Ain't marriages too complicated?

@rekhum (2434)
India
March 19, 2007 7:35pm CST
I tend to see it this way.I'd hardly seen a single couple in my life who are happy most of the time. I am just too confused if its a must that we all have to tie the knot one day or the other.If i am happy being single,why drag myself to the pit of problems and miseries. And why do some parents put pressure on their childrens to marry albeit their childrens' wishes?
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• United States
20 Mar 07
i think it all has to do with what you have seen growing up and the couples that you know. i dont think its a must for everyone to get married. some people are happy being single, and there is nothing wrong with that at all. some people feel like they have to get married in order to be happy, and there is nothing wrong with that either. as i was growing up, my mom and dad fought all the time, big horrible shouting and breaking matches. i was so sure that i would never ever get married. i was going to revolve my life around my career. i knew i didnt want kids either. but then i met my boyfriend when i was 19, and being with him... i felt very differently. i realized that just becuase my parents had a horrible relationship, that didnt mean that i couldnt have a happy one. i am glad to say that we have been together for almost 8 years now, married for 2, and we still have a great relationship. nobody should get married becuase the family is pressuring them to do it. if the person is happy being single, the family should respect that.
@rekhum (2434)
• India
21 Mar 07
Thanks much for your sensible views.
• Canada
20 Mar 07
Well, I'm not going to tell you being married is easy, but for me I have enjoyed each year more than the last (going on 9) I think if you find the right person you'll want to be with them always and marriage kind of makes you work things out rather than run and leave. But I guess with the divorce rates nowadays, marriage to many doesn't mean a whole lot:(
@rekhum (2434)
• India
21 Mar 07
Good for you..I don't know if its the responsibility that bugs a person who doesn't want to marry.
@mnflower (1301)
• United States
20 Mar 07
marriage is not for everyone and just like everything marriage starts with a friendship and is only complicated if you make it that way, if you let the person be themselves and not try to change them and keep the lines of communication open and honest marriage really isn't bad, but if your happy not settled and single so be it.stay that way...noone says you have to marry there are alot just living together these days which to me is the same thing except the paper isn't signed so I don't see why you should get married.
@rekhum (2434)
• India
20 Mar 07
Beautiful. And i appreciate the fact that you don't try to initiate changes in your partners. I get pretty irritated when my partner tells me what to do and what not to do,what to eat and and what not to eat,and all. I think we all are created uniquely and that we should live it that way.