Is online dating a sign of desparation to get a mate?

United States
March 15, 2007 10:46pm CST
A single friend of mine wants to try online dating but thinks its for 'desparados.' She's been through blind dates, speed dating, single clubs and events, but no-one's caught her eye. Any real life happy ending stories I can share with her?
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5 responses
• United States
16 Mar 07
It's not a sign of desperation any more than going any other place where you have a good chance of meeting people to date. The internet is not some "different" place just because we use computers. It's all people. What difference does it make if you talk on the computer first or the phone or at a park or whatever? It's the people who matter. If anything it gives you more time to get to know each other before all the superficial stuff gets in the way or before you're tempted to do things that are better kept until later so you can see if the relationship is going anywhere. You can get a good idea if the person is someone you'd be interested in before you're in an awkward face-to-face situation. I met my hubby on an online dating service over four years ago. We've been married for almost three years and are still madly in love with each other.
• United States
18 Mar 07
thanks for your success story. Its a different playing field now going online. Godo luck!
@AmbiePam (50953)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I don't think it has to be desperation to onlne date. Sometimes people never go places where they would meet 'sutiable' people. It seems as though everyone would have a chance, but still some don't. Some have oppurtunities, but they don't work out, so they look online. A professor at my college met a woman in Florida online. He lives here in Oklahoma. They talked for 6 months, he flew to see her, they got married and now live here in Oklahoma. It worked for them. However, I know a girl who met a guy online, got married, he abused her, and she got divorced. So it works both ways.
• United States
18 Mar 07
Thanks for the 2 stories. sometimes they work sometimes they don't.
• Philippines
25 Dec 07
I don't think that it's only for the desperate ones. Some of my friends had been single since birth most probably because of their social circle. They rarely go out and if we go out, we only hang out with the same people. I do not have anything against online dating since I believe that love comes in unexpected places. But of course, we should be extra careful when we engage in this stuff. For me, online thing would only work, when the two persons get to meet each other and see if the attraction is really there.
@mlhuff12 (798)
• United States
25 Dec 07
I don't think that it is for desparate people. I mean sure, some of them probably are. But I do know that some just don't have time to go out looking. Where on the sites you have hundreds all at one place. Or perhaps some of theses individuals in person won't have enough guts to go up to a person and converse where on the internet it is a lot easier and painless.
@raydene (9874)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Some people are just not in a possition to meet people . R