eldest vs. youngest? who's your bet to be the parent's favorite??

Philippines
March 18, 2007 12:50pm CST
i could actually hardly take my stand coz in the first place i'm neither the eldest nor the youngest.. we are five siblings in the family and to be exact i am the middle child, i've got two older brothers and two younger sisters..and from my own world view, since my parents are always been fair between us all i decided to be neutral on this. yet, ive got friends who have been complaining because their older sister or younger brother always gets the attention and great affection from their parents.. what's your point?? who gets mom and dad's approval most of the time?? does this "favoritism" thing exist in your family? then, how does it feel?? let your voices be heard!!
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5 responses
@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Hi Kena!(",) Quite a nice discussion you started in here.(",) Honestly, we are in the same position. What a coincidence!(",) I'm also the middle child of 5 siblings. I have 2 elder sisters, 1 younger sister and a brother. i really can't determine who is the favorite one but let me give you my sisters and brothers profile and just guess who among us is the favorite. My elder sister is 25 years old already but, during her younger years she has been the favorite because she is the first born after all. Before, during the golden days of my father's family, they used to throw fabulous birthdays for her (1st to 4th birthday)with many cakes because we have a bakery that time. My sister being the eldest has more responsibilities. My other sister on the other hand, is the most adventurous one. She does what she wants to do with her life because of her strong personality. She is given more independence. I have always been protected and given a few responsibilities only but, with little independence as well. I have to live up to the image of my sisters. My brother is the favored one because he is the only son. He is given all his wants most of the time. The youngest is loved by all. She gives joy to the family. She has a little responsibilities and is given what she wants. I think my parents favorite is ALL of us because they love us unconditionally though many times we made mistakes and disobey them. They give all the love and care equally to all of us. They show their love in a way that will suit our different unique personalities.(",) Have a great day!
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• Philippines
23 Mar 07
wow! very well said ate lan! hmmm.. nice meeting your family:) hehe.. i'm with you on that! parents have their own magical way of letting us feel how great their love for us! we just really have to be very sensitive about that so we won't end up accusing them of favoritism... well..Good day and thank you:)
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• Canada
18 Mar 07
I am the youngest, there are 7 in my family, neither the oldest nor I the youngest is my mom's faveorite. My one sister 2nd to last is my mom's favorite, and my dad's faveroite was my sister born right before me (he has passed away now) Being the mother of four kids, I do not know how there can be a favorite, I love all of my kids equally but just in different ways, and each and everyday I can relate to one child better than another, but it varies as to which one on any given day. They are all unique and special kids, whom I love more than life itself. I know though that my baby is definately my baby, and I will definately want to hold on to him longer but not because he is my favorite, but because I it is hard to face the fact that once he grows up and is gone, I will not have any kids at home, and that makes me sad.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
wow!! i almost drop a tear while reading your response mom!(would you mind if i call you that way?) well, your indeed such a proud parent! you deserve all your children.. i hope they will all grow wonderful citizens.. thank mom:)
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@mayenskie (1308)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
There was a time when i was the favorite in the family being the first born. But that was so long ago. There are 5 of us now, and i think my brother and my youngest sister are the ones in the spotlight. My parents are more tolerable and giving to my brother's whim, being the only son he gets what he wants most of the time. The youngest sister of course being the 'baby' of the family have lots of attention. These two siblings of mine can also get away with not helping on any house chores. No, im never jealous over them since i got my fair share of attention when i was young besides i also pamper them myself... they wont stay young forever. I just feel bad that they are rotten spoiled, and i also got my self to blame.ΓΌ
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
hehe..thats ok ate.. i guess its really normal that you sometimes get carried away for having a younger siblings and you just can't get enough of them! thank you for sharing:)
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@shahmeerx (369)
• Pakistan
22 Mar 07
ummm the ungest and no questions to it..........
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@sarapooht (271)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Hi Kena! Actually I'm the youngest child in our family. I have three sisters and a brother. My brother often get jealous of me because my mother buys me neat stuffs and I even used his clothings sometimes because it's big and comfortable for sleeping. When me and my brother fight, my brother is always the one to blame because he is older than me. I feel that my mother and father loves me more than my sisters and my brother but I only feel it. I know that my mother and father loves us equally because they raised us perfectly. My sisters and my brother loves me too. They care about me very much.
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
well, sometimes we used to have a misinterpretation of our parents gestures, but like what you've said, yes, i believe our parents know whats best for us and with that what they think is just enough for our needs would indeed be the best!! Of course we are all here because our parents made us out of love and that simply justifies we are equally and fearfully made out of their love and so we are definitely equally loved by them!!