My Dad died

United States
March 18, 2007 11:44am CST
I could use a little help in dealing with my father's death. I did not grow up with him. If you go to my home page and see some of the other discussions I have started, you'll have a better insite of how I've been trying to deal with him. Now that he's gone I just want to scream!!. I have so many unresolved issues and am not sure how to proceed. I know everyone here is about posting but my hope is that someone will read my posts and be able to discuss them with me. Thank you in advance for your reply
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18 responses
@Monkish (95)
• United States
18 Mar 07
My sympathies are with you and I hope you are able to pull through this situation. I know that dealings which are diffcult such as this tend to make us stronger. I can see though that you are already a strong person for what you have gone through already.
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• United States
18 Mar 07
Thank you for your kind words and observations. I must say just from today i already feel better from strangers here on mylot so thank you very much
• United States
18 Mar 07
i am so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. my parents have been married this yr will be 40 yrs so my dad has always been in my life. growing up and even now anything that happens major in my life or my brothers life its my mom that is there for us not my dad. if it wasnt for my mom we wouldnt have the things we got. even though my dad is in my life the computer etc are more important than us.
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• United States
18 Mar 07
wow that is so moving. I am happy for you that you had your mom there for you. It's so wrong that anyone can have a kid but there's a test to drive a car! thank you for sharing that part of you with me.
• China
19 Mar 07
Since it has been a truth,you should not take a passive at it.You may be very sad,and regret.Just accept it.
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@arunna (32)
• India
18 Mar 07
i can understand ur loss and ur pain...but let me tell you...nobody is alone in this earth...everybody has someone or the other...life has to move on...we just cant sit and crib about whatever happened...we need to move on in life...god has given us one life...face the happy as well as sad moments with courage...dont worry...nobody can change whatever happened but dont ever feel lonely....think that u have found a sister in me...think me as ur sister...share ur problems...people in mylot are like a small family...we are there for you...never feel betrayed....cheer up!wake up!u have a life to live....feel free to tell out ur feelings...
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• United States
18 Mar 07
I really am grateful for mylot as it is a forum for me to release without being judged. And if an idiot does judge, it's a random person not connected to my life so it's all right Thank you so much for your love
@scapula (760)
• Jordan
18 Mar 07
sorry for that, I knew that you ae able to deal with things but you want an encouragment, you can do it and get over these things, the most important is to keep yourself in the way. you can ask your friends about these things how to deal with , you can ask a older people , just ask whom you trust and accept their advice.
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• United States
18 Mar 07
It's hard to ask people I know as they do tend to stand in judgement if you say something like.... I'm relieved he is gone
• United States
18 Mar 07
I feel that there is so much more to your story than what you've put here. The only way to release the pain is to let go of your fears and just let it out. You can do it! I will be checking back to see how you are
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• United States
19 Mar 07
Please read this shttp://itscarolee919-mythoughts.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2006-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-08%3A00&updated-max=2007-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-08%3A00&max-results=4tory I wrote avout my mother
• United States
19 Mar 07
I made a mistake it should have been http://itscarolee919-mythoughts.blogspot.com/search?updated-min=2006-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-08%3A00&updated-max=2007-01-01T00%3A00%3A00-08%3A00&max-results=4 It is a story about my mother. The one called Ham Sandwiches and Little Lulu Comic Books
@indra182 (19)
• Indonesia
19 Mar 07
I'm sorry for your lost. Is there anything that I could do for you?? I know,, father is the important people for me. You know, actually I didn't grow up with him too. I grow up with my grand ma. My parents are too busy when i was child. You're not alone fren,,,
• United States
19 Mar 07
You already have done something for me just by replying. Furthermore, you chose to share your history with me. Thank you what a kind gesture. I guess it must have been difficult to be raised by neither parent
@jitu99 (111)
• India
18 Mar 07
I am really sorry for you man..........
• United States
19 Mar 07
Thank you
@netski_15 (423)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
My condolences to you and your family. Before I go through with my insight on this, do you mind sharing if you're mad with your dad or what? how are you feeling as of the moment? I am sorry, i just wana help you out.
• United States
18 Mar 07
Where do I begin?..... Well, he beat my mom in one of many drunken moments and left her in a puddle of her own blood. I was born 2 1/2 month early because fo this. So, I am a bit mad. My mom promptly divorced him. I allowed him into my life after I was married and about to give birth to my twins ( now 13 ) under the no booze condition. I felt it was important to give my children as many grandparents as possible. I never really gave him a chance looking back. Whenever he was here i always kept myself busy in the kitchen or such. so, I'm feeling a bit guilty about not giving him a chance. But then again... when I was beaten by my stepfather and the state took me away and offered me to my father, he was still busy being a drunken good for nothing selfish man. Whew!! that felt good to say. I like this place becasue I can say things without fear of being judged because you don't know who I am. So thank you in advance to anyone who posts a response.
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@mus3ab (16)
• Jordan
19 Mar 07
am so sorry about ur lost. listen to me: i know it is different to get into such an experience than just to hear about it from a friend or so.. but beleive me, by faith and hope you can live and proceed with ur life with only the nice and good memories about him. its a life that we r living, bad things happens and also good thing happens. and with hope you will do it
@karvin87 (1034)
• India
19 Mar 07
hey , i really feel sorry for you.. very often in life, things doesnt really shape up the way we want...we need to fight certain emotions of our life and walk ahead...i know it is difficult but things really need to be looked from a diff angle. maybe he wants you to now smile when ever u think of him(after all we smile for ppl we love nah!) so just think about wat he would want u to say and do? and u can always tell him...just look up ,close ur eyes and u will definetly feel him...hope u gain strength to fight realities of life.
@toffeenut (163)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
I'm sorry to hear what happened to your dad..
@onlyu2008 (172)
• China
19 Mar 07
I'm sorry to hear that.You should not be too sad.
• India
19 Mar 07
I am sorry to hear this.I know how difficult this must be for you. But you need to let go to go on with your life everybody makes mistakes we must first learn to forgive ourselves then only will we learn to forgive others thats the only way you can deal with this situation, no matter whatever you do you cannot bring him back to life. Yeah sometimes we do say things and do things that we dont mean or latter regret. These are lessons from which life is teaching us to learn . I am sure your dad loves you very much and it will pain him to see you suffering thinking about him. Learn to let go. By letting go totally not only he will be at peace but a sense of peace will engulf you.
@Capndon (337)
• India
19 Mar 07
I think that you should let him go. It looks like you liked it when he was gone & that's not wrong. However you should consider he was also a reason why you are here. Like it or not you owe him one & the way you could give it back to him would be to let him go. Let things of the past not rule your present & your future.
@maxxine (612)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
awwww im sorry to hear bout that but u have to accept what happened for him to move on in his other life.. and for you to mkove on also
• China
19 Mar 07
I have lost loved ones suffering,Iunderstand your feelings.Deathe is life,please done sorrow.If I had felt that the Chinese do not release the feeling depressed,you can leave to their feelings,walk out.Or do something they like to do,following hs relaxed.
• United States
19 Mar 07
I know you must be going through a lot right now. It seems like you have a lot to deal with. I know it will be hard to heal but eventually you will. I will keep you in prayer. Keep your chin up, better days I am sure will be ahead soon I hope.