How to enhance your relationships?
March 19, 2007 6:02am CST
just want to share my thoughts on how we going to do to enhance our relationships.... 1. TRUST is a very important factor in a relationship. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. 2. NO POINTING FINGERS we all look forward to being loved and respected. many people are afraid of losing face. generally when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. this is a start of a war. we should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. if we forgive the others, the others will ignore our mistake too. 3. CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIP? There is saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and deaf husband coz the blind wife cant see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cant hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses, the nightmares begin. 4. PERSONAL PERCEPTION you can never everyone praise you nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. thus, do not be too bothered by other words if our conscience is clear. 5. BE PATIENT think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. broken bones and hurt feelings often cant be repaired. too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. we forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. people make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes.But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. 6. NO OVERPOWERING many relationships fall coz one party tries to overpower another or demands too much.People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and upleasantness. thus it would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectation. 7. RIGHT SPEECH many relationships break off coz of wrong speech. when a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. I hope the above ways can be useful and helpful to us on how we can enhance our relationship....