RESPECT, how do you earn it?
March 19, 2007 7:21am CST
If you are dealing with all sorts of people, in all sorts of ways, home, work, real friends, net friends, social circle, etc, etc, even your girlfriend . . . 1-How do you get them to respect you? 2-What will cause them to loose respect for you? 3-How would you deal with somebody that makes fun of you? 4-If that respect was ever lost, is there anyway to gain it back? I don't know, I alway seem to find people with bad manners & I always tend to fight with those who don't respect me. Is this the right way, or am I doing it wrong?
19 Mar 07
To get people to respect you, one must first respect themselves and treat others how they would like to be treated. The saying goes 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you' People lose repect for others over various things : lying, being hypocritical, selfishness, deceit, attitude etc etc. I tend to move away from people who are lacking in ambition, drive and self-motivation. I can forgive those that lie, because there comes a point in each of our lives when a lie comes into play. I'm not taking big white lies, just the small lies to cover up. If someone makes fun of me, I just laugh back at them. Why give them the satisfaction of knowing that it bothers me. It is that satisfaction that they want - so I might as well deny them that. Some people make fun of others, because of peer pressure, others because they feel good putting people down. If it is my own friends teasing me or making fun of me, I know it is not with bad intention but more so for the comic relief of our group. If it is some random person that does not know me very well - good luck to them, because I have a very sarcastic streak about me ;) Respect can be gained back - it takes time and energy. Depending on the circumstances, it might be gained faster or over a long period of time. Relationships need to be nurtured like plants. Manners are a matter of upbringing and societal views. Some people are blessed with good manners, others are just downright rude and obnoxious. Try to be around people that motivate you, make you smile and have the same ideals as you - that way you avoid the fights and don't let yourslf come down to that poor level.
• Saudi Arabia
21 Mar 07
It'd take more than a discussion 2 resolve this one but let say this: 1) How u get ppl 2 respect u ?? The answer is lenghty but there are general guidelines: -Be yourself (in a smart way) -Show respect to people (it involves many things here) -Stick 2 ur ethics -Read the person b4 choosing the way 2 deal with him, ppl differ. 2) Why they may lose respect 4 u ? Well it is either the way they are, i mean they may have a problem. Or maybe it is something u said or done they misunderstood. It could be several factors honestly. Some might be from them, some might be from u. 3)Somebody making fun of you and how 2 deal with him? There are many ways it depends on his character: u can make fun of him as well that's one way, u can straight tell him to stop and if he is a good person he will, u can also fight and quarrel with him that's another way, u can ignore him as if he doesn't exist. So you choose based on the person's character 4)If respect is lost ?? I am afraid that it is hard to retrieve it back Good post my friend
• United States
19 Mar 07
I think in order to gain respect from people is to show that you respect them. I would say that lying to someone would be a great way for them to loose respect for you. Usually is someone is making fun of someone else, they have a lack of respect for themself. They make themself feel better by lashing out on someone else. I would just ignore it all together if someone makes fun of me. I think that respect can be gained back, but first you have to re-establish trust with that person. It is a long process, but I think it can be done. Why do you even what to hang out with people with bad manners that don't respect you? Move on to positive people. The more positive in your life, the more positive you become.
19 Mar 07
great answer, Thank You! Positive people are very hard to come by these days ma'am. Within every a group of 10, you find at least 8 persons with bad manners. Sometimes, people will disrespect you for the slightest reason of disagreeing with you. The other half will do that just because they don't like you. I don't want to be some stiff, stone cold, uptight person to be respected.