Do you feel for the wives or husbands of Army people that have to go to Iraq..?

@Carrie26 (1587)
United States
March 15, 2007 4:34pm CST
I do because I feel that maybe not enoug is done for army mens wives or army womens husbands.especially if they have kids it can be hard because if your a women simple tasks like fixing things that men normally could fix are not thier to fix.I know support groups are their and all but its hard to not have the one you love home with you and they are miles away.Plus the kids always ask where is daddy or mommy and I think sometimes that The kids get hurt because they are used to the oneparent being around and then they are gone for awhile.Sometimes some never return.My husband Is in the Army National Guards and he has to go away for about 3 months to New MExico.I guess to help with the illegal immigrants that are trying to come over.I was sad and upset becuase he had to go.And they only gave him a week notice.I know I should be glad he is not in Iraq but It still feels like forever even if it is 3 months and he is in New Mexico.He doese get to come home for 4 days in May for my sons birthday.That is good.So all the army wives or husbands out their I fell for you and you are being really strong to do all the stuff that 2 people would do.Also Even for the Single ones I feel for too.YOu know to much is put on the family when the spouse has to leave that people do not know how it is until they are in that situation.I respect that they are going and I feel for the ones that have to go to Iraq or wherever as well.But some people need to remember the family at home.
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• Malaysia
16 Mar 07
I feel for them as much as I feel for the wives and husbands living in Iraq. It is sad that this thing has to happen.
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• Slovenia
16 Mar 07
You should feel more for the wives and housbands living in Iraq, becouse soldiers choosed at their own will to be a soldier, but Iraqi civilians have nothing with this,just suffer.
@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I am sorry.I feel sorry for that too.
• India
16 Mar 07
yes I do very much, especially because all the fight is because of misinformation or deceit or both. And it is carried on since people who started this war are unable to accept the reality or defeat.
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• India
16 Mar 07
yes I don very much , especially because all the fight is because of misinformation or deceit or both. And it carried on since people who started this war are unable to accept the reality or defeat.
• United States
16 Mar 07
My husband is currently in Iraq...he's been there since July of 2006. He was able to come home for three weeks during December and I was joyful for his return. I know a lot of people don't understand why we are at this war...but please don't feel sorry for all the army wives because you feel that our husbands shouldn't be over there. When you say this, you take away the courage and the bravery of these men...you take away their hope to make this world a better place. No one will understand this war unless they are actually in Iraq fighting for it. Every soldier I have talked to, including my husband is proud to be over there and will jump at the chance to return if the opportunity presents itself. Yes, it is hard to be without my husband for long periods of time...but I refuse to sit at home in self pity. My heart longs for his safe return but wishing him to be home instead of fighting for our country is selfish. All of those men over there are making improvements in the lives of the Iraq people...they have the opportunity to change their world. Not many of us can say we have had a life of purpose, but these guys can.
@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I hope I didnt sound to harsh.I was just explaining.
@mrsturner (519)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
I can not imagine the anxiety of the people who's partners are in Iraq. My sister just returned from Afganistan where things are not as bad, but people are still returning in coffins. They are not the same when they return, even though they may try to be. To have a spouse, the mother or father of your children in a war zone is not the way things should be. Don't get me wrong, the soldiers have my support, but war is not the answer to the ills of the world. Man is not made to kill other men. I think it destroys a bit of you soul to take anothers life. I agree that people have to remember the families at home. Here in North America we know more of what is going on then the soldiers overseas know. This is probably for the sake of morale. I hope the three months without your husband pass quickly.
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@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Thank you for your post
@ellijah (244)
• Nigeria
16 Mar 07
yes i feel for them .You know they are goimg to live wife amd children,mother,father,brothers,and friends to go to Irag .i pray that God will keep them and help them to acheive what they went there for and bring them back home savely that is my prayer for them. i watch in cnn when one advance retired army was ask to join the force again to go to irag.His wife was interviewed to say how she feel .she didnt feel too grate because she was happy that her husband has retired now they are asking for his service again.The husband finally went back to irag.war i wonder when all these troubles and war,terrorism will end in this world,i thinnk if only the world will ebrace christ fully
@Carrie26 (1587)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Yes I agree with you on that one.
• India
16 Mar 07
Yes a normal human being would and should feel for them But when I read this Discussion, the first thing that came into my mind is that 'why are they really there' Why this imperial nature of the U.S being accepted.What is the need for army men to be out there. If the country needs to be defended from the enemies they have to be ready,but i see no sense in this case
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@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
16 Mar 07
yup I do feel bad for them. Thats the deal when you join up though. Maybe it makes sense to see if he returns alive before having kids. If you go into the military, often you can retire at 40, have kids then maybe when you know you made it alive and can be there for and with them.
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• United States
16 Mar 07
I do feel for their families. But we also have to remember that they weren't drafted. All the people in our armed forces at the moment signed up to do it. I think it is very hard on wives/husbands/kids, and I know I could never handle being married to a soldier.
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• India
16 Mar 07
I strongly believe that women is emotional source for man and in iraq it is very important to have a stong army and if army man are emotionally week then winning a war is next to impossible .
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@sharon613 (2324)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I am in complete agreement on this topic. My husband isn't in the Military; however, he does leave me and my 4 year old alone 2 times a week to go and work on a farm. Once his book is out he will be leaving home to go and do publicity showings. I especially feel for the women whoose husbands are in Iraq fighting on the front lines, hoping that someday soon this miserable war will come to a happy ending.
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@Beausmom (18)
• United States
16 Mar 07
It is a difficult life and it definitely takes a strong couple to get through those times apart. I am glad he only has to be away for 3 months, hopefully they will go by very quickly.
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@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
I really do my friend. This is not a easy task to be away with the one you love and then you are not sure of the things that will going to happen to the place of your destination. Leaving is quite stressful enough and to add the pain thoughts of how he is doing or vice versa what is my family doing is so burdensome. I really think soldiers going to war deserve to have a real time with thier family a certain month on a rotation basis so they will see thier family more often rather than keeping them for a period of so long time. I really pray for all the soldiers and thier families being apart is not a easy thing to bear with.
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I feel very sorry for them too. I know it must be very worrysome and very stressful and lonesome for the families who are waiting for their loved ones to come home. They have been over there a long time as it is. I don't think I could handle my spouse going away like that to war. It is very dangerous and I would be so afraid that they would be hurt or even killed. My husband served 17 years in the United States Army before we met. He said he spent alot of his time overseas and he served in a war. He said he hardly ever had time to come home and spend time with his ex-wife and the kids. He said it was very scary, not knowing if and when you were going to come back home and see everyone. I'm glad that I didn't have to deal with that when he served because I would miss him and stay a nervous wreck all the time worrying about him. He said he did get lonesome for his mom and his kids too while he was away. I would hate to be away from my family and feel all alone for that amount of time.