what will you do if you found out you can't have a child??

I would and did tell him. We've had 6 miscarriages and no answers from the number of doctors we've both been to as to why this keeps occurring. I flat out told him if he wanted to leave that I would understand ('cause he had said he didn't want to adopt). But he said he married me because he loves me and that we would just adopt if I couldn't have any. He's wonderful. If he truly loves you - you'll find away.

I have been trying to have a child for 9 years. I never had one till this day. We don't have any health problems and when tested separately we were both found fit for having children. After 9 years I still don't find words to say to my husband. He has his own ache in his heart for this problem and I have mine. Leaving me because of this never crossed his mind. I asked him and he responded simply that he will leave me only if he finds out he does not love me anymore! not because we don't have children.

This would be a very difficult situation, since I love kids so much. I would definitely cry for sometime. But I would definitely adjust myself. If my husband wants to leave me on this, let him go. I dont think he love me for what I am. I am capable of looking after myself. I will definitly adopt a small one from an orphanage. There are millions of kids, even on the streets, who dont have anybody to take care of them. So why dont i help at least one of them.

I'm very sorry if this is happennign to you. Infertility is a very terrible thing to go through. For me, it makes me feel like I'm not a real woman. I am worried that my husband will leave me and I have low self esteem. My problem isn't that I can't get pregnant but my body doesn't seem to be able to hold onto pregnancies. I have been pregnant 4 times in the last 2 years and it hurts so much. My hormones are all screwed up and I am not chemically depressed. I'm worried my husband will leave, but he doesn't seem like he wants to leave me. Also my doctor and my mother and most of my friends say that if he left me because I coudlnt' have children than he would be a terrible man, because you don't marry someone only to have children, but because you love them. You marry them "for better or for worse" and this is certainly worse.

This is one of the hardest things you will ever have to face in life. It really IS like having your baby die, I know. Just sit your husband down & say, "I have something very hard to tell you. I went to the doctor's yesterday (or whenever), and he said . . . " Remember that this is NOT YOUR FAULT. It simply is your condition. If he leaves you without trying to find a solution, then he doesn't really love you, he just wants a breeder. You are not a cow! Allow yourself to grieve for your lost babies, too. This is such a hard place to be, I really feel for you! Keep your chin up and know that you are not alone!

i will be honest with my husband and tell him my condition, and just suggest to adapt a baby if he really wants to have a child. if because of that he will leave my then its his choice and i cant do anything about that.

That is heartbreaking, not be able to bear a child and it is also marriage breakage because in order to be a woman, one must bear a child and it is the perfection of a union between husband and wife. It maybe really painful to know about it, but its more painful to tell the husband then the husband will leave because of it. Maybe ill tell him if he cant bear with me not be able to have a child, he can leave. Then ill just mend on my broken heart. Then ill have to adopt someone to be my baby, a baby that ill treasure as my own to take care of me (hopefully) when ill grow old. It is so painful to accept it (not be able to bear a child) but i have to.