Is it true that love dont last forever? Your suggestion will be helpful,,,

love wont last forever? - Is it True that love wont last forever?
Philippines
March 16, 2007 11:02am CST
I am about to marry next year to my girlfriend, but im confused now because many of my friends and relatives that have been married was filing for an annulment or divorce. I interview one of those people that has a case like that and suddenly that person said that Love wont last forever. im really afraid now to go a steady life also known as marriage,,, please give me some advice..it will be helpful for me to decide to make a big step in my life...
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60 responses
• Sri Lanka
16 Mar 07
I think true love lasts forever. Also I think it's a matter of how you think and how much you love the person whom you have decided to spend the rest of your life with. Wish you all the best in life to come.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
tahnks for the advice iresha....i hope so...
@xionous (440)
• Belgium
17 Mar 07
yah i think so...i love someone and we had a fight around 3 years ago and since then i missed her everyday. 3 days ago she suddenly came online msn messenger and shouted on me why i didnt keep any connection with her...and i was dumbstruck seeing her online! then she said she missed me much and wanted to meet me....we fixed a date and we had chats like ever before...its really great to hav her back i guess true love lasts forever lol
@Ziezie (42)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Love lasts forever, if you work hard on it. I think it's not true to say that love won't last forever. It will if you're not willing to work things out and just give up. If that happens, you do not really love that person and you like them or something superficial like that. Just remember that marriage hsa its ups and downs. And when you're down don't just give up, fight so that you could reach the top once more.
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
you may say that for now becuase your only 16 that is also my view when im 16, well then thanks for your view....
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
thanks for your comment sweety 16....
@naimon21 (78)
16 Mar 07
well the main point in your situation would be it depends..... it depends on how you guys handle relationships.. if you guys could handle situations wherein you both fight which is very normal to people who are into a relationship and since you are going to marry your girlfriend next year you have to know what will be your weakness and strenghts so that by the time you both got married and entered the "not-so-difficult-world-but-it-depends-on-you-guys" you will know how to handle it and you already have adjust and the main converstion of married people will be the talking. you hold the power since you are the guy.. in my experience before we decided to live together. we were like cats and dogs jailed in the same jail. but then as time passes by we have decided to try to live together to try whats it like. again as the time passes we heve learned our weakness and strenghts. we were able to adjust to our differences. to be able to maintain what we had called the blissful moment. to the relationship turning into the dull scene they just have to be sweet and think of the likes which you both know that if you both dig in youll find bliss.. well i hope that this will help you a lot and feel free to ask some questions here and my lot and we guys here in mylot communtity will be happy to what ever you decide to ask.. happy mylotting!! rock on!
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
thanks for sharing your view but i bet to dis agree on the phrase you said that it depends only on guys why we guys is always the topic on that situation i think both party must help each other to build a strong marriage.... anyway hehe just one comment there thats all thanks again...
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
17 Mar 07
true love do last, but just like any precious material,it is hard to find. some spend their life time searching for it.
@kavi112 (233)
• India
17 Mar 07
love s always everlasting... it wont change with time.. if u r love s true it will last for ever.. u know about u r partner... ten y u listen to others ask 2 to u r heart... n decide about u r future... all the best for u r future.. all the best n hav a happy married life
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@rb200406 (1825)
• India
17 Mar 07
Ya i agree with you kavi112.
• United States
16 Mar 07
First of all, you have to keep in mind that emotional love is not stable love. Real love is making a decision to love someone regardless of how you may feel at the moment. Right now you are in that euphoria type state of love but if you want your marriage to last, both you and your girlfriend need to make a decision to love each other through the rough times. And, there will be rough times when you or she get angry and have disagreements and times are difficult because that is part of life. The way you stay together is to make a determination to not allow tough times to keep you from communicating and to divide you. You have to decide to love her. It's not going to always be emotionally charged like right now but you should develop a deeper, more gratifying love if you work at it. You do know that you have to work at a relationship to make it continue, don't you? It won't happen all by itself. It's sort of like your job. If you show up and never do any work, eventually they will fire you.
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• Philippines
18 Mar 07
thanks on youe view.. hope that i can follow those..
• United States
16 Mar 07
No it's not true that love won't last forever. If you find the right person to be with you will be in love forever. You make a commitment to love someone no matter what, that's what get you through tough times, even when you don't feel all in love sometimes. for some it just doesn't work out, things are too bad. But I think most people give up too easily. As soon as they decide they don't want to mess with it any more or start drawing lines then its over. I've been married many years now and we have had hard things thrown our way in life, but I'd rather go through them with my husband than anyone else in the world. We say we don't just love each other, we are in love. If this gal is the right one for you, and you are both willing to work at it, you will do great.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
ok i undurstend thanks for your good comments amigo....
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• United States
16 Mar 07
I would have to tell you not to worry about what people say and do what your heart tells you to. People are always going to talk remember that.
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
yeah right no matter what we do right or wrong good or bad people has always a humor...well then thanks for the comment...
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Hi! I'm also planning to get married with my boyfriend of almost five years . . . We've been through all the ups and downs and we've surpassed ol d hardships in lyf. . . i know i love him for sure and i wil love him til my last breath. . . you'll know wen u love someone so if ur sure bout that person ur gonna marry, if u really love her and willing to take ol the risk with her and willing to spend the rest of ur lyf with her then, go for it! but reminder! "love" is not realy enaf. both of u should do something to maintain the strong relationship u built until the end. thanks!
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
yeah thanks for a inspiring words....i owe it a lot...
@markdan (127)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Well its depends on your partner, Actually i have this long distance relationship as of now and it works fine with us, we started on online dating then until now we are still communicating. My suggestion is that keep up the communication for both of you and be true to each other and most of all have a trust on your partner.
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
well in communication we dont have a problem is that just im looking forward on my coming wedding...well then thanks for your comment amigo....
@zotopec (307)
• Pakistan
16 Mar 07
Some say love is over-rated...not different than eating large quanities of candy. Some ideal-stricked would say that true love lasts forever. This is only a matter of conception. Think about your girlfriend 30 years from now. Think she is titless, teeth broken, back bent, sight weakened, speeck irregular, can you love her then? If so then you are okay to go ahead with your love plans, otherwise, what the heck, just do yourself a favor, dont bother about love and marry her straight. After all, its always free when you get married...
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
hahaha wow what a straight and frank talk...well you have a point there thanks for the comment...
@smkwan2007 (1038)
• Hong Kong
17 Mar 07
Couple - There are many couples wish to stick with their spouses throughout their lives. But things like accidents, illness, conflicts, misunderstands etc which may separate them.
If both of you really love each other, I think getting married is ok. You never know what is going to happen in the future. Even if both og you are insisted being together. There are happenings you may not know beforehand. May be you stick with one another till the end of time. But things like accidents, illnesses, conflicts or war may cause any couple to separate. So enjoy the moment you are spending time together and let the hands of fate guide you through your life. The present is most important time for everyone. The past is gone and the future is still a mystery. But we can choose to enjoy right now.
• United States
16 Mar 07
What people might not get is marriage takes work. You will fight, but you need to work through it. Not everyone gets this and give up. Or they "fell out of love" when can you really fall out of it? No. So love does last forever, true love does. But it means continu to work with it. My parents have been married 29 yrs in August. I am sure they would never divorce. I could point out their bad points. But I know thats forever. It worried me a few years ago when I found out by accident without being told by my parents, but my grandma when I did a chart for our family tree for a class thingy. I found out my dad had gotten a divorce before he married my mom. I pondered it for a while, it upset me and scared me. I was worried my mom didnt know and all that. My parents, mom mostly came out finally and just told me. Before my mom and dad married, my dad got married just to upset his mother to a lady, not a christian. Well they tried to have a kid and work it out. Well my dad refused to divorce her when they started to feel the need cause he didnt believe it. Then the lady goes and cheats on my dad with another guy, therefore he divorced her for a reason that truly is okay, unfaithfulness in a marriage. Then he meets my mom and my mom wonders should I marry a guy who was married before. But she believed and he believed God wanted them together. So they married, but never told us. My mom told me when I found out she wanted to wait till my sister and me married before telling us. I guess cause it would freak us out if we didnt thinking marriage was forever. Now looking back I understand why but it still bugs me time to time about it. So good luck with your future marriage, know it wont be easy at times. But true love does last forever.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
thanks for sharing your view i learned from your words 29 yrs is long huh... i hope for the best on your family... seme here....
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
For me, in order for the love to last forever it must be that both parties are into the same goal. It's really unfair if only one person is striving for that goal. "It takes two to tango". Just like a seed in order for it to grow and be healthful, it needs constant nourishment and care so as just love. There maybe conflicts and misunderstanding but it will also help strengthen your relationship if taken positively. I hope i have enlightened you a bit. Advance happy wedding.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
thanks for the enlighting words...kabayan!!!!
@c2adams2 (351)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Love can last forever, but it isn't free. The main problem with marriage is that, sometimes, we forget that our partner needs to be reminded of the reasons we fell in love with them in the first place. Sometimes my husband brings me a card or a flower. He calls me "my beautiful one," even though I haven't managed to loose the baby weight from two pregnancies. He tells me he loves me every day and kisses me before we go to bed, or leave the house. Marriage is hard work and anyone who tells you otherwise is blowing smoke up your a**. We do not agree on anything, be it politics, religion, or ethics, but we love each other. In a situation like this, when love is the only thing that could possibly hold two such different people together for 7 1/2 years, I cannot doubt the power of love.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
thank your comment see you at my next post...lovelots...
@jean_rose (416)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
All relationships go through trying times. If you avoid the hurt, it's like avoiding to experience life and everything it offers. I have been married ten years and the love is still there. No, not the same heart racing, palm sweating thing but a kind of love that's close to friendship. It's the kind of love that tells you you are never alone because someone's right there beside you to face the odds with. It's the kind of love that allows forgiveness and overlooks shortcomings. But it takes years and a lot of patience to be in that kind of love. If you are used to quitting at the first sign of a problem, then, you have to think things over and be sure it is what really happens. There is always divorce and annulment as options but then, who would want to go through such painful experiences?
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
those people that is not happy on their relationship should deserve a divorce right? but dont wory im not looking forward to it, i will save my relationship the best that i can... thanks for the comments...
@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
ou have to work at keeping the love alive. you have to constantly respect your wife, and consider her needs as well as yours. You must neverpunish your wife in any manner when she does something you don't like, and you must apologise when you do somethingshe doesn't like.. In other words, you must always treat your spouse with the respect you would treat your parents, for she is now your only true family. Love will last, and she will feel loved if you do these simple things ans she will never ask for a divorce or annulment.
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
thanks for the wisdom i owe it a lot....
@uu4h708 (638)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
only change is constant in this world... well let me share to you some of the things ive learned... they say that love is an emotional, psychological thing induced by hormones and is felt by two persons... the hormones are working for up to 12-18months.. then after... the couple is by themselves... so that means, love can be forever only iF... again, only IF, BOTH of you KNOWS and is WILLING to COMMIT.... and let me also share a very nice quote from tuesdays with morrie with regards to rules for happy and long marriage.... "if you dont respect the other person, youre gonna have a lot of trouble... if you cant talk openly about what goes on between you two, youre gonna have a lot of trouble... and if you dont have a common set of values in life, youre gonna have a lot of trouble... youre values must be alike and the biggest one of those values... is the belief in the importance of marriage...." and also dont follow what other or most people are doing... 99% of the world may divorce/annul the person they wed to, that is a "culture" but dont let that "culture" get in the way of your relationship... this you and her.. not you and other people... so.... goodluck on your marriage and i hope you have a nice one!!!
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
if you're truly in love with each other, you will be honest with each other, you will be faithful and you will be patient...and that's just how true love last...forever
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@erikssion (109)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
I believe that love can last forever. I think the only pre-condition is whether you want it to last forever or not. I am married myself for almost 2 years now. 2 years in marriage is relatively very very young. Within this 2 years, you may feel sometimes that the love between your partner wouldn't last forever. Don't give in to this feeling. I married her for a reason and that is love. And I wouldn't want that love to last just because I feel that it should at this moment. I'll fight for my love. I'll fight for our marriage.
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@manindar (24)
• India
17 Mar 07
no problem man. The main thing is the understanding between two members. so there is nothing wrong in LOVE or ARRANGE marraige. First u completely understand her and her feelings so that there is no problem with eachother. ofcourse LOVE is GREAT, bcoz of LOVE : TAJ is present now. so DONT hesitate LOVE if u r a true LOVER then GO A HEAD.. Be sure CHOOSE A RIGHT PATH. all the best.
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