March 18, 2007 11:10am CST
Friends. I need help. Today, in my college, a conversation with a guy led to quarrel. I got extremely angry and used some harsh words. He then slapped me. I wanted to teach that guy some lesson. But his friends stopped me and tried to calm me down. I said to him that I'll teach him a lesson. But actually, I'm not a quarrelsome guy. I'm not into fights. Besides I don't want to ruin my career by picking fight in college. Moreover, that guy has high contacts. Whereas, i don't have.teaching that guy a lesson. But my ego is against it. Whenever I think of letting him go his way, an inner voice says that I am a All these reasons are stopping me from coward. I don't feel satisfied. I want revenge for my insult. What should I do? Am I a coward? Should I let him go? Should I teach him a lesson forgetting about my career? My career is of supreme importance for me. All my life depends upon my career. I need your suggestions and opinion guys.
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19 Mar 07
If you really want to exact revenge without getting hurt any further, consult a lawyer on the matter. Slapping is a criminal offense moreso because, it was done publicly. The good thing that will come out of this will be that most likely, the parents will approach you for an amicable settlement. When this happens you can simply say that you just want to have an assurance that this guy will not bully you anymore. It will be better if you mend your differences and become friends at the end of it all. Another step will be to tell your lawyer about the whole score. That you prefer that the issue is settled amicably for you to be sure that he will not harm you anymore. Once your lawyer underakes some steps towards the achievement of this end, make amends with the guy as soon as the lawyer signals it. It is better for everyone to have a friend rather than an enemy who can do more harm than you can imagine.
19 Mar 07
I think you should just leave the guy alone and stop thinking about vengeance. As you said, he has high contacts and you do not. Besides, it is not your cup of tea to pick on fights. Absoulutely, he is not worth your time and there are others more important to think of than planning a revenge against him. Who knows, in a way, some other people will do the revenge to him you so wanted to do. If he is a quarrelsome guy, then chances are he'll have a lot more enemies than you think he does. Live your life peacefully and on more important things than just wasting it on him.
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18 Mar 07
Just let it go. There's no cowardice in avoiding a bad situation. If you seek revenge, you'll likely just make the situation that much more complicated and probably start a nasty grudge feud. Be the better man and just let it go.
18 Mar 07
You are not a coward. You did the right thing! You immediately thought of keeping your career in good stance rather than challenge him and make a revenge. You feel unsatisfied for awhile but it will pass. That guy will have his bad karma sooner or later. Remember the Golden Rule? Taking revenge on him will surely ruin your life and career. Cause the problem will never stop. Remember Jesus when he was being beaten by the Roman Soldiers? What did he do with them. He never treated them as his enemies. Someday, that guy will realize who you are when you became successful in your career. I hope you got my point.