Looks or personality...in choosing a partner?

Looks will catch my attention and personality will encourage me to linger long enough to decide if I want to know this person more. I disagree with your thoughts about getting older. There are some older gentleman that are still quite fetching (good looking), and it could also be a person's perspective as to what makes a hottie of an older gentleman. I know I prefer silver hair as opposed to gray or white.

It has to be personality everytime surely, physical beauty fades and if you have nothing in common with your partner what is the point in being with them!

Personality will always make up the person, but looks will almost always be a factor. I do not know about you guys, but I am just trying to be honest with myself. Looks though is not everything, it will always be a factor for me, when I say looks I do not really mean that a guy has to be super handsome but more of how he looks like should complement his personality. We all have our different standards when it comes to looks, what is handsome to me may not be so for you, so I would just like a guy to have a positive rating in my own criteria of what is pleasing. Cause as immature as it may sound, I really do not know if I can be with someone if physically I am not even attracted to him.. there will always be that attraction factor.. no matter how great a guy is, no matter how kind he is, if there is no attraction between the two of us, I don't think it will last.

OK, I have to be honest here. I have to have someone I can at least look at without throwing up. But if he is at least OK looking and clean then next i go for the personality. I love a great personality. A guy who is sweet and one who is funny. I also love a guy who dotes on me and gives me attention.

i'm choosing personality AND looks... it is important that your partner is presentable enough so that its not embarassing to introduce him/her to your relatives and friends...

I, too, prefer personality over looks. But if i my "soon-to-be-partner" have them both, then why much better. =) I mean, sure your boyfriend has this qualities that you have nothing to complain about, but he's below average looking man and you feel ashamed being with him in public eye..then it'd be a barrier in a good relationship. My point is, if you can't accept the fact that he's not even close to being an "average" looking man, or you're hurting with people's brickbat on how unaesthetic your partner is, then why let yourself put on fire; suffering out of your partner's deficiency.

I suppose your way is the sensible way of doing things. I would choose the good looks and then if the person didn't have the personality to go with them, I would dump them. Of course another feature that I would be looking for is intelligence. I wouldn't want a good looking stupid person. It's a pity that we all lose out looks as we grow older, but by then our love will be well and truly establised.

Personality comes first for me, she has to more of a fast-thinker, to catch up with most of my jokes!LoL She has to be more understanding, for I possess less of it, simple, intelligent, caring and of course, God-fearing. The looks would be a great bonus, if ever a certain girl has those characteristics that I am looking for.

i think it is not about prefernce it's about what is hyponotyzing in a person i think that i like all people will see the looks first but very fast i will start discussing with him and see if i like his personalitty and by that i will see if we match or not if the person dosn't look that good it won't make me resist him..i do not jusge a person by his looks he always will look different after i get to know him a good looker can turn into an ugly person and an ugly one can turn into a beautiful person that is how it goes with me:)

before when i was younger i had envisioned someone to become my knight in shining armor or my partner. . . someone who's tall, exotic, ruggedly-handsome and with big pockets. . .(u know wat i mean) but later on i met this guy who's really opposite with that description - he's not really that tall, not handsome as my friends would tell me and somewhat broke. but i really enjoy his company. . .he knows when and how to make me smile and laugh, he's there wen i needed him, he compliments my personality and by being "him" made me love him that much. . .

Geez..well I cannot say that I preffer personality over looks,but if u remark someone for the first time ..u remark them beacose of their looks.Only if u decide to know them( he or she) would you know what kind of personality your future partner will have. I now have a relationship, with the most beautifull girl ,...and the smartest girl I have ever known.( subjective speaking ;) )

I would say personality is more important. You have to remember that looks can fade. A personality just gets better. I chose personality over looks and I've been with the same person for twenty-two years. I'm not saying I'm not attracted to him, but it is the least thing that I care about. Everyday I look forward to our quality conversation time. Wisdom and loyalty are other qualities that just get better over time. Looks just can't come begin to compare to that.

both... hahaha... kidding! personality will take you places more than just looks... personality is more in the inside which is more important... looks can fade through the years.. though personality changes... it can alter for the better... :))

I say that beauty and charm rests within the heart and soul of every man and woman, and not on the outside appearance. Just like the saying "not all that glitters diamonds." Good looks are very deceiving.

Honestly I believe in giving someone a chanc because you never know what they have to offer. My husband and I went to school together and back then he looked like a short skin and bones geek but I dated him anyway. I was a bad girl and broke up with him when someone else asked me out but years after high school we bumped into eachother again and he grew up and filled out and looked good. He wont win any best looking guy contests but it is what is in his heart that makes him sexy to me.

To be honest, I need both but the priority for the personality then a little degree of beauty. cause as we all here agree on: personality stays for ever and beauty fade away with time.

well its always been personality as a good lookin guy might not have an attractive personality , but yes a man who beholds good personality will always look good, and yes its true nuthin is life time so always go for attitude and approach towards life which will help in long run as for looks and handsome stuff we have actors.

Looks does not have any importance for me....the only thing that matters is his personality...a boy having good looks but if he is not understanding will not help in making relationship good but a boy having average looks but he loves you lot can keep you so happy that you will feel like to be the happiest person in the world....im tellin this by my own experiance....

I also prefer guy's personality. We share the same thoughts, I also go for sensible guys who has sense of humor. Good looks is good, but having a big heart is far better than looks.

I prefer a good personality any day over looks, but being a not so handsome male it seems that the world may say personality but in real life situations it is always the good looking one that gets a date even if he/she is an a** i speak from my own life lessons i have had three girlfriends I am 35 with a tested I.Q of 142 I am old fasioned male i treat women with respect open the door,pull out the seat etc... but in the dating game it is always the one with the better looks, I wish it wasn't so but sure does seem that way