How would you react with the situation if your best friend is spreading rumours

United States
March 17, 2007 4:50pm CST
hey folks attimes we trust people alot .how would you react to the situation if you find out that your best friend is spreading bad rumours about you ..well what you will do
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• United States
18 Mar 07
What friend? As soon as I found out, that person would be out of my life. I'd be sad to find out that she wasn't the friend I thought she was, but I certainly wouldn't consider her my friend any longer. I don't care for gossips in the first place, and try to stay away from them, so the chances of a person who spreads rumors becoming my friend in the first place would be pretty darn small.
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
17 Mar 07
i really do not think any best friend would spread rumers about me, i think i am intelegent enough to choose the right friend. a person that spreads rumors about me in not a best friend nor a friend. i will cut any connection that i had with this person. completly erase this person. and that's it. about the rumors i really do not care cause i know that a person that knows me won't believe the rumors that is being spread or that he will come directly to me and ask me if it is true. the people that would believe those rumors are not the people i can connect with in life.
@honeyangel (1991)
17 Mar 07
i would feed her false info to see ive it was her or not and if it was i would slap her around and i would spread her all over the wall
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@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
17 Mar 07
I have been in a similar situastion. I would not say she was my best friend, but we had been friends for more than 10 years when it happened. I took it very seriously. I could not understand how she would say the things she said. I hears her myself, so I know she did it. I never told her I heard it, and she never said anything about it. I did not want to have her as my friend anymore. It was a btrayal i could not forgive. This is in fact the only time I have not forgiven someone. Si i just stopped calling. when I met her I would say hi and bye, but not engage in any conversations with her. had she said something about it, asked forgiveness, explained why she did it - said something - i would have forgiven her.
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17 Mar 07
this did happen to me once. I was friends with a girl from work. We spent time together outside of work just doing girly things like shopping, having tea at each others houses and going out pubs, cinema etc. She found out my boyfriend at the time was interested in someone else (I am now married to a lovely man) whilst I was on holiday with my parents. When I came back she told me he had missed me and was miserable whilst I was away. She told everyone else in work that he was seeing someone else. When I found out what she had been saying behind my back I told her I knew what she had said and that I didnt want to see or speak to her again. Life is way too short to have nasty people in your life. Tell you friend you know what they have done and that you no longer consider them a friend. You deserve better.
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@ironstruck (2298)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
I don't put up with stuff like that from anyone. Life is too short. That is not a friend and would be out of my life in a heart beat. I don't need friends like that and I don't know anyone who does.
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@neon2000 (2756)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
In that case, your friend is not a best friend because what I know about best friend is the one you can keep your secret and won't betray you. I will confront her why is she doing that.
@vetsmom_rgv (1083)
• United States
28 Mar 07
WELL, that has happened to me before, it wasn't a big deal to me. i really didn't care what she said or what or who she told about me. we are still friends, but hardly talk. itw asn't a big deal to me.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
well just let him be and stop being friends with him/her if i find out it was really true that he/she spread bad rumours about me.
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
27 Mar 07
I would confront her and proberly not talk to her for a good while.
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Well, when i'm with that situation. I get mad of my best friend because i trusted her and she's my best friend and never in my mind that she can do that in me. I will confront her if she's really doing something bad in my back.. I'm not that person who let my friend being ashamed infront of people so i will talk to her in private. And if things will be settle for the both of us, well, i'm willing to forgive her and start a new relationship being a friend of her..
@anant123 (66)
• United States
27 Mar 07
it will be really very sad and i will feel heart broken... this is something which you cant expect even in your dreams....may be after knowing this i will start reviewing our friendship....
• Malaysia
27 Mar 07
i did experienced that.i was so sad when the person i trusted betrayed me.but i rather not knowing that person if i knew what gonna happen.actually in life we shouldn't trust someone so much even if that peson is your best friend.ca u never know when they gonna betray you.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
well,he's not a Good fRiend at all..
@simplysue (631)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I couldn't consider that person a friend anymore. A friend doesn't do something like that. If a true friend has a problem with you or wants to talk about you they will talk to you ....not behind your back. They will be looking for a way to help you, not hurt you. A "best friend" who would spread bad rumors about you is more like a worst enemy in my opinion.