what wont you do as a parent that your parents did?
By happy2bmommy
@happy2bmommy (305)
United States
March 17, 2007 9:16pm CST
for me, i promise that i will never have a HUGE blowout argument with my husband in front of the kids. growing up, my parents didnt hold back. they had horrible screaming matches in front of us. they would even throw things at walls and break anything that was breakable. i remember thinking almost every single night "i hope they dont fight tonight". i think i was about 14 when i asked my mom why doesnt she just leave him already, it was obvious that neither one of them was happy. she said that she was with him for us, but seriously, we would have been better in a single family home instead of having to hear all of that garbage on a regular basis. i dont understand how they reasoned that it was better for us to be in a complete family, and hearing all of the things we heard. finally, when i was 18, they got the divorce. it was such a releif to know that all of this nonsense was over. i was so happy. isnt that sad? i was happy that my parents were splitting up! ever since i was little i was SURE that i would never ever get married. i was convinced that this is what marriage was all about. i was so sure that my life was going to revolve around my career as a crime scene investigator, but then.... i met my husband. i was 19, and i fell hard for him. we have been together for almost 8 years now, and married for 2, but i know that i learned alot from my parents. my husband and i will never traumatize our kids that way.
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@Joslyn77 (374)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I also grew up in a family that faught alot. Both of my parents drank so fights would break out all the time at night. I would always be woken up by them. That is the worst feeling ever! Sometimes my mother would come up to my room drunk just to start a fight with me. I used to pray that they would get a divorced but it never happend. I moved out when I was 19. I am a parent and no my husband and will not fight in front out our kids. Nor do we have huge screaming matches. I just refuse to do it. There is one more thing I will never do. My daughter is a horrible and very picky eater. I was too. My mother would make me sit at the dinner table until I finshed all my dinner. Well I guess I was pretty strong willed because I remember sitting at our dinner table lots of times in the dark and then going straight to bed. I even remember her offering it me the next day the breakfast! That's just sick. I do not force my daughter to eat anything she does not like.
@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
• United States
18 Mar 07
When I was a teener, during my mother's anger, she always tells me how I am just like my father. It is not a compliment at all because she keeps on telling me how irresponsible and bad my father was (they are separated). She always compare me to him when I committed a mistake or just plain hard headed.
This, I will never do to my children because I felt so bad before and I don't want my children feeling that way.
@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I will NOT raise my child to be a COWARD. Afraid to speak her mind. I will raise my child to be bold and confident. I will live a respectable life before my child. It will not be do what I say and not do what I do. My action will always be on point with what I say.
