Don't forget to remember!!!!

@shelagh77 (3643)
March 19, 2007 8:16pm CST
I have read an interesting article which says that you should never tell somebody "Don't forget". Apparently the way that messages are coded in the brain the brain picks up the "forget" and promptly does so lol. If you say "Remember to" the brain latches on to that and you are more likely to get a positive result. Does this bear our your experience?
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@rainbow (6763)
20 Mar 07
This is true, I used to have a don't forget board and never remembered anything, now I just magnes messages to a little board and it works much better. Don't forget souds negative and that is probably why saying it doesn't work, lol. I cannot rembmer all the things I've forgotten in this way so it's hard to be sure, haha.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
30 Mar 07
Yup, memory can be a real pain at times. Lack of memory can be an even bigger pain. Between the selective hearing and selective memory it is surprising anyone ever remembers anything lol.
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
20 Mar 07
Oh I do not believe that this would apply to me as I always do remember something that is special to me or has a special meaning and so I understand what you are saying and some people probably would not register this correctly in their brain, and only remember to forget and then it is forgotten.
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@shelagh77 (3643)
30 Mar 07
Lucky you to have a good memory. I have to write everything down or it is gone. Strange thing is I can write a book and remember every detail of the character. Ask me who phoned an hour ago and I have to consult my note pad.
@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Does that go along the lines of when I tell my hubby to remind me of something he does it right after I tell him what it is I want to be reminded of????????
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@shelagh77 (3643)
30 Mar 07
Yup, "forget" goes double for men. They have selective hearing anyway and the word forget makes them do just that!
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
20 Mar 07
What an intersting finding! That actually makes perfectly good sense. I am trying to think about the last few times that I have said either of those phrases. I did say to my daughter "don't forget to lock the front door when you leave" and of course she did forget. Hmmmm. I can't remember when I last said, "remember to..." But you can bet that I will phrase it like that from now on!!! Thanks for an interesting and refreshing post! I rated it a positive!
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
30 Mar 07
teehee thats a good thing she, you just solved a problem, i had for long time with my son. he always keeps forgetting something, i was worried the next would be himself. but now i try to remember him and i hope this helps, thank you my friend for this helpful tipp :-)
@shelagh77 (3643)
31 Mar 07
Let me know how you get on Marlyse :-) Also remember to tell him to "don't forget" he hates shopping lololol.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar 07
Ok if I would have seen this before I came to see you yesterday I would have asked you if you are trying to confuse me. As you have confused me on this one but then you know it is not hard for me. Love and Hugs
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@shelagh77 (3643)
30 Mar 07
Ah well, by now you will have forgotten all about it lol.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
21 Mar 07
this one I will have to remeber lol I have put my vac papers some where and it is geting close to time to take it in for maintance no one remebers what Happened to them lol
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@shelagh77 (3643)
30 Mar 07
I am getting better at that one. I have a lilac concertina file and all papers such as that go into it, hopefully under the right initial letter and most of the time they can be found. The times when they can't, well, that's when the arguments start . . .
@1983tyler (508)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I've never thought about it before. But now I'll have to make a point of saying remember instead of forget. Thanks. lol
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@shelagh77 (3643)
30 Mar 07
Yup, especially if you want to make sure it gets done! I hope it works as well for you as it did in research.