married men as friends

@minty3 (592)
Nigeria
March 19, 2007 9:55am CST
Hey, married men always seem to have a liking for me when i'm single! Is it right to keep them as friends
4 responses
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
19 Mar 07
Reading your discussion, I am not sure if it is a thing of the past or the present. Pardon me for my curiosity. Are you still single? If you are, I think it all depends on yourself whether it is right to keep them as friends. Why do they befriend you? Just for friendship or what? If you are not, I think it also depends on what you think. Why do you want to be friends with the married men. There are not right or wrong. If it is real friendship, why not?
@minty3 (592)
• Nigeria
27 Mar 07
I look forward to getting married soon so that it doesn't look strange anymore. I discovered i've a personality many (mostly married) like to associate with. Initially, i thought i'd a problem until i knew it was a God-given gift and i sincerely would rather leave a positive mark on anyone that comes my way - married or unmarried.
• United States
19 Mar 07
well i guess it would depend. like are they tryin to have a fling with you while they are married? i don't think a wifey would be to happy to know that their husband is hangin out with a girl that he meet while tryint hit on her. like if you were friends for a long time and or knew the guy before he got married then yes keep the friend but i'm not sure how it would look really. you could make a friendship with the wife also. double date or something. but the theres the question of is the guy goin to be eyebalin you at dinner right in front of his wife or when she goes to the bathroom is he goin to be tryin to hook up and all that.
@minty3 (592)
• Nigeria
27 Mar 07
I agree with you. All women will fear a single lady so what's the point befriending her and her husband?
@dpk262006 (56115)
• Delhi, India
2 Apr 07
What is wrong in making a married man your friend. I feel as long as he is sincere and faithful and perform the role of a responsible friend, you can ask them to be your friend. How much trust do you do on them, friendships will depend upon this.
@Abbyey (760)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
Being friends with married men is not BAD. For guys who get married, it doesnt mean he cant have friends anymore, and this is even applicable to married women too. When the man's marrried life is STRONG and SECURE there is no problem being Friends with them because they are EMOTIONALLY COMMITTED TO THEIR WIVES. However, if you know that the man's married life is WEAK and he keeps complaing about his wife or always having problems in his married life... BE CAREFUL. "Liking" in process becomes a DANGER if you get too CLOSE, because there are times when a married man have problems within the marriage and he start to confide with you (this I consider "BAD" because he goes to you in need of a LISTENING EAR and COMFORT which he should not. When a married couple fights, they should speak to each other or be counsel by a professional marriage counselor.) WHY? because the more He confides with you, the more he will get comfortable being with you when he has problems with the his wife. In process, since you are hearing a one-side story and he is your friend, you try to keep him comforted and assuring him that you are listening/understanding him. Later on he will feel that YOU listen more and understand more, the possibility of the "LIKING" changing into a deeper emotion is high. I'm sorry if i got too attached to this topic, its because i have seen this scenario happening to a friend of mine. She got TOO close, Friendship turned into Unfaithfulness, children growing up without a father beside them, after several months she realize that she only DID hear a one-side story and in the end he left her too. I believe that a man who can leave his wife, can leave any other woman who comes in his life because he cannot remain committed. In a relationship such as marriage, i believe that BEFORE marriage both the man and woman should understand what it really means. Thats why it was always mentioned during the ceremony "FOR BETTER or WORST" because marriage life will NEVER be ALL THE WAY BEAUTIFUL there will be STRUGGLES and DOWNFALLS, which both should OVERCOME. I guess im so concern with women getting hurt because of these scenarios. I hope that when you make friends with married men that it will remain in that relationship "FRIENDSHIP". :)thanks