Problems in school? Are your children gifted? Special needs?

@camar_lyn (1028)
Singapore
March 17, 2007 3:10pm CST
Is your child having problems in school? I've just read a publication that shows how to tell if your child/ren is gifted. They might not be trouble makers after all! In a nutshell, these are the main points: 1. Has specific talent (Eg: manipulate numbers mentally, draw unusually realistic pictures) 2. Has advance language development in other words, extensive vocabulary. 3. Reaches development milestones well ahead of his peers. 4. Relentlessly curious and never stop asking questions. 5. Unusually active though not hyperactive. Hyper kids have short attention span. 6. Vivid imagination. 7. Can recall arcane info that he learns from tv, movies, books. 8. Able to think more rapidly than they can express themselves. Any of you already ticking off the list? Guilty for scolding them? Want more details? I'll be glad to share with you. Cheers! Cheers!
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5 responses
• Canada
23 Mar 07
Each of my children are different , I have a couple with learning difficulties and one who would be average and one who is definitely gifted and the other is too young to know for sure but I believe they are all gifted in their own way as they are all special to me no matter how well they understand or are able to do things in life . I love them for them , although it is nicer to see your children not have to struggle so hard in life it doesn't make one better over the other .
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@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
Hi guys! Thank you for replying to my post. Your children are so lucky to have such a parent! It takes a special person to see beyond the physical. No doubt each child is special and gifted in their own way. I agree with you there! Your love and support just being there while they go through their hard times is something that they need. The satisfaction you get when you see them succeed is the reward that goes beyond words. Kudos to you. God bless you all! - Lyn
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• Philippines
23 Mar 07
as for me all children are gifted. there is not a school yet created that maybe able to full satisfy this gift, some may only expedite its discovery, some may dangeroulsy stagnate it. even worse some may mis use or mis gauge this remarkable divine capacity. as an old adage says "experience is the best teacher, so life is the greatest school" the rest are just like books in the library, all for reference.
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@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
Thank you very much for replying to my post. You must be one proud parent and a lucky one at that! I just read in a paper today that a 7 year old boy just sat for a chemistry paper at 'O' levels (usually set by cambridge university) and he passed with grade C. The fact that he was studying complex molecular structure by himself at 3 years surprised even his parents. Such an exceptional gift! Wouldn't you say?
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@jean_rose (416)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
My eldest daughter (9 years old)has advanced language development. In fact, she perfected the English National Test last week and as a parent, I am really proud of what she has achieved. Although people say that proper nutrition and genetics play a big part in things like these, I also think that her love for reading has contributed greatly in her garnering the perfect score. The scolding? Oh, I am guilty. Because she loves reading too much, there are instances when she pretends not to hear when I call her which causes me to lose my temper sometimes and end up scolding her instead.
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@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
21 Mar 07
Thank you very much for your reply. It is amazing how a child can just focus on one thing and be oblivious to her surroundings. It is amazing to know that your daughter is doing extremely well. You should be a proud parent. Cheers! -Lyn
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Oh does this bring back a memory of my oldest child's school days. He was in first grade and the teacher called me and said that she thought he had ADHD. I really didn't think my child had ADHD as he was very focused at home, could easily sit through a 2-hour movie and keep his attention and other things. I agreed to take him to his physician who said,"we'll put him on the medicine, and you'll know really quickly if he has ADHD. (The medicine for ADHD is a stimulant and if a child doesn't need it, it will make them even more hyper)Well, it was obvious at the first dose that he didn't need the medicine, he bounced off the walls. I went back to the teacher, (with a note from him doctor) and said, "No, my child does not have ADHD, perhaps you need to find ways to occupy him!!!!" They tested him. Come to find out, he had a very, very high IQ, was reading on a third grade level and was BORED STIFF!!!! His daydreaming, talking, moving about the classroom were all in an attempt to stay occupied. She got thired grade work for him and later told me she never heard another peep out of him! He has always been very bright and very ahead of his class. He graduated third in his class, graduated collge with high honors and is working in the job of his dreams!
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@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
17 Mar 07
Thank you for being the first to reply to my post! You must be so proud to be his mom. Sad to say however that what you've gone through is typical of most schools. I'm personally teaching children who are doing beyond what their peers are doing in school simply because they are bored with the work that's given to them in school. I'm so sure there's a lot more out there that feels the same. However, many parents are working nowadays, so it might take that extra effort from parents to realise their child's potential. Cheers!- Lyn
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@GardenGerty (100380)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Through third grade I was failing in school. I started out with serious vision problems, and I had a unique, somewhat eccentric family. Poor in common sense, rich in information. I moved and starting in fourth grade, learned how to become the stand out student, how to use my intelligence as my own personal trademark. I do not think my parents ever scolded me about my grades, but the phrase I hated most was "You aren't living up to your potential." Which is what most teachers said of me. Even as an adult though, I find myself wondering if I am attention deficit disordered, without the hyperactivity. Both of my kids are gifted, but one did not qualify for the programs, as they changed the percentages required for giftedness. I told her, once, when she was sad about that, that she was gifted, just not funded. We had a really large gifted component in the schools here. I was pleased with this school district because, although she did not have the label, she could take any class she wanted after seventh grade. I do agree that every child does have a gift, and that sometimes they are too trampled by circumstances to reveal it, or it is not the gift that society seeks and identifies.
@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
16 Apr 07
Hi GardenGerty, this was exactly what i meant! I went through the same thing. I would say that some people are 'street smart' as in wise on life while others are simply 'book smart' and these are the people who scored 100% on ALL tests no less. I personally think that 'giftedness' comes in many ways. So for the schools to actually place a child in the gifted education program, is such a narrow perspective. Thank you for your reply! - Lyn