Different nationality relationships.

@Mollyjo (268)
United States
March 17, 2007 8:56pm CST
Do you feel that different nationality relationships work? Do you believe that it is o.k. to date another person that is from another country? What are the risks of doing so with dealing with family and friends? I don't see that it should matter what nationality you are nor do I think it matters what country you are from, love comes in all different sizes and if someone does truly love you, then what makes the difference. I do feel however that in some instances it could be really hard to maintain this type of relationship. Simply because it is going to take more work on both parts to understand more about their beliefs and their family. For the most part though, it can work but both hearts have to be fully commited to do so. I see alot of different couples anymore that are not the same nationality and in most cases it seems as if they do get along easier then if they dated someone from their own origin. What are your thoughts? Do you feel the same?
13 responses
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I am living proof that this does work. I have been married for 11 years to a man from Cuba. I am American. We have two beautiful little boys and things could not be any better. There were some differences in the beginning, as he was raised in a way that I wasn't. But after years of being together, I know exactly what he thinks, feels, etc. I really don't think it matters what country or nationality the person is, it matters that you are willing and able to work through any problems you may have to build a happy & loving relationship.
@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I am so glad that you were able to work through all the differences. Sometimes I think that dating our own culture is more difficult then to date someone outside our own culture. Simply because other cultures respect each other in different ways and to work and learn from one another is a wonderful way to broaden ones life. Years ago though people would of just been offended by these types of relationships but, I don't think there is any thing wrong with outside culture relationships, People are the same no matter what culture they are. We all have a heart and want to be loved.
• United States
21 Mar 07
I feel the same way. Thanks for such an interesting post !!
• United States
18 Mar 07
I dont think it should matter if you are different nationalaties, in fact i think it somtimes helps a relationship. My boyfriend is Japanese and he knows all about sushi and stuff so i have learned some new things. All that really matters is that 2 people are compatible and appreciate each other
@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
18 Mar 07
This is the way that I feel also. Every relationship no matter what or who it is always has problems.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
18 Mar 07
that's a great post! yep. it's true. appreciation is a must and as well as compatibility. and difference in nationalities will help us widen our knowledge, too! it's great to learn new things and exchange ideas.
• United States
18 Mar 07
Yes I do. Both my marriages were to men of a different nationality one was German and the other was American. They were also of different religions and neither of these differences caused any problems between us. Both sets of in-laws were not too pleased but as my spouses said they were not the ones getting married. Their disapproval, in both cases, faded with time and they forget they had ever felt any disapproval towards me.
@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
21 Mar 07
This is true but it seems as if it will never end when you are in the midst of the whole thing, Thank goodness for acceptance. lol It relieves so much stress and pressure that can cause trouble in a relationship.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I have a friend who has been married to a man from El Salvador for 25 years and they have a great relationship. I think it takes a lot of work. I think both parties in the relationship need to work on understanding cultural differences and language barriers. But if you know this, of course you can make things work and find true happiness in your life together. My friend's biggest problem has been her mother-in-law. They have a different way of viewing marraige. But she has most often bowed down to her mother-in-laws ways and it works out best for all. The in-laws still live in El Salvador, so it is only an issue once a year.
@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I have had issues like this with my mother in-law and it is no picknick but, like you said it does make it work just to bow down to them, I just hate to do that but, I don't have to worry so much about doing that any more simply because my husband did finally put his foot down on the subject and she did finally back off and left me along.
• Nigeria
18 Mar 07
it is okay to be in an international relationship. but for to be successfull both parties have to be matured, and it also depend on how and where these people met each other. if it is on the internet, what website? have they seen each by scanning and exchanging each other pictures etc. it can work out, but it definately o.k.
@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I have only know one couple that has met on the internet that has stayed together. In fact they had moved here from another state and they are a wonderful family. They had brought both of their families together and are rasing them. I just don't think that I would however trust someone on the internet my self. You do hear of so many horrible stories over the good ones.
@vikceo (1301)
• India
18 Mar 07
ofcourse yes they do work. loves knows no languages, no boundaries.. it's universal one word love.
@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Yes love does not have boundaries, as the saying goes love does travel.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
18 Mar 07
well I have a friend who is Jamaican who is married to a man from India she even when to India to meet his family. Another friend is Jamaican she was with a Pakistan man and they had a baby together that did not work out but now she is engaged to get married to an American
@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I think it just depends on how people are treated in a relationship by the other person this far this most important part of the relationhip. Is respect and trust.
@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Mar 07
it doesnt matter what your nationality is in a relationship as long as there is trust and faith and love in one relationship, that really matters.
@peddhie (110)
• Australia
19 Mar 07
I think what matters in relationship is not your nationality difference. Ok, that would be hard but love, respect, acceptance and commitment, that would conquer all diferences. My husband is Italian Spanish background and yes we have differences but we can sort them out and with love every matter can be solved.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
18 Mar 07
in my case, i had 13 exes who were all in the same nationality as i am. thought one would work. but even my 8 year relationship never did. and unexpectedly, i fell inlove after months of knowing a guy who lives in sweden (i am from the philippines). and we did give it months to think about it first. if we can handle the pressure and the distance and all other odds. to make a long story short, we did not care. all we know is we love each other and here we are now, just a month more and it's our first anniversary as lovers. in all honesty, it's so difficult in the beginning. the culture difference is so much. we even came to a point of aruing for days because of certain issues about our cultures. mostly, because i am a jealous person and the distance between us makes it harder for me not to feel scared that he might find someone else. but later on, with pure love, trust and loyalty, here we are and are happily growing together. differences will always be there whether you are having the same color or not. for as long as you both are willing to work out the relationship together, willing to put your heart and soul into it, the relationship will grow stronger everyday and differences will be set aside and will be replaced by happiness.
18 Mar 07
My BF is Mixed(African/Middle Eastern) and I am White British. I think that relationships like these can work if you are prepared to make the effort, just like any other relationship. I have found it hard at times to understand how his family think and how he thinks. It's interesting being with someone who has some different cultural practices to yourself because it expands your mind and perception of the world. At the same time, I think that it can be quite hard and put a strain on your relationship if those differences are absolutely massive and one person ends up compromising or "bridging the gap" all the time. I also think that the input of your families has a big affect because some families do not like inter-racial relationships or marriages and would do everything to try and split you up.
• Belgium
18 Mar 07
they do work, my wife is from brazil and i'm from belgium. we live in belgium, but every 2 years we visit brazil; no problems with the family thus far; we have a little daughter and for her it is an enrichement to have to opportunity to already make such big voyages, and she likes and knows her brazilian family.
• United States
18 Mar 07
I think it can take a little extra effort if your partner's family is of a very different culture, but there are challenges in any relationship and in some this is the least of their worries. I dated a man for a while whose family is Malasian (which I'm not) and I really enjoyed learning about his culture; it was not an issue between us at all.