why do children bully other children?

@ESKARENA1 (18304)
March 19, 2007 5:59pm CST
this has often puzzled me, why do children bully others? Do children who bully carry on bullying as adults?
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@nowment (1758)
• United States
21 Mar 07
If a bully isn't taught when he or she is young to correct the behavior then yes they will go on to be a bully as an adult. Some people have stronger personalities and sometimes children with out guidence will learn that their strong personality can get them what they want, if they don't learn to communicate or do not learn from home about manners etc, It is often a child who is either witnessing this type of behavior from a parent, or who is spoiled to the point that they believe they can do anything they want with out consequences. It is something that can be changed or corrected if the child is taught differently in a loving way.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
27 Mar 07
agreed. The home culture is vital. However, i also feel that what goes on in the school yard is of vital importance. If a school refuses to acknowledge that it may have a bullying problem, it is likely nothing will be done and the bully's behaviour becomes re inforced. In my opinion, this is the rout that propagates the problem blessed be
20 Mar 07
if we knew those answers maybe we could stop the bullying and it isn't just in children at work too also there are those that bully, Yes they say most children who are bullied become bullies themselves but let me give you a for instance my grandaughter aged 3 pushed a little playmate off the trampoline at nursery now was it bullying or was it just making a statement 'back off its my turn' in a way she was right but also wrong to be agressive to the other child will she grow up to be a bully? I think with the right standards and understanding no she wont My grandson has been the victim of a few bullies and yes the school deal with it but it still happens. More study into bullying is needed todays school bullies could be tomorrows killers what can we do to stamp it out?
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
27 Mar 07
I see the bullies of yesterday turn in to the killers of today. I honestly feel schools do not do enough to deal with the problem, often contenting themselves with pretending the problem does not exist or blaming the bullied child for it thank you for your response blessed be
• Singapore
20 Mar 07
It is a simple and quite "humorous" reason. Bullies are often the ones with the biggest inferiority complex. They feel inferior and that's the reason they bully people so that the victims will become smaller than them, thus making them feel stronger. Bullying is just so wrong.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
27 Mar 07
yes, of course. You are the first responder to draw out the inferiority complex link. Maybe this is the reason some continue to bully into adulthood. Without significant life events to lift self esteem, bullying may well continue in to adult life blessed be
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 07
I really do not know When my Daughter was at School she suffered a lot of Bullying and it really upset as the poor Child never did any Harm to anyone. It is what they see at home I guess and of course the Parents don't care well that is what I found with the Bullies of my Daughter But actually she is now good Friends with one that used to Bully and she actually apologised to my Girl for doing it.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
27 Mar 07
This seems to happen a lot with those bullies who have the intelligence to recognise the negativity of their actions. I do still wonder about those who never seem to grow out of it, are they mentally deficient? blessed be
• United States
19 Mar 07
im pretty sure kids bully either for attention and feal left out or they like the person they're bullying and want there attention as for bullying when they grow older most dont but some do the ones that dont eventually lear that bullying wont help them in the adult life
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
27 Mar 07
this is a good twist on a reply. I certainly feel males without the requisit social and communication skills will bully females they are trying to talk to. Maybe it is the adult bully who has learning difficulties as they have never learned the requisite skills blessed be
@ironstruck (2300)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
Most bullies have had trouble most of their lives making friends. They are loners and the only way they can get attention is to bully other kids and make a name for themselves. Bullies have serious issues.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
27 Mar 07
this makes a lot of sense to me, i too see the bully as having serious issues. However I am interested in the phenomina largley because schools, in the uk at least, react strangely to it. At my daughter;s school for example, we have recently seen a bullied child excluded, because to exclude the bully would tarnish the school, almost like addmitting the problem is much worse than pretending it doesnt happen. thank you for your response blessed be
@stacyv81 (5906)
• United States
19 Mar 07
Well, I have a few answers to that. Children who are bullied by their parents tend to bully other kids. Or kids who feel odd, like the bigger kid, or someone who feels they might be picked on will pick on or bully, before they get bullied. Also, insecurities, trying to be cool. There are so many reasons for this. Sometimes they will continue to bully their whole life, some it takes a nice old fashioned butt kicking to put them in their place. It all depends. Some who are bullied become bully's in adult life, if they have come to a position of power, and finally feel like they have that power or control, they may use it and start to feel better about their childhood. You'd have to look at the particular situation to see why people do what they do.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
27 Mar 07
certainly i do think if a child comes from a home where bullying is considered normal, then this behaviour is likely to be exhibited in the childs behaviour outside of the home. I was however wondering if any other generalisations can be made, like, do we see bullying as a result of low self esteem? thank you for your response blessed be
@elro77 (190)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
They just want to show they are kids.