lord forgive them.......
@Aurone (4758)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I would say it depends on what grade level you are talking about. Anything dealing with high school or below would probably be a bad thing. The teacher is in a position of a authority and I believe the students are too young to really know what is going on. The teacher should be more responsible then that. But if you are talking say at a graduate student college level, then I know a lot of professors whose wives were once their graduate students. It used to be a very accepted thing at that level. Now most schools frown on a professor dating his own student but find nothing wrong with a grad student dating a professor from another department.
• India
16 Mar 07
from my point of view, it is nothing wrong, unless if the teacher forces a student to have illeagal releation shop.. Unless he/she is forced, he he/she should able to get the student's releationship with true love. Then nothing wrong in it.
• United States
16 Mar 07
I disagree and I do feel that I can make judgement. We are placed in positions of authority and trusted with the teaching of kids. I teach high school kids and when I first started, some were not that much younger than me, but they were kids and I was an adult. For most people, there is a line there that will not be crossed and for some, they just missed that lesson somewhere. It sickens me to hear about these people giving the profession a bad name. When I look at my students, I have NEVER thought of forming any kind of inappropriate relationship. I believe those people have no place in a school building and that they are not wired right !! Just an opinion, but I feel strongly about it !
• United States
16 Mar 07
I'm not a teacher and haven't had the experience, but I do have school aged children and I believe a teacher is supposed to be viewed as a responsible and trustworthy adult and I know I would be upset had my son expressed feelings for his teacher and she reciprocated and acted out on them. adults need to have intimate type relationships with other adults. kids need to be kids,have the chance to figure out who they're going to be,the chance to have a relationship that will be on an even keel,and do not know thaty they are "in love" at 12,13,14,15,16 even older depending on the child. having feelings is part of being human, acting on them with a child is a little disturbed, sorry this is my opionion and my feelings being a mother.
@ssuren (46)
15 Mar 07
When I was in High School our Physics teacher was dating a girl of our school. The girl was one year senior to us.That time it was very rare that a teacher date his or her studend. People used to talk about them. But they were too serious about their relationship. I personally didn't talk to them as one of my taecher and other is my senior but thay got married after the girl comleted her study that's why I am saying that they were serious. I think it is only a personal decision that a male or female want to make relation with his or her student. If any body is serious and everything went right if there is not any hurdels such as a generation gap I don't thing it is a bad thing.
• Malaysia
15 Mar 07
i have a experience where i fall in love with my teacher.. i love to go to school just because to see the teacher... not because of the lesson or whatever..
@gberlin (3836)
15 Mar 07
I teach at a high school. It would be inappropriate for a teacher to date a student at my school. Why not just wait until the student is finished with school and is considered an adult in the eyes of society. I know there have been news stories of teachers and elementary students. That is really inappropriate. I guess my question would be 'What does an adult see in an elementary student?'
@gberlin (3836)
15 Mar 07
I teach at a high school. I would be inappropriate for a teacher to date a student at my school. If there is some connection there between student and teacher maybe the teacher should quit teaching and find another job or wait until the student is finished with school and is an adult in the eyes of society!