do i owe an apology???

@socorban (651)
United States
March 17, 2007 4:28pm CST
I feel kinda bad about a recent event so let me give you the rundown and you give me your opinion. About two weeks ago i called my (as of yesterday ex) girlfriend and some guy picks up the phone. (Ok, no big deal im not posessive i just like a lil loyalty.) I asked were she was and this guy started getting lippy with me on the phone, naturally i got a little annoyed and told him to keep his mouth shut and just put her on the phone, then he started callin me profoun names and tellin me how hes gonna kick my a** among other really nasty things. I laughed at him and said id like to see him try. ANyway, i he wound up hangin up the phone and i was to pi**ed to call back. Last weekend I was at a get to gether at a friends house and there was a kinda new guy there, without an exchange of names we were all doin what guys do and it seemed ok, the guy didnt seem bad. After the night progressed one of my friends that i told the story to came up to me and pionted out this was the guy from the phone call. So i walked up to him and told him who i was, and told him i'd like to see him kick my a** now.. he paused for a second and tried to grab at my neck ( big no no) I pushed his arm out of the way and just laid into him, i hit him once and he dropped, i should have let it go there but i was so infuriated about how he spoke to me on the phone so i got on top of him and hit him several more times untill my friends broke it up. He has a broken nose, needed 11 sttches above his left eye, bruses all over his face, busted tooth, i put a hurtin on him bad. After all was said an done, he didnt want to press charges, although he went after me first. I feel kinda bad about it but do i really owe him an apology? He would have had no problem doin it to me, he tried. And why would he speek to me acting as tho im inferior on the phone when he never met me? Do you think i owe him an apology?
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
17 Mar 07
hi there well it's hard to say really because he was calling you names and you told him to shut his mouth but i don't think you should of really done anything until he approcahed at you, but if he tried to hit you back then no you don't owe an apology as i see it!
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@socorban (651)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I apraoched him and told him who i was from the phona call and said to him i'd like to see you try now cause we were face to face. He made the first move at my throat and i reacted.
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
17 Mar 07
yes well for all you know he could of lashed out at you so no in my opinion you don't owe him an apology!
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• Slovenia
17 Mar 07
Well, it's a nasty situation from the start... Breaking up is never easy, and when some guy picks up your (ex) girlfriend's phone it gets even worse. Calling names is like too much tabasco sauce... I can understand, that you were feeling angry. But what I don't understand is your reaction at the party. It only shows your vulnerability... He got to you just by saying some stupid, emotionally strong stuff... Yes, I do belive you should appologize. Not that you owe it to him. You should do it for yourself. You'll end up sleeping better. You do realize it was a stupid thing to do (actually, I belive you knew that all along, but it felt good doing it - making you feel strong, tough, in a strange way in-control). Be sincere to everyone involved. Appologize, and be honest. Only then you will feel strong.
@socorban (651)
• United States
17 Mar 07
part of it was the fact that he told me he was gonna beat me bloody and then p*ss on my body as i laid there. rrrrrrr Just thinkin about it makes me want to knock him around again, I probably should apologize but i dunno if i will, he should have never talked such a talk and turned out to be such a chump. I think the main reason i couldnt just walk away and had to lay him out was the "p*ss on me while im layin there" statement, ohhhhhh man who says that? I shoulda took a leak on him after i nailed him. I think he deserved to be laid out for his arrogence and macho man attitude, although I do think i went to far with all the extra hits.
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• United States
7 Apr 07
I don't know if I'm right on this or not, but if I was you I would not apologize.The guy sounds like a real jerk & desrved his butt kicked...
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@socorban (651)
• United States
7 Apr 07
yea i agree. He needed a reality check, and i was the one to tally it up. You cant go around treating everyone like inferior people untill one day you run into me and hit the floor i guess.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
Thank you for ignoring my reply. lol :)
@Kaeli72 (1230)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I'm sorry...I honestly don't know if I should laugh or cry on this one...so I'll take the laughter. Sounds like your EX wasn't being honest with you if the other man started getting lippy with you. If he knew and respected that she was yours, she would A: not be so lippy with you on the phone B: replied, "She's busy right now and has asked me to answer her phone and C: understood who you were. Amazing that people can throw away their relationships just like that. In the olden days, if a man knew a woman was taken, he would have no business being around her...none at all. If he lashed out at you like that, I wonder what the woman told him about you? Why such anger? A reasonable man would have talked things out.
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@socorban (651)
• United States
6 Apr 07
im not sure what if anything she said about me but for the attitude i got it couldnt have been true. Im a very nice gentlemen when it comes to women, hold doors, full trust the whole 9 yards. Never yell never hit EVER. I guess this guy had the macho thing going on, i told him when he said "who the f*ck is this" that uhh im her boyfriend, and he laughed at me and started gettin lippy. Since i posted this i saw him again, in a parking lot outside a mall. I was going to go over and apologize but he beat me to it and came over to me and took a swing at me from behind. He landed that one on the back of my head, but that was the only one, i turned and nailed him in the lower jaw and down he went again. I set now that i dont owe and apology, he can kiss my rear for all i care now. I dont like fighting, in fact that was the first time (other than our last sqaubble) I ever "faught" with someone seriously aside from play boxing with friends and sparring. Oh well, i tried.
@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
I guess I should have read your reply before giving my advice. Oh well!
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• Singapore
17 Mar 07
if apologizing makes u feel better then by all means... do so...
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