Being single or not

@easy888 (10405)
Australia
March 16, 2007 7:47am CST
Are you being single now ? having partner ??cohabitat with them?? married?? WHat do you think the difference between them ?? How had your life change from pne stage to another?? Advantages and disadvantages?
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55 responses
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I am married now, and have been married for about a year and a half. I was 31 when I got married, so I was single and independent for quite some time. The advantages are many - financial security (two incomes) emotional security, lack of loneliness, companionship, someone to help me clean the house and someone to do stuff with all the time. someone to talk to, someone to help me work out problems, and someone to build dreams and a future with. The disadvantages - though they are really more of just an adjustment... I can't just do whatever whenever, I do need to take his feelings into account, and his schedule into account. I can still hang out with my friends, but not always at a drop of a hat. It's not MY money anymore, but OUR money, so you can't just spend without thinking about it. He is sort of messy, so I am always cleaning up his dirty clothes off the floor, and such. Granted, he does cook and does help clean, but I think he makes bigger messed than he cleans up! It's all a trade off. marriage is a compromise.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Totally agree with you here, couldn't of said it any better :)
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
27 Mar 07
True..there are always advantages and disadvantages.
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
16 Mar 07
well ive been married for 16 years and it has been a fantastic voyage of discovery, it works for us blessed be
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
good on you
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@flowerchilde (12520)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I am married for 26 years, 27 this June.. And we seem to get happier and happier.. I wouldn't want it to be any other way, I think marrriage is ideal, two are better than one, and can be very good for any children you have also.. I think it's very difficult these days however to make that long term connection.. and it seems like many people are having to settle for a series of relationships.. which unfortunately can be less safe for children..
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
22 Mar 07
It is good when you really find the right one..I am still waitinf for my right one..lol
• United States
16 Mar 07
I've just had a long-distance relationship and I've decided to end it last week. For me, it's better if I get to see the person and have a personal interaction with him. Anyway, I prefer being single. Prior to this relationship, I had been single for years. I'm currently enjoying this status, as I'd enjoyed it before. People are different in terms of their choices and preferences. I'm not a lesbian nor a man-hater, but I like being on my own for the basic reason that I'm a loner. I'm not closing my doors, though, on marriage. I believe that there is a time and place for everything. As to being single, the advantages are less responsibilities and expectations, and less emotional baggage. The disadvantage is that there's no constant person to share my problems and successes with. But then, I make that up with friends. Hehe. Nice discussion!
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@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I'm in a long distance committed relationship right now. I've been with my bf for almost 2 years now and were getting stronger than before. He works in the ship...it's really difficult for us but we know it's for the better since he'll be paid way more than his usual job here. Being with a partner for me is better because it's a nice feeling to be in love and be loved at the same time. It's nice to spend some time with that person and being in a relationship is still better even if you get hurt. That's life!!!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
16 Mar 07
am widowed mostly I can do what I want with out letting anyone know about it first. disadvantage it is lonely with out him
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@miryam (6510)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
They have been married 10 years, then I have divirziato, single alive hour, are single, but I have a boyfriend from 6 years, but we do not live entirety we look at ourselves in the fine week, liu lives in an other city, nell'amore creed and I am not well alone with my dog, my love.
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@layney (1053)
• Italy
16 Mar 07
I have had a partner for about 3 years, I don't think we will marry soon, maybe in about 3 years. Having a partner is great for a lot of things, you have a person who likes to do everything with you, but freedom is lightly reduced...
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
there are always positve and negative...
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I am married and while it has its difficulties, I feel it is better than living together. We did live together before we got married but it just did not seem real and there was always the option to leave. Now being married it is legal, official, and in Gods eyes we are one.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
16 Mar 07
good on you..
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@honeyangel (1992)
16 Mar 07
i have a partner,we arent married but i do class him as my husband.there no need to be married nowadays,living together isnt look down apon as it once was.its just a piece of paper
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
true,as long as you are happy, it does not make a difference whether you marry or live together..
• China
16 Mar 07
i have a boyfriend. we are not cohabitating. we are now at different places. i think cohabitating and marrying are two different things. if two lovers cohabitat, they don't have to be responsible for each other; while if they married, they must bear the responsibility.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
17 Mar 07
true, marriage only means they hae to take responsilbity of each other.
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@hermanica (390)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
im happy when im still single.. i dont have to ask somebody for their permission, i dont have to explaih myself if i get drunk and i can be just my old self.. but i like being with someone else, i like being beautiful and i like sharing my love.. maybe because im happy with my guy right now... i cant ask for anything more as for the moment..
@mssnow (9495)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Right now i am divorced. I sometimes like being alone because i don't have to worry about someone else. and their habits. But it is still nice to be with someone once in a while. i think i will stay single for a while though.
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@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
i am separated for almost 4 years not. it is really hard for me. it give me too much pain and sacrifices. but as days goes by, it made me a better person and more stronger than i was before.i just tell myself often that this is a challenge. and no reason to give up. life must go on and on.especially i got 2 kids with me.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I wouldnt want to be single in this day and age. I like my life just fine being married to a wonderful guy. Sometimes when Im fighting with him I often wish I was single but then I come to my senses and Im glad again.heheheh
@beaniegdi (1966)
27 Mar 07
I'm seperated and although I did see someone for about a year it didn't work out and I realised I actually was happier by myself. I still have my youngest living with me and haven't been out with anyone for about 9 years and I am glad, I made a decision not to date again and I haven't. I have been asked out but always say no.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
6 Apr 07
I reject some guys ,too..i prefer to be single ..
• India
27 Mar 07
Social networking sites like orkut have a wide range of relationships like single, committed, married, open marriage, divorced and what not, but I feel that they also ought to have status lines like single again, committed again, married again and so on! I have been through almost all of the states except marriage and divorce! Right now, I'm fresh out of a relationship, so I can proclaim that I'm single again! We were having a lot of trouble getting to spend time together thanks to the different work-hours that we had. Now, I have also relocated to another city. She did not want to make the move, and we decided that our relationship was not headed anywhere, so we called it off. Each stage in a relationship is interesting and challenging in its own right. The initial stages of a relationship are really nice as the chemistry is booming and even the minor imperfections and some not so minor imperfections too tend to get overlooked, but as we get to know each other, we get to see a lot more of our imperfections too, and it's not always a great thing. This is often the reason why relationships crumble after promising a lot, in the initial stages. Any relationship that survives more than two years has a lot of potential to be long term relationship.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
6 Apr 07
WHat actually is orkut?? many members here ask me to join..but i am not really into these stuff.
@karvin87 (1034)
• India
27 Mar 07
single and ready to mingle!!! hey, being single is gr8 fun! as per a research , singles are more happy and live life longer...partners need time and commitment which is not possible always and i feel singles are more always with a bunch of buddies where as migled are always just the two of them! cheeerrrs!!!
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
27 Mar 07
true .no commitment for the singles..haha
@hcromer (2712)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for almost a year now. We live together in the basement of his grandparents house and it's going okay. I think that things could be better and I really don't like where we are living right now.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
22 Mar 07
no worry,,things will be better later..
@mayenskie (1308)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
Single most of my life.I don't have plans on getting married soon. Still looking for mr. right.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
21 Mar 07
no worry , you right one is waiting for you.