I have to help my heartbroken friend. What should I do?

@kingatul (851)
India
March 16, 2007 5:49am CST
One of my best friends is in a pretty pitiful condition and I feel like helping him out . Actually he was in love with a girl for the past 6 yrs but never had the courage of telling her about his feelings. Just recently on my suggestion he told her about what he feels for her. She replied in a negative manner and said that she dosen't have time for love in her life and that he should move on and forget about her because it would give nothing to him. After that incident he has almost completely stopped laughing and sits quietly and rarely talks to anyone. I cannot see him like this . Please tell me what should I do for him ? Should I talk to that girl about this ? I'll appreciate any sort of helpful suggestions.
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3 responses
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
if you also know the girl in person, you can actually tell the girl of the situation. if she cared enough to be concerned, she'll do something about it... like, talk to him perhaps. it could make the situation better or worse, we cannot really tell. nice of you to try and help your bestfriend out. i do hope he appreciates your effort. your friend is having a post reaction to the negative response of the girl. understand that your friend has kept his secret love for the girl for so long (6 years) and it is not an easy task. rejection is never easy. allow some time for your friend to adapt to the situation and feel his first experience of misery. it's part of the risk of loving. know what? how about introducing her to another girl? do you know anybody who might be interested in him? how about introducing him to mylot? this way he can express his bottled feelings better. your friend is hurting. although it hurts to see him like that... let him be for just a little while, but let him know you are there for him and that you'll be supportive no matter what. hope to be of little help somewhat. :) goodluck!
@kingatul (851)
• India
16 Mar 07
that was a very helpful response . thank you very much
@kingatul (851)
• India
16 Mar 07
I'll try doing what you suggested. I'll talk to the girl about this. Hope she understands
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
don't expect too much. just hope she would do something positive about it. :) goodluck!
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@lbbaby (489)
• China
16 Mar 07
I think you had better leave him alone or just sit with him quietly. Because this moment, he will not take something into his mind.Give him a period of time, and you can tell him some trivial issues. After this period, he will be all right.
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@kingatul (851)
• India
16 Mar 07
I also hope that everything gets better soon
@kastor003 (379)
• India
16 Mar 07
I think you should take your friend to some party where he gets to meet some nice girls, in whom he may find comfort talking. Then he can me merry and forget that wretched heartless girl
@kingatul (851)
• India
16 Mar 07
thanks for the suggestion